~ Monday Koffee Klatch (Bending the rules...)

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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 7/5/2010 12:45 AM (GMT -6)   
      If you are new to this forum family then you may be wondering what kind of goofy question is that on a health care forum. idea   We all suffer with medical conditions and with most of us there is pain involved...sometimes a lot of pain. Or maybe you are the loved one of one of these persons. This forum is all about how we help and support each other, how we gain back more quality to our lives, and how we can learn and share what we gain along the way and hopefully make not only our lives better but the lives of others who come to join us.

     But we need to also remember that there is the other side of life...the side that isn't concentrated on illness and pain. That's why we started the daily Koffee Klatch. This is a time to laugh, reminisce, chit-chat about the silly things in our lives...all fun things and no pain. In fact the 'P' word is not allowed...  turn   So each day we share our thoughts or experiences on a different topic. Often it includes food, sometimes we talk about our past, and other times we just get goofy! Laughter is our goal. So, please join us whether this is your very first day on Healing Well or you're a seasoned veteran.
(We miss you ALOT Chutz)
     Today I am going to bend the rules a bit and bring up a more serious subject matter......
     Its about THOSE days. You know what I mean. Those hopeless, frustraiting, never ending, heart breaking days. Where you have had enough and dont know if you are crying from the pain, the loss or the dispair... When it all becomes too much and you cannot think let alone carry on a conversation. It is about what you do during those times when the weight on your shoulders is too much and the pain just wont leave you be.
    What do you do, during those times, to bring yourself out of the gloom? What do you do, to love yourself and comfort yourself? What do you do to give yourself a little TLC?

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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   Posted 7/5/2010 6:47 AM (GMT -6)   
I love Old TLC movies and diet coke....sounds corney, but it comforts me.

Everybody was so cheerful in the old movies and the men were mostly loyal to their wifes and the women almost always wore a smile. Even children acted like children and were well mannered. Of course it was the movies and not an accurate reflection of all society, but most people observed the pleasantries of life and I like that clean, wholesome lifestyle. It relaxes me and takes me away.

Give me some old movies anyday!
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   Posted 7/5/2010 7:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Mostly I do my meditation , because it constantly reminds me it totally up to me how I feel emotionally about things . When I realize that nothing ever seems as bad , just something to be done and thats theres no sense in worrying about something really , what will be will be and then I think of everything I'm thankful for family , friends , life , love , opportunities all of it and things generally seem pretty good then . Of course my great secret weapon against gloom is reaching out to my HW family , I do admit its a rush of good feeling to read my friends here supporting me come what may and it feels just as good to support a friend here in their time of stess . Mikel

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   Posted 7/5/2010 7:08 AM (GMT -6)   
I usually take a bath, turn on the tv afterwards, grab my honey's hand sitting next to me and just try to get comfortable. I usually take my meds to help too.

I love to get on here and read the forums or go on chat, or visit msn and see my friends around the world. I have one friend that has traveled to Guam from Texas to see her son who is in the Air Force, so I like checking in with her. Then I have another in England and speak to her about weather and things going on over there. It is comforting and relaxing for me.

So that's how I cope. God bless and have a lpd.

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   Posted 7/5/2010 8:33 AM (GMT -6)   
When I was young & stupid I broke almost every bone in my body and I'm paying a heavy price now but I'm still here and so glad to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men, both are in the Navy. I'm so proud! My biggest health problem>> I'm a certified Luny~Tune!!

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   Posted 7/5/2010 9:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Ah, what a good question. We tend to shy away from talking about our worst moments, don't we.

For me, it's all about distraction. It starts with a hot bath with Epsom Salts in it (I'm currently using lavender scented salts and they smell heavenly). I'm usually pretty shaky when I'm in severe pain, so hubby helps me get in and settled. I find after a few minutes, I'm able to start focusing on the smells and sensations around me...the lavender scent is especially good and I often use Bergamot as well.

I have Ray turn on my CD player on the counter, and play some meditation music. I start to do some concentrated breathing and generally, I'm able to focus on the pain and "turn it off". It might be by tensing and relaxing my muscles, starting with my toes and working up, or I just let myself really feel the pain, to get right inside it, so I'm in control. When I'm breathing well, I can manage things better, but the key for me is to relax my body completely instead of tensing up harder and harder.

I've been lucky in that I'm on a good combination of drugs right now and my pain as been generally steady at a 3-4 on the scale to 10. I have had some mild flares but right now, it's my hips causing the most pain and only surgery is going to make that pain disappear. Ah well...I'm a tough gal, I can manage!

Conditions: Fibromyalgia, Severe Myofascial Pain, Chronic Pelvic Pain (with permanent muscle damage), Femoroacetabular Impingement (CAM and Pincer), Reynauds, IBS, Surgical Adhesions, Ophthalmic Migraines, Severe Hot Flashes (both Surgical Menopause and medication related), plus physically unable to vomit due to the Nissen, and I have extremely tiny veins with a lot of scar tissue...a joy when it comes to having to give blood or get an IV started

Surgeries: Appendix, Uterus, Nissen Fundoplication for GERD, Left Ovary, Gallbladder, Right Ovary, TVT

Medications: Oxycontin, Cesamet, Tramacet, Cymbalta, Flexeril and Clonidine plus Laxaday, Vitamin D and a Multi-Vitamin daily

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   Posted 7/5/2010 9:20 PM (GMT -6)   
i like to curl up in bed and watch the old godzilla movies, him ripping tokoyo to pieces is just so inspiring lol.. and of course got to have my cabonatied drinks that are supposed to be a no no with my bladder conditons but more than once godzilla has  been my friend. a little secret when i was little i went on picnics with king kong and godzilla... my labrador always took care to eat there sandwich though. hehe   kim

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   Posted 7/5/2010 9:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Good question, Dani...

For me:
--Reaching out to my wonderful friends
--Being w/ my kids
--Watching mindless TV :) (I've been so good at this lately...!)

Take care all,
Main Health Problems: Dysautonomia/POTS; CFS/Fibromyalgia; Severe Chronic Hypertension; Hypothyroidism; Hypoadrenalism; Mixed (Obstructive/Central) Sleep Apnea - on Auto BiPap; Depression/Anxiety; Severe Vitamin D Deficiency

Pain Issues: Cervical/Thoracic back pain (they called it DDD...but I don't know); migraines; carpal tunnel syndrome; widespread joint/muscle pain, nerve pain in hands/arms/feet; Future Plans: Intrathecal Pain Pump; already completed trial (Sept, 2008); awaiting my decision for implantation...

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 7/6/2010 12:43 AM (GMT -6)   
     When I am tired, inside and out, I go have a picnic. Often times I will walk to the feild and pick flowers with the girls. Noone minds that I am a slow walker....  When I cant move very much I brew some tea, sit out back, and write in my journal. I know it isnt much, but it means alot to the "Inside me" and helps to refreshen my heart.
     Thank you all very much for sharing such deeply personal aspects of your lives. It means a great deal to me. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you.

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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