Posted 4/12/2010 4:16 PM (GMT -7)
Many of you may have noticed the thread containing the mysterious email has been deleted.
I had asked Chutz to remove it in whole, because it was just drawing too many views and I felt it was distracting for the good of this forum.
When we see well over 300 views in less than 24hr period, our concern is that a great many of those views may be visitors.
I did ask Chutz, if I could make a few comments on my own here, and then I wish this to be deleted as well, in the near future, if she feels the need to.
First, I wanted to thank all of the members, who showed support and wrote positive comments on it. I want to make it clear, that I Thank everyone!...who commented, and that there will be no discrimination on my part on this.
I just want to share some of my feelings, and then I will let it go, and hopefully we will, all move on.
First, I'm reminded of a heated discussion my Boss had with a fellow employee. This was the quote I will never forget, and came from my Boss to the employee "I have to show you respect, but I don't have to Love you"
It's interesting that the same thing applies here on this forum.
We don’t have to love each other, but we are required to follow some simple rules, so that we may all enjoy the privileges, with out worry.
Yes, I said that being a member is really a privilege, and we should all remember this, and that it can be revoked at anytime as stated in the rules and guidelines.
Also, if you have a problem, and need some help, please use what we call the chain of command or those tools set forth by the Admin. I think most all of the Mod’s have emails whereby you may contact them for help or to voice a concern.
We have great Moderators here, and they have done a great job in policing the forum, and or offering level headed guidance and help to members here.
Lets also keep in mind that these Moderators also suffer from health problems and watch over several other forums here on Healing Well, and they also have families and jobs as well.
Please be very careful on how we approach new members. I’m sure many of them are going to slip up and use the wrong terminology, and like Chutz said, many will not seek out the rules first. They usually come here hurting, and have been beaten up emotionally with loneliness. They may show signs of fear, sadness, and even anger. Guide them as if they were your own children. If they slip up and make a mistake, check to see that your correction is just that, and not viewed as rejection.
I hope that the current members who have been posting, will continue to do so, just as they have done in the past, and that those veteran members with a wealth of knowledge will continue to share as well. The veteran members are looked upon as the backbone of our forum.
Yes, I know we won’t all see eye to eye, but before you post a reply with a different perspective or opinion, insert your name in place of the intended recipient, and see how it sounds to you. If you would not like being on the receiving end of your own ridicule, then it is probably safe to say the comment will not be well received by the recipient either.
Lets get back to what this forum is all about, which is, supporting those in need, providing a warm safe place (Quote from Chutz).
Support comes in many forms, and I’m not sure what the guidelines are on this. Some feel that we get away from the core thought and should keep our conversation to the point. I really don’t know, and maybe we need to look to our Moderators for guidance. I myself tend to think that a little fun never hurts anything. Sure we may slip off the road every once in a while, but usually the mornings, resets our mindset, and were back on track.
Ok, now here is my favor to ask the membership!
Lets work as a team to keep focused, and support one another without offending one another. Follow the rules set forth, and use the chain of command when we have a problem.
I’m also going to ask the membership not to respond to this post, as it is my personal response and only food for thought. It has not been my intent to offend anyone here, and I hope we can all go on from here. I wrote it in what I thought was a positive light, and wish to leave it that way.
DDD (Degenerative Disk Disease) S1-L4-L5, Heart Attack 2002, Angioplasty to clear blocked Artery and to implant Stent. Six Epidurals, Disocgram, Melanoma Cancer 07, Lumbar Fusion March of 2010, Four cortisone injections Tendinitis in Elbow.