Maybe it's none of my business, but if you feel it's ok to post, then I'm going to assume it's ok for me to say what I feel needs to be said. I was once in a relationship that was very verbally abusive which later turned into physical abuse. I'm not saying that will happen to you, but as it is my experience, I can imagine your husband has probably at least slammed his hand down on the table scaring you to pieces or dropping you off at this place or that then you have to wait for him to come back and get you? Or maybe he really doesn't think you need to go anywhere, maybe not even to work. I'm no expert, but again this is only from my experience. But Cat, this thing about
your meds is down right concerning! You aren't allowed to get what you need when you need it? I'm going to say this before I go any further; I'm no better than anyone else and I'm not perfect nor is my husband, but we have a good marriage. My husband gets my meds out when I ask him too. I have all my meds in a lock box that is very heavy so, he get's to help me a lot! If I say, "I can't sleep, will you give me another"...whatever I decide to get and he gets it. I allow him to help me get my meds, but he sure doesn't ask me about
any of my meds, whether I'm taking them or not and he has believed I was sick from day one. No questions except the most important one which is, "What can I do for you." I'm saying all this because I'm concerned that being in so much pain, you've just given him complete control of everything! Maybe the truth of the matter is that he spent "X" amount of years not believing you which controlled your every thought about
who you are, to "believeing you" (I think he may have always known) and taking over your medications is nothing short of taking over when you hurt, when you don't...taking over your very life! Be careful with everything please. In my relationship many years before my husband now, I was taking meds for migraines and he would keep it from me until it took me tons of meds to get the pain calmed down and he wouldn't "allow" me to have them!! So, as long as I stayed in pain, he could control me or make me do what he said when he said it. I would say to everyone here, this is just my opinion and you don't have to pay any attention. I don't know anything more than what you've told us about
your husband. If everyone of us just maintained control over our illnesses, (and that includes me not taking care of my illnesses through getting a new pm group) we would maintain the power and control that chronic pain and other illnesses strip from us! Let's all take care of ourselves and our illnesses! We can make it through this somehow!
DXed-Syringomyelia C-1 to T-1, Hypothyroidism, Diabetes Type II, Adhesive Capsulitis "aka" Frozen Shoulder, IBS, Panic Disorder, ICC (Interstitial Cystitis), Fibromyalgia, Migraines, Bipolar Disorder, Panic Disorder
Too many meds to name/Too many allergic reactions/sensitivities to too many drugs to name. Meds for Panic Disorder, Pain, Bipolar, IBS, Hypothroidism, Diabetes, Insomnia and then some.