I have a wonderfully supportive mother who also suffers from pain/surgery issues with her back. My older brother...not one bit of support..he doesn't have a drop of emphathy in his body...I love him dearly and accept that in him..I go elsewhere for support and just don't mention it when I see him/talk..
The reason I am so happy to have found you all, is that I really never talk to my mom about
when I am hurting because I just don't want her to be worrying about
me as she would do. She is retired and not in great health so I don't like her having anything negative in her life if I can help it.
We do talk everyday by phone and chat about
politics, tv shows, etc...and laugh everyday together...
I have amazing friends in my apt. complex who help walk my dog if I'm having a bad day...and loving friends from my church who love and care for me and even though they don't suffer chronic pain..they do empathize.
Like White Beard...my ex husband...partly why he is an ex...could care less when I was in pain..didn't think twice about
it...The last straw was I fell down the stairs a month after my last surgery..and he barely blinked and left for a weekend golf party at our friends..
It's so great that some of you have such great spouses...and hope that those whos family/friends are not supportive...keep coming here for us to show you some love!!!
**Just wanted to add that I have also learned that pain is 'relative' and to not forget to ask my friends how they are doing..twisted ankle, having really bad flu, sore elbow, etc...that even though I have chronic pain, that I don't compare myself to them or think.."gee..I am so much worse than them"..I want to offer my support for what is hurting them too and to them..it's a huge deal and lots of pain...
SB and "the pup who snores loudly"
ACDF C5-C7, (no hardware), with autograft bone Nov. 2001
(reabsorption of bone 2 years later...still lost in body..expect to burp it out at anytime..haha"))
ACDF with hardware, allograft bone Nov. 2005
Anterior and Posterior CDF, allograft bone with BMP, removal of old hardware, use of titanium plates, rods, screws, & kitchen sink (lol) Dec 2006
PM since 2006
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