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   Posted 5/17/2010 9:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone!!!! I was wondering how people manage their chores and things that need to get done around the house. How do you cook, clean, do laundry, make dinner, clean the house, pay bills, go to the grocery store, go to the bank, etc. I can hardly work four days a week and then I am exhausted and often times in WAY too much pain to do anything else. The house is often times a mess and I just can't quite justify getting a housekeeper. It's hard to make my husband do all of the work because he works a LOT outside of the house. How do you manage your other responsibilities?

Hope everyone is doing well.


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   Posted 5/17/2010 10:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I am blessed with a wonderful husband that does all he can to help, but other than that, I just have to figure out what is more important, and spread them out during my days. I am lucky enough to not be working right now and I have a 12 year old that even though he acts like it is just killing him to help (LOL) he does help me around the house. I cannot lift over 10 pounds and have to walk with the assistance of a cane or a walker. When I was working, there were times that things that could be put off got put off, but now I can take each day at a time. I hope you are able to figure out what is easiest and best for you.
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   Posted 5/17/2010 10:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Stephanie, most of this falls on me to do or it doesn't get done. I have learned to do anything I have to pace myself and I will do only so much each day, otherwise if I try to tackle it all on one day I am just setting myself up for failure. One thing I have to do daily is vacumn downstairs because my dogs are indoors and I cannot stand dog hair inside the house. I will pick one day to do laundry and then add a smaller job to it. I never do two big jobs in one day, that too much.

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   Posted 5/17/2010 11:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Stephanie:
In addition to pacing myself as Straydog suggested, I find that I have to adjust the way I do what I do, for example, I sit on a stool when I cook or do dishes, and on a step-stool to clean the bathrooms.  I also think it is important to ask for the help you need - I am often guilty of thinking that my family must see what needs to be done, just like I do, but the fact of the matter is, they don't. 
I think that accepting and adjusting to my limitations is one of the hardest parts of living with CP, and it is an on-going struggle. 
Hang in there,

White Beard
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   Posted 5/18/2010 12:11 AM (GMT -6)   

Cleaning the house and doing the house hold chores is extremely difficult, at least for me! Allot of the things I could not do, and my wife did them, but now that we are divorced I find I am force to to have to find ways of getting all those things done! I still live in our house and it is up for sale so it has to be presentable all the time, as I never know when someone is going to want to look at it! I must admit there are allot of times when I pay the piper royally for my work, doing these chores. But they have to be done! And there is no one else left to do them. but me! Also I am not a neat or clean freak, but I do like a fairly clean and neat looking house, or at least as good as I can make it, I guess that is the Military part in me! Anyway I guess, that I do like most of the rest of us do, I suck-it-up and grin and bare it, and get the house cleaning done! Then I am miserable for several days and I just can't do anything! After I start recovering and I start feeling half way good again, I then start the cycle all over again!

The hardest thing for me to do, is standing at the sink and washing dishes, I have a hard time doing things with my arms out in front of me, and I just can not stand up straight and I have to lean forward. Dishes and folding laundry are very difficult, it kills my lower and mid back and causes spasms in my arms and hands! The other bad thing is doing the bathroom and kitchen floor. But that is one thing that has to be really clean! I don't have a problem with vacuuming, I have a vacuum cleaner with a power assist, and it makes it easy to push back and forth!

Anyway Stephanie it looks from these post that you are definitely not alone!

White Beard

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   Posted 5/18/2010 2:07 AM (GMT -6)   
i just do it no matter how i fill hubby doesn't get no help from him like White Beard says grin and bear it suck it up and do it DEB

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   Posted 5/18/2010 9:42 AM (GMT -6)   
I too am blessed with a wonderful husband who has pretty much always run the house and taken care of cleaning and cooking throughout our relationship (together for 16 years, married for 9 years). Ray takes care of laundry, dishes, vacuuming and most general household tasks. I generally am only in the kitchen to bake.

We're both pretty casual about stuff...who cares if you step on our carpets with your shoes on . Let me hang your stuff, while you come in and get comfy;

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   Posted 5/18/2010 1:15 PM (GMT -6)   
For me, a lot of things just don't get done anymore. Sad to say....but it's the best I can do. I am embarrassed to have people stop in because of it, but it is what it is.


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   Posted 5/18/2010 1:18 PM (GMT -6)   
~~> How do you cook, clean, do laundry, make dinner, clean the house, pay bills, go to the grocery store, go to the bank, etc.
  Im no sure you want the answer to that, but here goes.....
   Dear Stephanie,
     I will tell you but first I want you to know it took about 6 months to fully set up and impliment. With that being said here goes...
      A few years ago I had no choice but to change everything about who I was and how I lived. This is how I changed my environment~~>
      Dinning room ~ Large shelving unit for large pots and cookers (taken from kitchen lower cubbards). Refrence and school books on top four shelves of 2 large shelving units. Childrens "coloring activity" books on bottom 3 shelves.
      Kitchen ~ All remaining pots and pans put up in middle shelves. All glassware and dishes on middle cubbards as well. Holiday special occasion dishware et al, on top shelves. Childrens plastic cups, silly straws, bottled waters, lunch boxes and anything the kidds use on bottom shelves. Kitchen Island put on heavy duty wheels to be easily moved. All stools cut down to "hip hight" so I could cook comfortably. All cooking "aids" organized in Island. IE Measuring cups, hot pads, ziploc bags, vitamines, spices and oils (all "small helper items").  Small kitchenette setting of small round table and two chairs with each chair having heavy duty padding (pretty way to have an "OMG it hurts" place to sit). Pantry re done with shelving unit. All shopping is done in bulk. With assistance. All items bought are broken down in to easy to manage sizes IE: Rice split into 4 gallon size ziplocks, flour seperated in to 3 gal zips., Vegetables cut and seperated, then frozen. IE oinons cut and put in 2 lg. gal zips. and frozen, keeping "onion cores" in seperate baggs for broths, et al. Same for fruit, meat.. You get the idea.
      Entry way~ Large container for outdoor sports in entry closet (helmets, frisbee, jumprope, bean bags). All jackets hung, "shoes zone". NO SHOES! I cannot vacume the floor every day though I wish I could! Activity shelving units ~Tops shelves are adult assisted activities. Middle shelves are childrens stuff IE crayon container, marker container, colored pencil, chalk, paint... Bottom shelves are husbands eletronic "things" wires, chargers, things...
      Living room~ Adult books, games and keepsakes on all 4 top shelves on 5 lg units. All bottom shelves are childrens books, board games, puzzles. "Entertainment" is shelving same concept. DS, video game stuff on bottom 2 shelves of both units and adult dvds on top 3 shelves.
      Bed rooms ~ All closet doors removed. All beds on rollers away from walls. Shelving units in each closet. Absolutly no dressers anymore. Everything hung up and on shelving systems. Dirty clothing in tall "barrels" with handles to dragg. All stuffed animals, general toys, set toys (ponies, dolls, pet shop) in seperate lg plastic containers with handles.
     Laundry room ~ Re done shelving units. "Bucklet cleaning system" Large handled buckets marked with type of "cleaning" and filled with supplies needed for the "task". IE "General" bucket has febreeze, furniture polish, windex, rags... "Bubba" has cat shampoo, cat brushes, nail clippers. "Husband" has toxic clean room suite and heavy duty tongs....Kidding! In any case you get the idea. Also I have everything set up to "easy pour"" right off the top shelf for my laundry stuff. Just  makes it easy.
     The hard part was getting the family on board. My house hold was very resistant to all the changes. So, what I do is "night time quick clean" BEFORE dessert. They have to get easy to put away stuff up and put away. Suprisingly it only takes 10mins because there is a "home" for everything. That just leaves me with a general clean during the day, which on some days can take a while, but atleast Im not tripping on toys and feeling the need to strangle my husband with his dirty jeans.... On Saturdays BEFORE we go out to find mischeif, we have to do "early clean" (transition dirty clothes or wash wobbies and lovies - basically all the little things) and Sundays we all lazy around.
      I know, I know... But really, whats a little dessert and "fun time" extortion amongst family? If they did what I asked in the beginning, they wouldnt be subject to daily black mail!
      One thing I noticed. They all have an "area" that is just theirs. They don't like it touched and is usually a mess. It is their computer areas. They only have to clean those every month / month & half. NO DIRTY DISHES thou. This isnt Hilton Gardens with room service ya know!
     Bills are all done together 2 times per month so there isnt any confusion. Shopping a little over once a month in bulk. Since I cant drive, I have to make sure all my ducks are in a row and my outings / events are all carefully planned well ahead of time. I sure do wish we had bus service out here! (I lost my vision repeatedly, this last time the tissue is softening and the cells of the lenses are "stripping". So I can't have surgery and fix it like I did for the cataract and hardening of the protein build up..well, there is "possibly" a "temporary fix" but that is a conversation for another day)
     On sunday evening I stay up late and make the entire weeks lunches before hand (+1 extra meal of sandwiches). The next to bottom drawer in fridge is "components" for lunch = fruit bags, sandwich, string cheese, peanut bags. Bottom drawer is juice boxes, pudding, fishy cracker bags. That way they can put together lunches easily. I just keep the stuff I use daily like lettuce, tomatoes, sausage, biscuits, et al, all on top 4 shelves. Ever thursday "chat night" I make x2 - x2.5 large batch of soup.
    ....So, it works out to where we have left over soup and left over biscuits on Monday. Sandwiches and fresh soup on Thursday. Husbands "supper" day is Friday .. that is usually "take out" (he set kitchen on fire 3 times, so he not allowed ot touch stove). Every so often is "clean fridge free-for-all day" which is just whatever left over before I toss it out. That only leaves me with a few days each week for "fresh meals". Also, if I know something is gonna make me tired for a day and I know about it before hand, I save "left over soup & Biscuits" for the day that I will be the most worn out.
     And now that I am sure my Healing Well Family thinks Im crazy, I will end this here!!!
 EDIT: "rubber maid" has a whole array of rubber grip stools. They are a must. I also have a number of house hold clenaing items "rigged".



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   Posted 5/19/2010 1:13 AM (GMT -6)   

If I pay for the plane ticket will you come organize my house? You are amazing and I'm sure it works wonderfully! I want my place this organized but I'm the only one who's willing to do it. So, it doesn't get done because the daily things of tidying up, cooking, dishes and laundry more than wear me out and on most days only one or two of those get done.

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   Posted 5/19/2010 4:15 AM (GMT -6)   
OMGggggggggggg Dani I bow to the god of are amazing! wish I could get Jay to do a bunch of stuff but its a hit and a miss. I try to get somewhat organized like having a place for each thing,collecting up lose stuff all around the house in a basket and then put it all away. Jay is forever leaving his gaming guides in the bathroom and glasses in the living rm but I do have him trained to put dishes in the sink and clothes away. He seems to like doing laundry but doesnt like putting it away and its hard to get him to bring the clothes basket upstairs for me. I used to just do it all but simply cant anymore. I am having my younger brother do a bunch of stuff around the house so then I will have heavy cleaning out of the way so I can manage the other lil stuff. I dont have any kids at home but do have my grandkids alot in the summer and they sure help this broken grandma alot. Always asking what can they do and making sure that i dont have to get on the floor to play. The oldest is now 10 Jakob and then there is Lauren 8,Dani 6 and lil Kirsten almost 5. The 2 smaller kids dont do overnights because they are develop delayed so the 6 yr old is like a 4 yr old and the 4 1/2 yr old is like 2. Both micro babies at birth( less than 3 pounds)and Kirsten is just a miracle to even have here since she was born at 21weeks and 14 ounces!!! We had to fudge about how far along my daughter was because any baby born under 23 weeks only gets hospise,no machine to help keep them alive. Oh how did I get on the subject of my grandbabies lol can you tell I am a proud grandma?
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   Posted 5/19/2010 9:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Stephanie,

I don't have much to add after Dani's post. I totally agree with her. Anything you can think of to simplify things and make chores easier. I got a really lightweight vacuum that not only makes it easy for me, but also little kids. I pay all my bills online and set up automatic payments. I haven't written a check in months. Do any grocery stores nearby offer online ordering and delivery? I usually throw a load of laundry in before work and put it in the dryer around dinner time and take it out and fold it before bed. Clean folded stuff sits on top of the washer and dryer until whoever owns it picks it up to put away. I keep clorox wipes and microfiber towels all over the place to wipe and clean as I see stuff. I decluttered my house a lot a couple years ago. I found if you have more stuff, you just have more stuff to clean. We also have always had a standing rule that noone could leave the house on Saturday without their room and bathroom being clean.

For WhiteBeard - I got one of those gel mats from Bed Bath & Beyond to put in front of my sink and I love it. I also have a little stool to put one foot up and I wash one dish at a time pretty much standing up and my arms hanging down. Your description is just how I feel!

My husband cleans a lot as he's pretty much a clean freak. I think it's the military background like Whitebeard said. It's still hard though because he doesn't understand that it really takes all my mental and physical energy to make it through a day at work in much pain. The last thing I want to do when I get home is cook or clean, so it still causes conflict. Bottom line is, I do what I can. I learned a long time ago that it's not worth over-doing it just to make someone happy and end up barely able to walk the next day. We eat cereal for dinner at least once a week. I usually get my husband to grill a bunch of meat on Sunday and we eat leftovers during the week so all I have to do then is make sides.

Dani is the Queen of organization! I can never be that organized.

I wish you the best!

White Beard
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   Posted 5/19/2010 8:49 PM (GMT -6)   
I will have to try that with the gel matt and stool. doing dishes. I know that is one chore that, well it just causes me allot of problems! I have a bed that is very high off the floor, and I put my laundry on my bed to fold it, But the leaning forward and with the arms out, and folding the laundry, that is as bad or worst than doing the dishes! If it wasn't for the fact that the house is up for sale I might not be quite as fussy But there are days I just close my eyes and ignore it all!

White Beard

P.S. I do wish I could be as organized as Dani. As that is one of my problems I have to much Junk! and it is so difficult to part with!

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   Posted 5/19/2010 11:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes, Dani, you are my hero :) I know it's out of necessity for you... but you are awesome, definitely. I used to be like that.... before I got sick. Everything had a home; my house was run efficiently and so forth. Now, not so much :) It's not horrible... but nothing like it was before. The one thing I have mastered is the laundry organization... it only took 13 years :) Now, everything - everyone's everything - is located in the laundry room, on their own shelves. It saves the whole taking laundry to various rooms/putting them away. Highly recommended for big families.

Stephanie, the one thing I wouldn't overlook is getting some cleaning help; I think chronic illness/chronic pain more than justifies the need for some help. If it's a money thing, then I understand. But we have someone who comes in 2x a month... just to do the "deep cleaning" that I can't do w/ my heart issues (the really good vacuuming, deep floor cleanings, deep dusting, that sort of thing). It's really been a life-saver, and stress reducer, around here.

Take care all, --Tina

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   Posted 5/20/2010 1:15 PM (GMT -6)   
As a resident gimp, taking care of tasks around the homestead is a constant hurdle, but I've come up with a few solutions that are working for me, and who knows, they might just work for you too.
1st:  I wasn't afraid to admit that I have limitations so thanks to a very thoughtful family I was able to hire a lady who comes in for around 4 hours a week to take care of things such as vacuuming, moping, cleaning bathrooms and dusting chores that are either out of arms reach or that I'm simply not able to manage such as carpet sweeping while I tried to drive my electric chair with one hand and the vacuum in the other.  More than one piece of furniture and wall took hits while my coordination battled the impossible.   We were very lucky and found a most trustworthy lady for only $55 a week, so there are people out there, but please be careful with your choice.
2nd:  I'm always on the hunt for a solution and my problem this week was how in the world could I help mow our 5 acres, par 3 that surrounds our humble abode.  When I got on my garden tractor for the first time a few weeks ago I found it something short of terrifying because now that I've joined the ranks of being an amputee, I kept wanting to slide out off my mower.  The solution was a different seat.  It took some hunting high and low, but I finally found a much deeper seat with a higher back and adjustable armrests that I can hang onto with my left arm/hand while driving with the right hand.  Since we live on a hill, the turn-a-rounds are a bit on the scary side, but yesterday I went out for 3 hours and bounced myself into oblivion, but at least (thanks to my wife who was also mowing on her machine at the same time) we managed to get around 80% of the green stuff whacked down.
3rd:  Make you home handy.  I do mean that literally.  I have handholds all over the place and without them I'd go crashing and bouncing even more than I do now.  I've found that handholds make great towel racks so they double duty while at the same time avoiding that nursing home type look which really isn't my style.
Even if you're type A peronality like I am, there are times you just have to accept that the way you use to do or have things around the house might just have to change.  Since I'm on wheels from morning till night, I've learned quickly that if I can't reach it, it's no good to me so we've recreated a kitchen that's always in a constant state of clean disarray since almost everything is now at counter height yet easy to grab.  The goal is to keep everything where you need it.
Instead of making unnecessary transfers from my wheelchair to a recliner for example, I keep medications along with a slew of other stuff all over the place in decorative boxes, containers and couch side tables.  For me it's much handier having what I need where I need it.  Another thing I hang onto throughout the day is little bags either attached to my wheelchair or one I can grab and tote around with me.  It's so much easier than having to run from this room to that just so I can file down a cracked fingernail or have a Viva paper towel for when my nose starts draining.  The same goes as far as cordless phones.  Just keep one or two fully charged and then just keep it with you wherever you go.
4th:  Keep safety in mind at all times.  After going high centered in my electric wheelchair outside a couple times (I was stuck for over an hour one time), I learned that we always have to have some sort of emergency communications on us at all times.  Some go with the in-house medical alert type panic buttons, but I've found a cell phone works just as well for my needs.  Make sure you've got a way to get help when you take that unexpected tumble.
5th:  Don't be afraid to accept help, but when you do, always make sure it's always a two way street.  For example our wonderful neighbor keeps both of our rider mowers up and running/serviced for us.  When we break this or that part, he's always the first to get our blades back up and chopping.  In exchange, he enjoys our mini landing strip backyard with his bird-dog twice a day where Gretel goes nuts especially after it's freshly mowed.
Today a friend is coming over to work on my homemade lift we installed last year.  While I can't return the favor exactly, when he dropped by a couple weeks ago with an anemic notebook computer that was running rather sluggish.  I spent over 20 hours bringing it back to almost as good as new health.  Use the skills you still have so you can always reciprocate be it a needle work finger towel for a guest bath or some fresh homemade bread you put together thanks to that bread machine you forget to use.  Another little thing we enjoying doing each year for our list of friends that's always helping out is by making our blackberry and sometimes peach preserves straight from our own trees and bushes.  While I'm not calling this an even steven return, at least it's a reminder to those who care that they really are appreciated.  Even though we're handicapped or constantly dealing with a chronic illness,  this is no excuse for not giving back because that's how all friendships work best even when you're healthy.
6th:  If there's any common bond where all chronically ill or disabled people can unite, it's with the fact that it's not IF we can do something that really matters, it's HOW.  Ingenuity becomes our highlighted 6th sense as we creatively find solutions for managing the once routine functions throughout the day. 
When grocery shopping in a manual wheelchair we've all learn quickly that we can push just one of the wheelchair rims/tires with one arm/hand while pushing the cart with the other. Now we've turned ourselves into a land locked sailboat that uses the keel/shopping cart for resistance while the wind fills our sails/wheelchair tires as we scoot up and down the isles shopping.  Insulated sill-pad mitts have replaced our hot pads for a more secure hold upon whatever hot item we've just popped out of the oven.  $30 shower handheld shower wands ease our daily bathing so we can still get in those hard to reach places so we don't need to make our daily cleansing a social engagement shared by all.  
We're a special little group where self reliance is our mantra as we seek out new ways of doing old things - just so we always can.     

After an accident in  1997 crushed the nerves in my pelvis, halfway down the calf and at the fibular head (knee), my left leg slowly started to turn color from the foot up, along with swelling and temp change.  Within 2 weeks I was diagnosed with RSD.  By 1999 I landed in a wheelchair and started a life taking narcotics all the time. In 2004 I got an Intrathecal morphine pump &5 years ago the RSD spread to my right leg and has done around 80% of the damage it did to my left leg in half the time. 1 1/2 years ago I went septic, and the infection did go body-wide.  After 2 days in the hospital I then had a clot in my lungs.  Both should have killed me, but this time I got lucky.  Meanwhile I've been battling blood clots for the last 4 years.  A year ago my left leg was ampuated above the knee after ging septic.  Guess that about say's it all.  Bob.

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   Posted 5/20/2010 2:10 PM (GMT -6)   
couldnt read all replies. but dani wow! you rock. ANd all those good hubby's rock!

for me I make a list for the day based on how I feel. If I am having a bad day it may look like this:

Make bed ( You would be surprised how fufilling and nice it is to have a neat bed) I do find this the hardest chore in the house next to laundry.

brush teeth
take shower

on a good day-

clean litter box
empty dishwasher
fill dishwasher
make phone calls/appts
do some laundry

you will feel so much better if you have a doable list of chores. Then crossing them off the list is also rewardng. You can also share with your partner your completed list and then they will know what you have done all day.

your spouse can also help you make the list. What I mean is I have found is that what my priorities are may not be hubby's. So you can have a conversation about what he would like to seen done. that way he will be happy too.

I found this to be super helpful.

and a big thanks to my hubby for all that he does. He works 60-70 hours a week and still comes home and cleans and mostly cares for the kids by playing and giving baths etc. he rocks.
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   Posted 5/20/2010 3:00 PM (GMT -6)   
one otehr thought... if you dont have a lot of stuff, there wont be much to pick up. So if you have kids for example. Limit there tys to what they reallylike andplay with and that will fit in their toybox easily. I do a lot of purging of items all the time. Try to have minimal stuff,
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   Posted 5/20/2010 5:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey StephanieJoy,

I couldn't read all of the replies either....too much for the eyes at one time, but I have a roomba vacuum that helps alot when my daughter doesn't do the vacuuming. I didn't buy it first hand because they are too expensive for me, but I found a good one at a "thrift" store and bought it for about 40.00. I also use the grabber and the laundry for things for each room. Last, but certainly not least, I use the disposable spray bottles with bleach in the bathrooms and showers so that mold/mildew stay at a minimum. They are about a dollar and last a week or so with straight bleach, but it's worth it to me. I live in a very humid state and have to keep on top of the mildew/mold or it will start to grow pretty quickly.
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