Today was a good day, up until my Mom spilled the beans. Our family goes to a wonderful church near our home, and today my fiance and I finally joined the church as full members. Mom was there with my nieces, which was great! Our church has an Outreach team to help the community and have fun events for all to participate. Today was Psychedelic Sunday, and my fellow team members and I spent weeks getting ready to have a picnic and tie-dye. I was in charge of the tie-dye.
It was a lot of fun, but for some reason, my mom decided to tell all these people on the Outreach team with me that I will work myself to the point of pain and never ask for help. I do love to do things on my own, but I know my limitations and had already asked for help. After the third person hovering over me telling me to sit down and take it easy, I realized my mom intervened again and as my son said "told on me!"
Most of my church family knows my medical issues cause me to change the way I do things. Being useful and helping is just as important to people with any chronic illness as taking care of themselves. Seeing the children enjoying making beautiful and unique shirts to wear made me feel wonderful, and although I do hurt a little more now than before it was well worth it. I can't spend my whole life in bed, wishing the pain would stop. At times, I just have to get out and do something in spite of the pain.
I know my mom loves me and was trying to help, but we have had this discussion before about privacy and overstepping bounds. When I got home, I talked to her about how rewarding it was regardless of the pain, and next time to allow me to ask for help before intervening on my behalf.
Why do so many people think they can tell us what to do with our lives or our bodies? I fully understand as a mother not wanting your child to hurt, but hurting is part of life along with the joy for many of us. For me, showing those children a fun time was way more important than sitting on the sidelines watching.
Thank you for listening to the vent. I had to get it out!
Pelvic adhesive disease, Irritable bowel syndrome, SI joint pain, 7 pelvic surgeries for pain, ovarian cysts, and adhesions.