Good evening *warm hugg* I am glad you stopped by. I was wondering just the other day how the adoption was comming along and if you had been able to get your pain down. I see now though that not only has your pain increased but you are at witts end as well. *hugg* I am so sorry you have so much on your shoulders right now.
You know, Sometimes I think the people around us.... they know we can handle more than the average bear. Emotionally, physically. Its the curse of a woman IMHO. Sometimes I have to spell it out for my loved ones. You know, good ol black and white, BIG BOLD DIRECTIONS. I donno what it is, but once we become moms its like we are expected to be super woman the rest of our lives. *sigh* So, spell it out.
~~> "I CANNOT move. I love you, and I WANT to do XYZ for you, but I physically just cannot do it right now. PLease help me by ___________."
You know last year, BCBS, what a nightmare.... So, while I was dealing with their inability to even pay for the basics, I payed out to the hospital and doctors the portion I would normally be left paying. Which for us 10%. Then to keep my account current I would talk to billing and let them know I am re filing so I didnt get stuck with late fees on top of everything during the appeal. I literally had to apeal 98% of all my bills last year. The worst part??? My doctors and surgeons were all only charging me for materials only. Even for my eyes and dental reconstruction. No kidding, I still had to eat 22K in medical costs. Rediclious what insurnace companies get away with. Argh. Im getting off track, sorry. In anycase, my advise is to talk to billing, pay the portion you would normally pay and get the appeal done and a payment plann started if possible. If anything it will get you in the "current" status so you can get your next procedure done.
Most of all I am so sorry you have so much high stress going on in your life on top of debilitating chronic pain. That has got to be diffacult to say the least. I do hope you can get enough help so you can work on just YOU for a little while. You are the kind of person to give 200% of who you are to everyone around you, but only ask for bare minimum for yourself. Its time to give yourself some attention. You are in our prayers here. Stay strong!
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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