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   Posted 12/2/2009 1:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Good Wednesday to you! If you are new to the Koffee Klatch then welcome. Everyone is welcome to join in the conversation. The only rule we have in here is we are not allowed to mention the 'P' The 'P' stands for pain..sssshhhhh This is a time for some laughs, giggles and even a bit of insight. That's where we're going today.

What kinds of values do you think your parents instilled in you? Did they use particular phrases to guide you toward the types of person you are now? Or maybe it was a grandparent or other relative or friend who most influenced your formative years.

For me it was mostly my dad. He and I were buddies. He was firm yet loving and I respected him for that. Dad was the model I followed in my life of trying to help others. Dad taught vocational agriculture and had the FFA program at our school. But he always was doing way more than the bare essentials for his students. He often was a father to young men who either had no father figure in their life. They loved and respected him and his values. As I grew up and went through high school I was always volunteering....still do, obviously. I will always be grateful to him for passing on the love of helping and sharing with others.

How did your parents influence the person that you are today?
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   Posted 12/2/2009 4:13 AM (GMT -6)   
I credit my Dad for the way I am with my children, though his influence was negative. I do not have one memory of my father ever initiating a hug or telling me that he loves me or that he was ever proud of anything I ever did or any father/son talks and I vowed to never be like that with my kids.

I have 2 kids, both boys. One who is 19 and the other is 4. I have made it a point to tell and show my kids that I love them and have lots of father/son talks which are sometimes serious and sometimes just for fun. I look for things to praise them for and encourage and teach them how to do better when they fall short.
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   Posted 12/2/2009 6:26 AM (GMT -6)   
I to Credit my Dad for the way I am. I vowed never to be like him in most respects. My father always told me and my sister that we should never get into trouble or be bad, because it would reflect on him and make him look bad, and his job was important and that would not be good if we made him look bad! It was the same as to why we should always do things that would make him look good to others! He rarely praised any thing I did. I stressed to my daughters the whole time they were growing up to do the best they could in what ever they chose to do, not to please me and there mom but to do it for themselves! To be successful! And as adults they are! As a side note my father was an alcoholic I vowed I would never be that either, I will drink a glass of wine now and then, but the last time I was ever even tipsy on liquor I was 20 years old and in the military stationed in Taiwan! My Father taught me well!

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   Posted 12/2/2009 8:20 AM (GMT -6)   
When my older brother was a teenager he and a friend got arrested for stealing gas from another car. My mother packed up all us younger kids and took us to the jail to see my brother. I'm sure it was embarrasing for him that his younger siblings saw him there and it scared the crap out of me to see him there. Anyway, he never got into trouble again and I knew I never wanted to be in jail either.
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   Posted 12/2/2009 9:34 AM (GMT -6)   
     WOW!....this could bring up some bad memorys for childhood was not great either, abused, put down all the time, foster home after foster home, and some of those abusive, adopted...and struggled with that too! But I have to say that there were a few members in my church and a few neighbors who really affected who I'am today...I don't really think anyone person with the expection of my own personal relationship with Christ....and that is an on going process. I have a couple friends today that continue to make me think about myself...and if I could adopt some of their ways to better myself....pretty much a mixed bag for me!
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