I hate to hear that you are having problems, especially such a painful problem! My middle finger bends beautifully, but the tendon is still swollen, along with the palm so that I can't straighten the finger all the way out. It is still better than when it was doing the trigger thing and I had to use the other hand to undo the finger each morning or any time that it had to bend. One would believe that I am right handed as much as I use that hand. At least your pinky finger is doing better and your carpal tunnel is healing.
I can only imagine how hard it would be to have my index finger messed up. I didn't know how much my middle finger did until I am seated on the floor and reach down to push myself back up. That tendon just doesn't want to cooperate. I'll bet you have a lot of those Argh moments throughout your day too. Think of it this way: with the current medical techology, the doctors can get to the bottom of the problem and correct it. There are a lot of things that the medical profession can do in today's day and age. One of my sons had a spinal fusion, but it took so long for the insurance to approve it that he has nerve damage and will soon undergo a procedure to have an implant to block his pain so that maybe we can see him smile once again. The most he can do is go to work, come home, eat, go to bed, and go back to work - he works the graveyard shift and has done so for a number of years. He is one of those people who sucks up pain meds and in a short time frame they no longer work for him. A steroid shot gave him 2 days pain free instead of 6 months. I know he tries not to worry, but he is a worrier. His wife has ankylosing spondylitis, is a mess and is waiting for full disability.
I would love to tell you not to worry, because I would worry. I know this will sound strange, but do what you can to get as much rest as possible. Right now your body is working hard to heal itself so you will need extra rest. Yes, easier said than done - I speak from experience. When we are tired everything is amplified, especially bad stuff.
Think happy thoughts, enjoy your kiddos. Find something happy in each day, even if it seems stupid. Don't lose your sense of humor - it's there, tap into it. At my house, there is a newly turned 13 year old, a 2 year old, and 2 big dogs (a rottie and a bernese mountain dog). Someone or one of the dogs is always doing something funny unintentionally. It's great to have a good belly laugh!
On a painting show, the painter was on an Alaska cruise and made the comment that they encountered morning fog. My son and I laughed so hard we could easily have rolled on the floor. Most everyone encounters morning fog of one form or another. I drink coffee for my morning fog and enjoy every last drop.
Keep your chin up. In the scheme of things, this is a blip. A long blip, but a blip nonetheless. How's that? Do you feel better yet? Me neither. On this happy note, I'll call it a day and get some of that rest I just preached to you about.