Thanks so much for replying everyone, and the warm welcome.
I told Jim about about writing to you all here, and asked him to read your responses when he feels better. As you all may already know, mornings are the worst. Heres a little history.. he has been on just about everything thats out there, even morphine, and surprisingly it for what ever reason did not work for him. His regular VA doctor sent him to a pain specialist over a year ago, he's the one who put Jim on Lyrica. He tried everything they had to offer, all the different types of injections in the spine, we were so disapointed when nothing worked there. So the pain doc said surgery is the only option left.
His regular MD just put him on the Fentynal patches, just got it yesterday, of course they are starting out with the lowest dose of 25 mgs. We are hoping and praying they will give him some relief. They also upped his percocet to 10 mgs every 6 hrs, (and took him off the Methadone) which hasn't helped any so far. I appreciate that Jim has the VA, but if he needs stronger doses, it always takes soo long, as everything has to be approved, then they mail the meds. It can be so frustrating!
The surgery is scheduled at the Va hospital in Baltimore, we went there and spoke to the Neurosurgeon and he thinks Jim is a good candidate for this surgery, mainly for relieving the pinched nerve pain. Jim said if it will only do that it will be worth it!
I'll ask Jim about getting a second opinion. I agree it would be a smart thing to do. Honestly I didn't think the VA would allow that, so we will check into it.
Thank you PAlady, and Chutz for the good advice.
Thanks also sjkly for the well wishes, and I'm happy for your friend that had success with her surgery.
Chutz I agree , I know the caregiver has their own struggles as well. As for me I had always been very healthy, then just recently found out I have Fibromyalgia, plus bad osteoarthrtis in hips, knees, at least one shoulder, and now it feels like it could be in both hands too. Hips are the worst, doctor said I will for sure ave to have a hip replacemment sometime, I'm 54 and she said that's too young, but if I was 10 years older they would want to do it right away! Plus 2 bulged disks in my back. And the fatigue from the fibro is a constant. I am grateful that tramadol, and Flexeril are helping with some of the pain.
I have to tell you, I was blessed to meet and mary Jim only 3 and a half years ago. We are both supportive of one another, and have our faith which is more important than anything. If there are any other christians here, would you please say a prayer for us? Especially for Jim to be given some kind of relief, as his pain is so bad, and never stops. Our faith is really what helps get us through each day.
Now I have to try to get to the store and buy some dove chocolates!! ( fellow chocolate lover here chutz) hmmmm yes, good coffee and chocolates is a great combo. When I used to make fudge, I had to have a big piece of it every morning with my coffee. Bad i know, it's a good thing I only make it during the holidays now or I would be in trouble!
Sorry if I went on for so long, though it does help to vent, and especially to people who really understand.
Take care, and thanks again.