~Friday Koffee Klatch (Myths)

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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 7/9/2010 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
     If you are new to this forum family then you may be wondering what kind of goofy question is that on a health care forum. idea   We all suffer with medical conditions and with most of us there is pain involved...sometimes a lot of pain. Or maybe you are the loved one of one of these persons. This forum is all about how we help and support each other, how we gain back more quality to our lives, and how we can learn and share what we gain along the way and hopefully make not only our lives better but the lives of others who come to join us.

     But we need to also remember that there is the other side of life...the side that isn't concentrated on illness and pain. That's why we started the daily Koffee Klatch. This is a time to laugh, reminisce, chit-chat about the silly things in our lives...all fun things and no pain. In fact the 'P' word is not allowed...  turn   So each day we share our thoughts or experiences on a different topic. Often it includes food, sometimes we talk about our past, and other times we just get goofy! Laughter is our goal. So, please join us whether this is your very first day on Healing Well or you're a seasoned veteran.
(Sure do miss you Chutz!!)
     Don't you just HATE the assumptions others make about chronic pain patients? My all time favorite?.....
      *snicker* Where they assume we take medicine to get high somehow. Which is rediclious. We arnt taking more and more medicine for the "High like" side effect that come with our medicine. On the contrary, we try very hard to get used to the side effects quickly so we can get back to living our lives!  smhair
     ...I HATE the assumptions that others make. Don't you? Do you have a common "myth" about chronic pain patients you hate? What is it? Please, share with us.
What "myths" about chronic pain patients bothers you the most?

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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   Posted 7/9/2010 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Dani.  You chose the same one as I do.  I hate it when people assume that we chronic pain patients  are wanting our meds just to get high.  I didn't go to the ER when I had the accident with my wheel chair because I didn't want to have to go thru that mess.  My PM dr. asked me why I didn't go to the ER.  I told her that I didn't want to be treated like somebody that is looking to get "high".
It makes me so mad when people are treated like that.  AAAAHHHHH!!!!!
love and hugs
Dx:  ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, hypothyroidism, typeII diabetes, asthma, allergies, high blood pressure, polycystic ovary syndrome, PTSD, depression, anxiety

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   Posted 7/9/2010 11:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh my goodness....that is definitely a HUGE one...Neither my sister or I will go to the ER here unless it is completely unbearable!! It is totally ridiculous the way you are treated! I had a really good PCP that told me once.....when I was worried about getting "addicted" because he was increasing my pain meds......"there is a big difference between addiction and dependence!" I agree Dani....when I first needed the pain meds....I hated the way they made me feel! I would wait until I could not take it anymore, before I would take something! Of course, that doesn't work....when you spend your day "chasing you pain"! But I have never....in 3 years... NEVER ran out of my meds early!

But anyway....enough of that rant....how about, "the pain is all in you head" it can't be that bad all the time!

They have NO clue as to just how bad it can be all the time!!

Take care everyone,

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   Posted 7/9/2010 12:00 PM (GMT -6)   
People can't see my pain because I have chronic headaches. I get tired of people telling me oh you look so great or you sound great today. They can't see the pain I am in because it is invisible to them.
If they could only walk a few days in my shoes then they would really know how i feel.
Sorry I am angry at my pain today. Can you be angry and sad at the same time???
 Chronic, severe and continuous bilateral temporal headaches since 2000.

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   Posted 7/9/2010 1:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Ok, Big one for me...
If you weren't overweight then your back wouldn't hurt!!! 
If you just get up and do something (like I don't do everything around a very large house several times a week and nobody helps except my 10 year old) then you won't think about it (pain)!! 
Lastly....You know you really shouldn't take so many meds...they're not healthy!! (So I guess I just decided what I needed and told the multitude of Dr's what I should be taking and when and then decided to not exercise enough to loose my excess weight and now I'm too lazy to get up except to eat and take meds...Did I get that right??).  Ugggghhhhhhh!
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   Posted 7/9/2010 2:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I think I have to go with the 'but you look fine/good/great", or " you're too young (I'm 60!!!!) to be in this much pain - just wait 'til you're my age" (usually coming from someone in their 70's or 80's who has some bad arthritis).


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   Posted 7/9/2010 3:30 PM (GMT -6)   
PALady you hit mine spot on...'You are too Young" I sure do hate that one....(I look and sound like I'm 24/25 and I'll be 45 later this year)
Everyone does a double look at my file then at me....I sure do hate this sometimes and I know I should'nt complain, but at least
doctors take y'all seriously...geezee....My daughter looks more like my sister and I hear it a lot...it's okay sometimes, but then
sometimes people are cruel....
* Asthma, Allergies, Osteoarthritis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenative Disc (Lower Lumbar S1-L3 and Cervical C5,C6, C8 and T1), Fibromyalgia, Gerd,
Enlarged Pituitary Gland, Sjogren's, Ocular Migraines, mild carpel tunnel, ect.... "Would be nice if we could use the edit button in real life"...


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   Posted 7/9/2010 4:39 PM (GMT -6)   
OK, I'm in! Why don't you be a "MAN" instead of a little *****? Back when I had my accident, "I didn't take any pain pills so why do you need them you little fairry?" When the going gets tough, the tough get going!!!> Tough it out you girlyman!!! Oh what a macho world we live in!!!> Sad state of affairs!!!
Hug to All Y'all!!!
When I was young & stupid I broke almost every bone in my body and I'm paying a heavy price now but I'm still here and so glad to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men, both are in the Navy. I'm so proud! My biggest health problem>> I'm a certified Luny~Tune!!

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   Posted 7/9/2010 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   

As a Crohnie I really HATE when people ask you why your so weak or tired looking and then you say..."cuz I've been gone #2 like 20x's today" ......and then they will say..." Oh, that's tooo much information!!!" like I'm gross! Well, I guess I am gross then...but it's the truth!

I just want to say, "If you don't really want to know....don't ask!!!"

Oh and one more...I have to pick through my food for food I can't have...and people will say, "You take all the good stuff out"....hahahahaha if they only knew I'd love to eat that stuff.... but CAN't!


 "Get busy living or get busy dying"
Dx in 2005 with Crohns after a Hysterectomy. Re-section in 2006...came apart so got to do it again! Frequent Kidney stones and Shingles... a new present as of 08-09 Diabetes Type 2. Total of 12 surgerys.
Imran, Asacol, Colestid, Bentyl, Lamotil, Paxil, Nexium, Probiodicts, Vit D, Folic Acid, Lots of Potassium, Fish Oil, up to 6 Immodium a day. Oh, and one Giant Pill holder!

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   Posted 7/10/2010 1:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Dani...and all...

I'm still around and will be back on "duty" after the weekend, I hope. Moving daughter and her family this weekend and I'm so tired from other things going on this week. Been having those wonderful fibro headaches that just won't let go and last for days on end.

As far as myths... I hate that others look at you and you are not writhing on the floor in pain every single moment so they assume you're feeling fine. On a very personal level It frustrates me that my own daughter is in denial about my health. She doesn't like being around "sick" people and has told me that many times over the years. The Fibro Fog sets in and I can't remember small things some times. She treats it like "why don't you remember this mom?" She knows about Fibro, I have explained it to her, and she worked with a gal who had fibro for many years...but she doesn't want her mom *like that* so she's not going to hear it. She treats her fibro friend with such compassion but her mom??? She pretends I have no limitations. It hurt my heart way more than my body.

If you're going through hell, keep going.

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Fibromyalgia, PTSD, UC, Diabetic on insulin, collapsed disk, arthritis scattered around and a few other delights.

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   Posted 7/10/2010 3:44 AM (GMT -6)   
This is a great thread. It infuriates me to read though because there are so many misconceptions about pain/pain meds., attitudes of others, etc.

This one woman (boss's boss) told me that I walk fast with my cane and that I look great. She was basically (her tone) saying that I don't LOOK like I"m in pain...

I smiled a huge smile and told her that she made me feel wonderful! In reality, she really upset me because I felt like she was saying "WHY can you walk so fast if you have pain?"

Well, it just happened that that was a day that for two minutes I was able to walk fast!!! Then I paid for it later..

I would not wish my pain on anyone, but sometimes I wish that someone who is questioning my pain or someone who judgemental about medications could feel what I feel for an hour. At work, I am blessed that people understand what I go through because they see how bad I get and they are very helpful, but there are always some bad apples in the bunch that seem to think that they know more about this than doctors.


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