Why are we here? I suppose that sounds like a mighty dumb question but I'll bet there are nearly as many answers as there are members. We come for support and to support others.
When most of us were diagnosed we had no idea that we were in for the long haul. We probably didn't absorb the concept that "chronic" meant forever. Pain 'forever'??? How can we even contemplate that? Well, one way is by taking our lives in small pieces. Maybe one day is all you can handle at at time. For others just managing one hour is mentally a huge load. But many people do fairly well yet on occasion need someone to hold them up and remind them they are not alone.
So, we come here for support...BUT, if we didn't GIVE support then this format wouldn't work at all. Most people who come here and see the warm and caring family that we are quickly start giving of themselves. We find that by offering our experience to others and sharing our compassion that it takes our mind off of our own misery and pain. That's a true win/win situation.
Yes, there are a few who come only for the taking side of the equation. They come to this forum, and others, only for the attention be it valid or not. Some even invent their illnesses to gain pity and self gratification. I'm sure we've all seen this type before. It's a sad lot that feels the need only to be takers when most everyone here are such warm givers. We're not a Facebook or Daily Journal, we're not here to make up stories about
our misery, but we are here to share and to offer our aid to those who also suffer.
I'm so proud and honored to be a part of this wonderful group of caring and loving people. The takers?? Yes, they come too but I can greet them and then move on and ignore the drama. This type needs help that I'm not qualified to give. A marvelous gentleman named Peter started this forum many years ago because he too suffers and his intent was and is to have it a place for support...that means, in my opinion, the support that goes both ways. Giving and taking. That's what we have and I'm thankful for this place to call my second home and my family!
Thanks to all of you for your caring support of everyone in our CP family. You bring my days alive.
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Fibromyalgia, PTSD, UC, Diabetic on insulin, collapsed disk, arthritis scattered around and a few other delights.