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Retired Mom
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   Posted 5/27/2010 12:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi guys,
I just wanted to give a quick SSD blip about my friend's apt yesterday.  I'll start by saying I had an apt with a psych for the same thing in a different city, with WAY different experiences.  Everybody in the office was great and they actually said the truth in my paperwork.   Of course, SSD still denied me, but that is another issue.
So I went with my friend for her apt yesterday and it was insane.  First she talked to the most arrogant Dr. I think I have ever met (at a trade school site no doubt) and then he wanted to speak with me.  They didn't let me write anything down like they did her with my apt and the jerk didn't even want to let me say anything at all.  He asked me to come in and then said "so what do you know about -----'s disability?"  I asked "what do you want to know" and he just look at me like I was a fool and said why is she disabled.  So I started trying to tell him some of the things going on with her and he kept cutting me off and saying just tell me what her disability is.  I thought that's what I was doing, but then.....I used the word obsessed and he sort of "jumped" on me verbally saying "that is a clinical term" and I'm thinking that obsessed is a term pretty much anyone knows and then he insisted that I couldn't use the term and had to tell him what she did that made her obsessed.  I lost it and got down on his level (which wasn't too hard).  I told him that obsessed in her case meant that she woke up in the middle of the night thinking about something like tissue she needed from walmart and that she would send me stupid emails that didn't make sense and then she would not go back to sleep or do anything until she went to walmart and bought the tissue.  If it wasn't tissue, then it was taxes or cleaning the kitchen or whatever was on her mind at 3:00 when she woke up.  Then I asked him if that was a good enough explaination of obsessed.  I so wanted to say that he was a pathetic excuse for a Dr and that my education was nearly as high as his and if he were worth having as a Dr he would have his own practice and not be visiting a technical school to do SS interviews to make money.
I love my friend dearly and honestly she is a CP patient with anxiety, PTSD, Fibro, depression, and many many other things.  We do things together because we understand each other and accept the things that CP people have to live with.  I would never have wished this interveiw on her because he was worse with her than he was with me and spoke to her like a dog.  Naturally I didn't go in to the entire interview here because it was too stupid for words, but it infurriates me that there are such pathetic excuses for Dr's out there doing SS interviews.  I wish there were a way to report this guy without causing problems.  mad
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   Posted 5/27/2010 1:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Retired Mom, it sounds like the whole thing was a bit of a nightmare. Your friend is lucky to have someone like you on her team.

Maybe when this is all over for her, you can consider a complaint against that doctor, but only when you feel it won't affect your friend if you are identified as the complaintent.

I hope things work out for your friend. Take care of yourself in all this don't want to do anything that makes you feel worse!

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   Posted 5/27/2010 3:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Sadly, many (not all) of the doctors that do these evaluations for disability are a lot like the one your friend got. Unless it's someone working for a clinic or other outpatient facility, anyone who's in some kind of private practice doing disability evals likely is mainly doing it for the money. What you're describing sounds like it's even unethical. Was your friend in the room with you while you were interviewed? Who required that you give info.? I'm not sure I would have said anything if i had gone along with a friend with such a doctor because I'll bet he uses it against her in some fashion. Not that you meant it that way. I hope your friend at least gave written consent for you to speak to him because otherwise it was both unethical and illegal.

This all sounds very shakey - including the traveling salesman type approach. A trade school? That's the most confidential location he could find to set up shop? I'm assuming it was for a temporary set up for the day, and usually there's some clinic or other more appropriate setting that could be found.

And as far as you using the word obsessed, and his response to you, that borders on malpractice. I've got the credentials behind me to clinically diagnose OCD, etc., but if I went in as a friend I would NOT be acting in a professional capacity, and I shouldn't be expected to. He's the one expected to take the info. and do the evaluation, regardless of what words you use. I suspect you know this, though.

After your friend's SSD is approved, you might try seeing if you can file a complaint against this guy. I think the reason there are so many lousy evaluations is that most people filing for SSD are (legitimately) afraid to complain, so the same doctors keep staying on the payroll. I fear when I'll have to go through my own eval, and I suspect SSD will force me into an independent psych. eval since depression is listed along with my CP, and I also fear getting one of these idiots. The only thing I try to remember is that the outcome will probably already be predetermined one way or another. I think SSD is going to put most of us through numerous denials regardless of what's on paper. It almost seems a matter of luck if you get it right away.

Oh, I'd better stop now!


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   Posted 5/28/2010 7:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi guys,

You are both so right. I do hope nothing I said "hurts" her in any way. I know I never signed anything, but I don't know if she did. She was not in the room with me during the "interveiw".

I hope you guys get one more like mine. When they did my independant evaluation, my friend was there and they asked her to answer questions about my mental/physical health. She was able to say whatever she felt necessary and I do trust that she did the best she could. She was treated kindly (as was I) and my evaluation was accurate.

I'm really scared for her that she got one of those awful ones with no morals at all.

PALady, I used the word obsessed so many times in my career capacity that this seemed idiotic to me. Like you stated, I was not acting in a professional capacity, but as a friend of a person who was willing for me to give information at her request.

I sincerely hope you get a Dr like the one they gave me and not like the one they gave my friend!!! I'm afraid (like you) that it's the luck of the draw anyway and getting harder and harder to get the right hand.
Retired Mom

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