Affects of long term Chronic Pain

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   Posted 3/23/2010 3:09 PM (GMT -6)   

I am new here on the advice of a counselor I just started seeing. I have TMJ disorder witch is a jaw problem. I dwelt with Chronic pain for about 10 years because of it from the age of about 12 to 22 when after a surgery and lots of chiropractic work I finely didn't hurt every single day. I am however apparently still dealing with the mental affects of the pain and have been in a deep depression for several years now made worse by the fact the I finely was able to finish collage and now can't find a job in my field of solar/green energy. My counselor said chronic pain causes you to get stuck in this loop of hopelessness and I think she is right because I feel like nothing I can do will make a difference and I am just screwed.

I thought I was done dealing with my chronic pain and now I find out that even after its gone I still have to deal with the affects of it. I thought I won but now I feel like I just had to go into a 4 year overtime and didn't know it.

shakehead I'm not sure what I hope to get out of posting here but maybe someone else has had to deal with this too and can tell my I'm not crazy at least.

Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 3/23/2010 4:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Altara,

Welome to the forums. I think it's great that you've found us...even if you're no longer experiencing the pain anymore, it has obviously impacted your life in other unseen ways.

I understand what you mean when you say you're stuck in a loop of often can feel that way when you wake up every morning in pain, and it never goes away. It's possible to feel like that's all you have to look forward to in life...but you've been given a wonderful gift, in that your pain is gone and you no longer have to feel "trapped" by it.

If you are still feeling hopeless, I would suggest you do the following exercise: take a piece of lined paper...on one side, write down all the things that your pain prevented you from doing. On the other page, write down all the things that being pain free can mean for you.

Sometimes, seeing all the good things about being pain free written down make it more tangible. I'm sure you'll find your second list to be much bigger than the first one. After you've done this and you've had time to reflect on what being pain free means, ask yourself what the three biggest things are that you want to accomplish that you couldn't do before. The more you get your mind thinking about positive things, the more your general mind set will change.

You say you feel that nothing you can do will make a difference, but I'm going to challenge that. Are you physically able to volunteer somewhere, doing something you love (and don't put obstacles in the way like lack of transportation or lack of money...I'm just asking if you are pysically able to volunteer)? If the answer is yes, then you are making a difference.

Start thinking about the things that make you grateful. Start thinking about the physical things you couldn't do before, but you are able to do now. The more you move your thoughts to the positive side, the better you're going to feel.

As for your job...perhaps you can't find a position that uses the skills you've just mastered at school...but that doesn't mean you can't find a job doing "something" you enjoy. Go out there with the attitude that the world is your oyster, and you'll be surprised at what you can do.

All my best to you...

Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pelvic Pain, FAI, Reynauds, IBS, Interstitial Cystitis, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (Surgical Menopause and drug related), plus physically unable to vomit due to Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins...a joy for blood work or IV's)
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   Posted 3/23/2010 7:20 PM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to the board here. I think you'll find lots of support and encouragement here... I'm sorry to hear all that you are going through, though.

I can't say that I can completely relate, only because I'm still in the midst of dealing w/ chronic pain.... I've had migraines since my first baby (in ' 15 years); but major chronic pain issues for the last 7 years.

However, your feelings make a lot of sense... and, trust me, you aren't "crazy" by any means :) But I definitely know how it feels to "feel" that way...

Pam (MsBunky) had more "good advice" than I could ever give... and I'm sure others will be along to support you. But I just wanted to welcome you to the board... and encourage you to keep posting whenever you feel like it...or need support.

Take good care... Tina
Main Health Problems: Dysautonomia/POTS; CFS/Fibromyalgia; Severe Hypertension; Hypothyroidism; Hypoadrenalism; Mixed (Obstructive/Central) Sleep Apnea - on Auto BiPap; Depression/Anxiety; Severe Vitamin D Deficiency

Pain Issues: Cervical/Thoracic back pain; migraines; carpal tunnel syndrome; widespread joint/muscle pain, nerve pain in hands/arms/feet; Future Plans: Intrathecal Pain Pump; already completed trial (Sept, 2008); awaiting my decision for implantation

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