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   Posted 5/19/2010 12:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi family,
This crap is starting too get me down.  My ribs hurt more from the guy trying to pull me when I fell in Mc'Ds but then my right side is killing me since that side now has my sciatic nerve in a flare,plus the bruises.  I woke up this morning with my right leg rock hard with spasms ugh.  And they are putting in a sewer system and are working 7pm to 5am with the street blocked off in front of my house to through traffic and a constant BAM BAM BAM all night long so no rest and I just got a more comfortable bed from my daughter who gave me her old one when her and her hubby bought a new sleep number bed.  I dream of having a brand new bed but for now I will just doctor up this one lol. 
Omg and we now have carpenter ants coming in the townhouse!!!  Omg they creep me out so bad and the bad thing is I cant move fast enough to squash them.  So far I have seen 5 in the house and a dozen around the outside so its time to call the landlord to get rid of them.  On a more possitive note my back deck is done with all kinds of flowers(and I know Im not supposed to be gardening)I just love flowers so much and I finally got a glass table with an umbrella and bought it with my own money so it feels good to have saved up for it (and it took a long time with me being on SSI).  Jay doesnt much like my overdoing it on the plants but I like them and its nice to sit out back and enjoy a nice cup of coffee in the quiet.  That is if this crazy weather would stop and just enjoy the time of year.  We are supposed to get up to 65 an hour winds tonight and it was all sunny yesterday. 
Jay has been better and its nice to have the days to myself with him back to work even if it means gimping along and trying to do things by myself but then I have always been stubborn that way.  I am putting my brother to work while he is here from Kansas.  Today he came and cleaned the bathroom and took out the trash for me and he will be back tomorrow for more chores.  I feel like a bum having him do so much but he is an alcohlic and blew through his money and says the chores keep him out of trouble.  Its nice to see someone doing something for me even if I dont think I deserve it at times.  I am a mess and I just dont see it lasting for the long haul.  I have too many things wrong with me as they say Im not really a keeper.  Just the way it is not saying anything bad about anyone I just wonder where I will end up. Oh I dont now just rambling.  Take care and I wish you low pain days ahead.
Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x3,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,over 30 surgeries,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic

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   Posted 5/19/2010 1:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen.  I'm so sorry that you're hurting so bad.  (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))  I'm glad that your brother is helping you out with chores.  I hope you feel better really soon. 
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   Posted 5/19/2010 1:30 PM (GMT -6)   
It's good your brother is able to give you some help, I hope you get a low pain day soon...
Lots of soft healing hugz
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   Posted 5/19/2010 3:43 PM (GMT -6)   
So sorry you're having such a bad time but please don't feel guilty about having your brother help. It does sound like that's helping him - and you DO deserve it!

You need to take care of yourself right now, and maybe your brother helping with also give your husband a bit of a break (although you still don't deserve poor treatment from him, either!)


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   Posted 5/19/2010 8:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen:

I'm sorry you are suffering so much. You most certainly do deserve the help your brother is giving you, you would do the same for him if the shoe was on the other foot!

Please be kind to yourself, accept the help that is offered, ask for the help that is not, and give yourself time to heal.

Hang in there, my thoughts and prayers are with you!


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   Posted 5/19/2010 11:22 PM (GMT -6)   
   Dear Karen,
     I am so sorry you are in so much pain *hugg* But it is nice to catch up with you. I hope it eases up at some point. You ve been through an awfull lot latley. It seems very unfair confused
     ants.... I hate ants. Out here in the desert that is all we have. Nothing but ants, scorpions, and lizards galore. How long do you think before you can get your landlord to take care of it? If it is longer than a week or so pick up cloves at the market. Crush and sprinkle around the indoor perimeter of rooms you want to keep them out until the landlord comes. Only "lasts" a few days.
     Your patio sounds beautiful. I know I should say "DOn't over do it!!" with everyone else.. But I am sure having a place to relax and spend some quiet time is well worth it. My daughter bought a tiny "pink looney bird" wind chime for our patio. Even though it looks silly, the tiny little chimes make summer days perfect.
     !!Stop be worried!! You are NOT a bum. He wants to help, and its his way of showing you love. Enjoy it! You are in our hearts here. Try to rest as much as possible.
TWO Roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
Ans be one traveler, long I stood
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   Posted 5/20/2010 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Well I had gone 3 nights without falling until last night. I fell off the darned toilet again!! I cant stop going to the bathroom I have to do that about 3 times because of my bladder being painful. It happens when I am really tired,I even make sure I turn the lights on,but still woke up hitting the wall and I knocked the piture and that came crashing down on my head. I also hit my right shouder pretty hard so I have a nice 5 inch deep bruise there and man my head has another lump. Its so hard to keep from falling at night. Its like my equilbrium is all out of whack and to make it worse I woke up at 5:30am to a wer bed! thats right when I fell I hadnt gone pee yet so when I fell back asleep my bladder was too full and I was so tired and hurting from the fall that I peed the dang bed. Jay was up for work and I was so embarrested when I kicked my sheets downstairs and he said "what are you doing?!"and I had to tell him I wet the bed and he was all nice about it and said its alright we all have doen it least once but I didnt tell him that I had fallen earlier. I figured he was asleep when it happened(I made a huge crashing sound and he didnt wake up)and I didnt want to worry him further. he already cant sleep well. I have talked to my doctor and he doesnt know what to do. I have to get up to pee. And I am not wearing diapers,I just couldnt do that and I would have to get up to change them so I could still fall. I know I have been super lucky to have not got hurt worser,I have a head for sure lol. So I will do what I can and if I fall then so be it,I guess I will just have to go to the hospital if its too bad. I sure wish I could just talk to you guys sometimes. But I do appreciate all the support you all give to me. It comforts me so much. And yes I do love flowers!! I had a huge 40x60 foot garden before I moved here(got divorced)here. I had tons of stuff growing and I supplied the foodbanks and senior centers with lots of produce and that felt so good since they cant take get fresh stuff like that and they sure apprecaited getting to take as much as they needed. It was so much healtheir too and I miss that so bad. I had wanted to do an above ground plot on the side of my house here but Jay wouldnt give me the money for dirt and wood so that left to just do planters. Oh well at least I have my flowers. I sure hope you all a low pain day today(heck everyday!)I will lick my wounds today and hopefully tomorrow will be better huh? lol.

Mom of one gramma to 4 lover to One
Fibromyalgia,IBS,Stroke x3,endometriosis,Diabetes type 2,neuropathic pain,high blood pressure,severe nausea,atrophy,chronic pain,over 30 surgeries,torn hip joint,hypoglycymic

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   Posted 5/20/2010 7:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Karen,
I have not been around much lately due to alot of different medical problems and situations. I was glad to find a post here from you. The last I remember reading was you had broken some ribs I believe in a fall. Boy, that is just such a painful thing as there isn't much that can be done except perhaps to be wrapped or put in a rib belt.
Now I read yet another fall. What is causing these falls? Is this left over business from the strokes you have had in the past? It is just scary this happening having to worry about breaking something. I fell back in October and broke my left arm so I understand.
I am so glad you have your table & flowers to sit outside and enjoy. I love being outside and having my flowers about. I have long since resorted to planting perennials because buying annuals year after year became so expensive. Granted the annuals afford a lot of color but just so expensive.  I still buy a few but only for some instant color in a pot.
Karen I detected a little downess in your post and for that I am sorry. It is understandable considering all the battles you have fought with your health in the last few years. You are a very special person and you need to know that. You are a very strong person, otherwise you would not have survived what you have been through. You are an inspiration to many of us here at the forum. You know many of us are not able to do a lot of the physical things we use to be able to do, but that does not mean we are any less of a person for it either. Never forget that you are a wonderful human being and your liofe is just as valuable as anyone elses. I know its been tough on Jay too, but that does not give him the right to be ugly with you either. What if the shoe were on the other foot so to speak. He needs to lighten up.
Take care my friend and keep posting and updating us. Hugs to you.

crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & psoriasis and psoratic arthritis. Several other health issues just not enough room to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 17 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.

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   Posted 5/20/2010 7:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Karen, I am so very sorry that you are having such a tough time of things. I am glad though that you do have your flowers to help brighten your day. I have a flower garden and it brings so much to my tiny life. This problem you have about falling while using the bathroom is very worrisome. Have you ever thought of maybe using a bedside commode at night instead of having to walk into the bathroom, etc? If you did get into trouble at least Jay would be right there to help you out. There just has to be a way to make this safe for you. Maybe you could call a medical supply store and talk to someone there for some ideas as to what may be available to help solve this issue for you. I'm afraid for you that all these hits to the head could weaken that aneurysm even more with tragic results. We want to keep you here with us. Please be careful out there. Lisa
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   Posted 5/20/2010 8:24 PM (GMT -6)   
((((((((Karen)))))))))). I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time. Hopefully things start improving soon! I'm glad that your brother is around to help you out!

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