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   Posted 4/7/2010 12:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you prefer talking on the phone or online and why? Obviously we all like online conversation or we wouldn't be here. But in general do you prefer chatting on the phone with someone or online communication.

Even before the internet and email I didn't like phone calls and I still don't. Just a quirk of mine but every time the phone rings someone either wants/needs something of me or someone has an emergency and I have to bail them out. Rarely does someone call just to visit and that one person who does is a cousin who calls about once a year from 2 states away. She happens to have fibromyalgia too but neither of us know the other had it until last year. My daughter calls but with her I can lay the phone down, make a cup of coffee, change the oil filter in my truck, and bake a batch of chocolate chip cookies and then return to the phone and she never knew I was She calls and goes on about the same things over and over and always complains. Yep, for the most part I hate it when the phone rings. There are days when it rings and I yell at the darn thing! No kidding! tongue

Online I do fine but I do dislike the problems that it can cause since you can't see the other persons' face or body language. That can cause misunderstandings but in the long run I'll type my talk rather than listen to it.

How about you? Do you prefer the phone or online chatting?
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   Posted 4/7/2010 4:38 AM (GMT -6)   
I think I prefer online communication overall, mostly because I can read and respond when it's convenient or a "good time" (meaning my brain is at least half awake LOL) for me. I do enjoy talking to a few certain people on the phone, but it always seems our schedules are off. Most of them are working and have very little time for chatting anyway, and it always seems the call comes just as I'm sitting down to eat something, or take a nap, or something along those lines.

That being said, I'd miss it if I couldn't have some nice conversations with certain family and friends on the phone, and if I'm feeling relatively good I do enjoy in-person communication, especially just sitting over a cup of coffee.

I agree with you Chutz, that online communication can cause some problems and misunderstandings because all the non-verbals are lost, and you can't even hear the vocal inflections.


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   Posted 4/7/2010 5:22 AM (GMT -6)   
I like talking on the phone, but not for hours at a time. Some of my family members are talkers! I am a talker too, but only occasionally.

I like to have short conversations with people on the phone. Unfortunately, I can't tell everyone that, so sometimes I just don't pick up the phone. :) If only I could say: "Call me everyday to say high, but please don't talk for two hours!" I'm kidding:)

I agree. It is hard sometimes online. It took me years to start posting because I was worried about safety.

I'd pick both though. I do enjoy both.


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   Posted 4/7/2010 6:40 AM (GMT -6)   
I have to say my new favorite thing is Skype! To be able to now SEE while I talk to my wonderful nieces/nephew and great nieces/ well as my other family members and friends scattered around the US....And all this for FREE anytime I want...Love it:)

We spend hours all snuggled up in jammies chatting since no one cares what they look like..haha...

It's about as close to the real thing...

To me..the phone and sometimes internet can get 'lost in translation' since you can't see someone's expression which makes a huge difference..

I do like texting to all my youth group kids from my church (most are college now and beyond) as that is their preferred form of communication..that and Facebook and Tweeting:)'s fun each day and easy to send a 2 second text to say I am thinking about them...or hear about what is going on with them...

But of course I love this board..where there is already a realm of understanding and caring to begin that brings compassion to the mix which makes this venue a bit easier than just regular email and well as feeling cared for when I am here..

I do talk with my mom each day..(she doesn't have a computer)...and boy..we can get talking for hours about everything from news, politics, tv shows, name it...we have worked extremely hard over the years to have our relationship be a loving and caring and enjoyable one...There were times in my teens and 20's when we didn't talk and things were horrible growing up...But time/patience/forgiveness and for us, God, helped mend this..

Sorry..went off on that good tangent..haha...

So..I actually have "Skype time" with one of my Nieces out West and her kiddies tonight:):)

Great post Chutz:)

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   Posted 4/7/2010 7:10 AM (GMT -6)   
I like all forms of and texting are great BUT when there is an issue, voice to voice is best, tones in email or texting can be taken wrong....voice to voice you can stop it before its misinterpreted!

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   Posted 4/7/2010 7:43 AM (GMT -6)   
I have learned to love online communication  , especially at HW  . I have made incredibly close and intimate friendships with several people here .There is something about writing that allows you to open up in a way you generally don't face to face . Maybe theres less pressure , I always think of the days when there was only mail and not that reliable either , how spouses, lovers and friends would wait and long for that life line letter from their sweetheart or family member , I basically fell back in love with my high school sweetheart texting  . So my vote is typing chat room style or texting , I thimk of Catz , Tina , Stacey and cat 8201 and they are my sisters as sure as anything to me  I met the first girl I lived with on facebook , we were 19 yrs old . lived together for 2 years I hadn't seen her in 32 years , shes been married for 30 years with 4 great kids .Married the next guy after me , we e-mail each other every day and have the greateset friendship .Its wonderful !!!

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   Posted 4/7/2010 10:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I tend to prefer online communication, mostly because I am on the phone all day at work, solving crisis after crisis, and when I get home, I just don't want to talk to people. Generally, I screen my calls or Ray answers the phone. Even when I'm here, he'll take a message for me, and I can decide when to call back. Sometimes it's within seconds and sometimes longer.

I think I communicate well with the written word, so online seems to be better for me. I feel more in control of who I chat with and when. There are definitely times though when I just shut the door to all communication, just to totally unwind.

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   Posted 4/7/2010 10:45 AM (GMT -6)   
I've been a phone girl all my life. I do like chatting online (IM more than e-mail), but I really like to hear someone's voice. Well... honestly, I'd prefer face to face, but I live 1000 miles from family, and I have friends all over the country. F2F just isn't going to happen.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   
I like online communication better but I do call my mom daily cause we live so far apart and I call my friend also every few days cause she dont have a computer. It is good I use online communication cause that is how I met my hubby was online.
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   Posted 4/7/2010 4:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I used to hate talking on the phone, because I find it kind of disconcerting not being able to see the person I'm talking to, but now it doesn't bother me so much. I still prefer the internet (for most things), I generally only talk on the phone to my parents or clients when I'm at work. If I can, I even email my doctors -- unless it is something really important.


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   Posted 4/7/2010 4:49 PM (GMT -6)   
I much prefer the email system for chatting. i am not a big talker on the phone and never have been. Tallking for long periods of time certainly don't help my headaches so I guess that's why i stay away from it. The one thing email is not good for is expressing one's feelings because the other person can take it in the wrong context and feelings are hurt. These instances should be done on the phone or face to face.
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