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deb in indiana
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   Posted 1/19/2010 11:58 PM (GMT -6)   
So sorry Marlee my brother just went to hospice yesterday  he is 62 with cancer theysaid maybe 2 weeks at the most lots of thoughts and prayers your way Deb

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   Posted 1/20/2010 1:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Deb,

I'm sorry to hear about your brother. He's still so young and it does hurt to lose a family member, especially a sibling. I'll say extra prayers for you, your brother and your family. My dad had in home hospice and it was so much nicer than him being in an institution. None of us were very skilled at what to do but the Hospice nurses and other people who work with the family were so wonderful. The one thing I will always remember with my dad...he was that he seemed to keep on struggling and dragging on longer than any of us expected. In the man time the prostate cancer that was destroying his body was causing more and more pain. We were at the point of praying he would go quickly since the pain was so bad.

One day when the hospice nurse was there she said we each needed to give dad permission to let go and reassure him that we would take care of mom...since that was what he worried about. So over that day each of us, at some point,told him that. He did seem to relax and it was about another 48 hours and he was gone...very peacefully. Hospice people are amazing!

Warm hugs,
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   Posted 1/20/2010 2:14 AM (GMT -6)   

I to and so sorry hear about your brother! In 1990 I lost my mother to cancer she had just turned 62 a few months before she died! She died at home under Hospice care. I was so impressed with Hospice and the way they took care of my mother! In fact it was the Hospice nurses and their care that made me decide to go into Nursing when I retired from the Air Force a year later. After I retired I worked as a nurse extern on an Oncology unit while I was in nursing school, and after graduated and I got my RN license I worked on the same Onco unit as an RN. Many times some of the hospice patients would come up to our unit when the family needed a small break from the situation, or if it was decided that the patient was not to die at home, which there was a few like that, especially if there was young children in the home! But even when they were on our unit Hospice was in charge of their care, and it was the very BEST!!

But please know Deb, Hospice Nurses really are the angels of the nursing field and there just is no better caring, compassionate nurses anywhere! With Hospice Care your brother will get the best and finest treatment available! Their treatment is Palative and they will make sure he is comfortable, and their care and treatment extends to the entire family that is there!

Deb I know how difficult this is for you and I give you and all your family my deepest and warmest reguards! May Gods Peace be with you all!!

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   Posted 1/20/2010 4:12 AM (GMT -6)   
I echo the condolences about your brother already expressed and to say that I also must echo what others have said in regards to hospice.
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