Most of you will probably remember that in my last update I told you of all the problems my husband and I had been having - my husband was hospitalized due to a bad crohn's flare and was almost in full kidney failure, then he got knocked unconcious by a piece of debris that came off the racetrack that he works at, then he hit a deer with our only car. My pain has been totally out of control for months, and I'm having a lot of stomach related issues.
I didn't think things could get much worse, but last week, while working at the same racetrack, my husband was hit by a racing ATV (4-wheeler/Quad). The worst part (besides my husband injuries of course), is that it did not have to happen. The race had just ended, and it is standard practice at that point that my husband points them all to the top of the track (closest to the wall), and they go off the track. This idiot decided to ignore my husbands direction because he and another guy were sharing the same 4-wheeler, racing in different divisions, and his buddy was waiting in the in-field (center) of the racetrack to switch places. This guy had all the room in the world to turn into the in-field way before he ever came near my husband, and had just as much room to go past my husband and then turn into the in-field, but for some unknown reason the idiot decided to go "through" my husband. My husband saw the guy out of place and saw him coming towards him, and even though he didn't think the guy was stupid enough to come anywhere near him, he moved, and as the guy kept coming closer, my husband kept moving out of his way, and my husband said it was like he was trying to run him down, wherever he moved, the guy moved with him.
My husband has substantial injuries to his right knee - 3 out of the 4 tendons that hold your knee and leg bones in place are torn and ruptured. The one tendon that did not get torn, is the only thing that is holding his femur and shin bones from becoming "free-floating" in his leg. His knee cap was dislocated, the bones in his leg were bruised severely, and he has brusies & road rash the likes of which I have never seen from his hip down to his ankle around the entire leg. He is not allowed to bear any weight on that leg at all, and if he moves it ever so slightly, the pain is excrutiating. He broke his right thumb, and he has road rash and bruises in various places all over his body. His right leg is in an immobilizer & he is on crutches, but that is causing him a great deal of pain, so I am trying to get him a wheelchair. He will most likely need extensive reconstructive surgery, but they can't do anything until the swelling goes down which they are expecting to take a minimum of 4 weeks. The doctor said they can not sew the tendons back together, he said they will have to "put something else in their place", but he did not explain if that meant they would take the tendons from other areas of his body, or what. There is a very slim chance that if enough scar tissue forms and fills in the space between the 2 ends of each tendon that is torn, and it fuses with the pieces of tendon, that he may not need surgery, but it is a very slim chance. If he does need the surgery, it is a minimum of 8 - 12 months recovery time and he may loose his job as a corrections officer (he has 23 years in and is 2 years away from possible retirement).
He can not get to the bathroom by himself, he can not dress himself, he can not shower himself, and everything must be brought to him. He is either in the recliner or in bed with his leg elevated and he must ice it as much as he can stand. It is taking a huge toll on me physically, but our insurance will not cover a home health aid of any sort, & I do not have family to call on for help. My 16 & 13 year old boys are helping out when they are around, but other than that, it is me. I feel so bad because I feel like I am not doing a very good job.
I am absolutely terrified about how this is going to affect him, his job, our future, our finances. I am so overwhelmed by all of this, and by my physical pain level - I just don't know what to do. Your prayers and words of encouragement would be so very much appreciated.
Thanks for taking the time to read this.