The price of beauty!!

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   Posted 6/21/2010 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   
decided I need to get my hair highlighted for the summer and get a trim, so I went to my hair dresser on Saturday, well the shampoo bowl was not being my friend, and then she put a deep conditioner on my hair to help with the dryness that the highlights give me, so she thought I was going to be in the painful position for 5-10 mins, not, so after I could not take it anymore I just sat up and waited. Also when the foil was put in my hair, she kept asking me to bend my head down in an awkward way. Well guess what??? My neck had a major kink in it, which in turn turned into a major migraine, and exreme pain in my neck and shoulder. Here it is monday morning, I'm at work and still in pain and my neck and shoulders are so stiff and hurt. ( hair looks nice) cry idea
Update: I'm in a full blown flare now from it. Can't wait to go home from work and lay down. Way too much pain!
Taking it one day at a time.... 

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   Posted 6/21/2010 2:54 PM (GMT -6)   
I hate those sinks! Those and the lounge-back chairs. They are not very ergonomically enginnered.

The price for beauty --- From shoes that hurt our feet, bras, (lol it's true!) and other beauty hinderences that we make ourselves go through is preposterous! But when I look in the mirror and see my face with make-up or notice that I actually BRUSHED my hair today, well...that just makes me happy to think I did it in spite of the pain or better yet TO SPITE the pain.

Just look at it that way.
And I bet your hair looks awesome! So feel good about that and don't let the pain get to you too much!

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   Posted 6/21/2010 3:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry, but I had to laugh when I read your post! Of course I'm not laughing at your pain, but what you described is so typical of what happens to us CPers. Such a normal, average 'thing' - getting our hair done. Most people don't give it a second thought, but we almost have to plan every step of the process! It's been a looong time since I had my hair cut (it's past my rear-end now) - part of it is that I really don't trust anyone to not get scissor-happy with it, but I also know I'd have the same problem that you just described. Last time I got up the nerve for a cut, I couldn't lift my head up from the wash-bowl. Even with the girl trying to help, my neck just wouldn't budge without getting that pain you get when you turn your head too fast and you see stars! shocked
My mom always told me that when you feel your worst, try to look your best and you'll feel better. Sometimes it really does help and other times it's the 'trying to look our best' part that gets us in trouble! Seriously though, I hope you feel better quickly. I bet your hair looks great!  :-)

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   Posted 6/21/2010 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh, wow, yep I'm with Splashdancer and others on this. Eleanor hit the nail on the head - those sinks! And yes, even the chairs that are supposed to be "comfortable" that are anything but.

My hair hasn't been cut since last fall, and I have some special hair scissors that were my mother's that I keep toying with using! My hair isn't quite as long as Splash's but it's getting there, mostly because I don't have the $$ to keep paying for hair cuts. Too bad some of us don't live closer and we could make some attempts at doing eachother's hair while being mindful of our pain. Now how we'd look afterward is another matter entirely, but I bet it would be unique! :-)

I hope you can get that kink out of your neck tonight when you get home from work, and that it's not something that sticks around for awhile. Maybe you can have a talk with your stylist before your next treatment and figure out some other positions so you don't have to go through this all the time.

But I do bet it looks great - one small pleasure out of the experience!


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   Posted 6/21/2010 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Guys,
Hey, if my post can bring a laugh to anyone, then it's a good thing!!!
Yes, the simple things in life....
I won't even get started on the shoes or the stupid bra's (that is the first thing that gets snatched off as soon as I walk into my bedroom)
Taking it one day at a time.... 

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   Posted 6/21/2010 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Hopegirl,

I had to laugh as well - partly at your post, but mostly at my memory of my last "professional" haircut. There was no way I could bend my neck backwards, but I can lean forward, so I knelt on the chair, facing the sink and leaned forward so the stylist could wash my hair that way. Of course it wasn't until later in the day that I realized how that must have looked to anyone who came in (the sinks are in clear site when you're sitting waiting). All they would have seen was my butt as I was leaning over....well, that started the giggles for me.

I agree with the others...what is simple and normal and easy for others is often such a challenge for us. I have no choice but to find the humour in these situations - life is too short to cry about it.

Hope you've had a good day!

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   Posted 6/22/2010 7:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh my Goodness, sorry but I'm so glad I'm a guy! I've been over my rooster vanity for a long time! Maybe it's 30 years of marrage or the fact that all the young people call me Mr. or Sir! As long as my cloths are clean (if I'm not working or fishing) and I'm clean, I'm not too concerned about the rest> People can take me or leave me, if they don't like me because of the way I look, I don't need them anyway! I do need a haircut really bad! I think I'll cut it all off today w/ my son's clippers they left here. I don't feel like paying someone $10. to do it!
Now my wife, God bless her, gets her hair dyed and layered and what ever. She says she wants to look beautiful for me! I believe some of thats true but I also think she likes to look good around other females cause she's concerned what they think about her. Oh boy, maybe I shouldn't go there! What if she reads this? Yikes! I better stop now and go cut my hair, it's a big furball of tangles & curls and its to dang hot!
So long all my Pretties!
Love and Hugs> Y'all are Beautiful!!!
When I was young & stupid I broke almost every bone in my body and I'm paying a heavy price now but I'm still here and so glad to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men, both are in the Navy. I'm so proud! My biggest health problem>> I'm a certified Luny~Tune!!

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   Posted 6/22/2010 11:46 AM (GMT -6)   
  Dear Hope,
     I am so glad you were able to get yourself a pampered. Finding a good hair stylist is important, no doubt. I have a lady that I see in albuquerque and she great. I wash my hair at home, wrapp it up and get down to see her. She has me on risers and chair as high as it goes because my hair getts trimmed in long layers to the small of my back with face frame. I really lucked out when I found her. She is a blessing. But she always says her arms are tired when she is done. I try to come in just before her lunch break or end of the day. She is a chronic pain patient too. She has problems in her thoratic.
     I really hope that you are doing better today, though I fear you probably arnt. I am so sorry you had to start out your week in a full flare. *hugg* Please, know you are in our hearts and prayers.
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And sorry I could not travel both
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   Posted 6/23/2010 3:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone for the posts,
Today is a better day than Monday, even though I only came to work today a half a day. It's so hard to keep using so much time at work, so I hope they understand, if I'm not there, its because I really can't otherwise, I do try my best to get there.
Still chuckl'n at Pete's response. Did you cut your hair???? LOL
Hugs to all and hope everyone has a less painful rest of the week!
Taking it one day at a time.... 

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   Posted 6/23/2010 4:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Hopegirl,

Glad you're feeling better today!

I stopped going to the beauty parlor a few months ago....I found out on the lupus forum that hair coloring is bad for lupus (something about the chemicals?) so I'm now finding out how much gray is in my hair! I hadn't seen my natural hair color for decades, LOL!

It's not too bad yet, definitely gray hairs here and there but mostly still brown. I will have to get it cut eventually and I'm not looking forward to it...I have trouble with my neck at the sink too! Maybe washing it myself (per Dani) and going in with wet hair is the way to go!

Take care....I hope the rest of your week is increasingly better!
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