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   Posted 12/15/2009 2:23 AM (GMT -6)   
This time of year is party season. Maybe your only party is on Christmas day; many attend office sponsored parties; friends and family have seasonal get-togethers; often there are special parties and services at your church. Whatever kind of celebration you might attend, what is your party etiquette?

Do you arrive on time? early? or fashionably late?? Why?? If going to a friend's house do you always bring something even if the hostess said no need to? What do you bring? Food, a hostess gift? or just your appetite?... smhair What are your thoughts on this even if you rarely go to parties?

I'm one of those who is particular about manors and timeliness. Be on time! No late arrivals and only early if it's OK with the hostess. I can not, nor will not, go empty handed. Just not in me. If bringing food isn't an option then flowers are my next choice.

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   Posted 12/15/2009 5:26 AM (GMT -6)   
I do not like arriving any where late! ( I guess it is my military back ground) If it is a party or get together at a church or some facility then I might get there a little early, if it is at a private house then I try to be right on time! I too agree with bringing something, if appropriate I like bringing a good bottle of wine. If not then, food, or flowers or something like that! I also do not like staying to long and being the last one leaving! My very soon to be ex was alway great for arriving late and staying late! I runs in her family and it drives me nuts! Even at church on Sunday comes in late and is the last one to leave! Family doings and get togethers and we always had to wait on members of her family to arrive! No excuse for that as I see it!

Chutzie You picked a subject that is clearly a thorn in my side!

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   Posted 12/15/2009 6:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I rarely go to any parties, but like White Beard I try to arrive on time if at a friend's house. If at a family member's place or some "public" facility I like to arrive a bit early and offer my assistance. The only time I ever stay late is if I am needed to help clean up, then otherwise I tend to leave a bit early.

As far as bringing anything I always ask and offer to bring something. Since most people who know me consider me a better than average cook, and my baked beans and deviled eggs are highly regarded, it is rare that I am not asked to make one or both.
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   Posted 12/15/2009 7:34 AM (GMT -6)   

I love to give parties more then go to partiestongue .....but...I always arrive on time, with a gift in hand for the hostess.   I wear out quickly so I plan pain med schedule so I can enjoy at least a few hours!!!

Most parties I get invited to these days are potlucks.  I make something that goes with the party theme.


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   Posted 12/15/2009 10:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Okay, okay I'm the thorn WB's side cause I'm always about 5-10 min late. I don't mean to be and usually try not to be but just seems to work out that way. I'm not always the last to leave though because of the reason of pain etc. I'm a Catholic and I have told my husband and girls that when I die that they should set the time for the funeral mass and when it is say 2:00 o'clock please don't come down the isle until 2:10 cause I'm usually about 10 minutes late and I tell folks I'll be late for my own funeral.

I usually take something to a gathering food, flowers, drink except to my kids and they usually don't bring to my home but we do help each other with putting it on or cleaning it up.

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   Posted 12/15/2009 10:50 AM (GMT -6)   
I try to be on time, but I usually end up being early. I always get so paranoid that I'm going to be late that I leave way too early.


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   Posted 12/15/2009 11:44 AM (GMT -6)   
    I will make this short and sweet! White Beard, you and I are two peas in a pod my friend! :)

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   Posted 12/15/2009 11:53 AM (GMT -6)   
I tend to have a lot of parties. I have one this saturday. It is so nice when people bring a food or drink item with them. most of the time I call close family members and ask will you bring "X".. I make sure its not too difficult or expensive. I like when people arrive on time, and leave on time! LOL!

I have a few family members who dont know when to say when and stay till all hours at night. I think that is rude. At least to me because I am sick and in pain and it is time for bed. I have learned I just go to bed when its needed otherwise I am no good to anyone.

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