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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/11/2010 11:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Thursday Koffee Klatch
     If you are new to this forum family then you may be wondering what kind of goofy question is that on a health care forum. idea   We all suffer with medical conditions and with most of us there is pain involved...sometimes a lot of pain. Or maybe you are the loved one of one of these persons. This forum is all about how we help and support each other, how we gain back more quality to our lives, and how we can learn and share what we gain along the way and hopefully make not only our lives better but the lives of others who come to join us.

      But we need to also remember that there is the other side of life...the side that isn't concentrated on illness and pain. That's why we started the daily Koffee Klatch. This is a time to laugh, reminisce, chit-chat about the silly things in our lives...all fun things and no pain. In fact the 'P' word is not allowed...  turn    So each day we share our thoughts or experiences on a different topic. Often it includes food, sometimes we talk about our past, and other times we just get goofy! Laughter is our goal. So, please join us whether this is your very first day on Healing Well or you're a seasoned veteran.
Daily Question:
     Todays Koffee Klatch we will be bending the rules. It is of a more serious nature.
Please, do not feel pressured to answer the daily question if you feel uncomfortable doing so.
Please tell us 5 ways that Chronic Pain has changed your life for the better
Please tell us 5 ways Chronic Pain has changed your life for the worse

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:01 AM (GMT -6)   
For the Better:

1. It has brought me some wonderful friends! yeah

2. It has made me a stronger Person. cool

3. It has brought my wife and I closer.

4. It has provided me more Education smilewinkgrin

5. It has provided me with new goals in life! :-)

5B. It has strengthened me Spiritually

For the Worse:
1. I have a strong sense of Guilt.
2. Fearful or worried for the future of my Health.
3. Lost people, who I thought were my friends
4. Angry, at those who don't understand CP
5. Leary of our Goverment and the red tape to get help for us all.
"Respect your fellow human being, treat them fairly, disagree with them honestly, enjoy their friendship, explore your thoughts about one another candidly, work together for a common goal and help one another achieve it."

Post Edited (Screaming Eagle) : 8/12/2010 9:28:45 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:38 AM (GMT -6)   
(Sorry if I steal a couple from you, SE)...

For the better:
--I've made some amazing, life-long friendships
--It's made me grow in my faith in ways I probably never would have
--It's made me appreciate the simple things in life, and to not take things for granted
--It's taught me - and my family - extreme patience
--It's made me really be sensitive to others that are struggling and a much less-judgmental person

(are we supposed to answer both questions??...)

For the worse:
--I can't do the things I want as a mom/wife/daughter/friend...sometimes, the simple things...like even a phone call - is too much when I'm struggling. It's especially hard as a mom.

Hmmm...interesting... I could have listed more under the "better" and I really can't think of more for the "worse". I guess that's a good thing, right??

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/12/2010 12:41 AM (GMT -6)   
  Yes, both. If you would rather only answer one or the other that is okay too
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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   Posted 8/12/2010 1:02 AM (GMT -6)   
For the better:
- It has made me tougher because I often have to pull myself together to still function despite the pain.
- It has made me more understanding towards other people. I'd never judge anyone suffering from undiagnosed pain, would never say they're making it up.
- It has given me more understanding for my dad who has to deal with chronic pain that is much worse than mine.
- It has made me grateful. We taki it for granted how our bodies function, but actually, it's a micracle how everything works.
- It made me get to know people like all of you on here.

For the worse:
- It has destroyed my faith in doctors who let it get to this point because they wouldn't believe me.
- I used to love dancing and making choreographies. And I'd just found the possibility to rent a room for an hour that I could use. But the diagnosis and the pain has made me realize that dancing, with all the jumps, is not good for my knees so I had to stop. It used to be so important to me and it hurts to have that takne away from me.
- At my age of 25, nobody expects a person to suffer from any permanent physical problems which makes me feel worse because I do and when I walk with a limp, people give me these looks full of pity which make me feel incredibly embarassed.
- I started to learn swordfencing at the beginning of the year, to have fun, but often it is quite a serious business for me because during the lessons, I have to deal with the pain as well.
- It often makes me feel unattractive.

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   Posted 8/12/2010 6:27 AM (GMT -6)   
  Great question Dani        for the better: 1) forced me to stop running away from feeling                                                                 2)I've met great people                                                                 3)Allowed me to get healthy                                                                 4)Showed me I can do what I need to                                           the worse:1)lack of mobility is the only downside and pain                  
HIV+. meds - epzicom, Kaletra . oxycontin as needed , indothemiacin . hip replacement surgery scheduled for August 23rd !

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 8/12/2010 7:53 AM (GMT -6)   
For the better
1. I have met some wonderful people.
2. It has helped me grow spiritually and foster more trust in my family.
3. I now know who is most important in my life and who truly loves me.
4. Has taught my family and myself patience and perseverance.
5. I am able to be home more with my sons instead of always at work.

For the worse
1. The lack of mobility and independence stink!
2. It is hard to tell my sons that I can't do something, either because the day is bad, or simply because it causes severe pain.
3. The depression, feelings of worthlessness and unattractiveness.

That is a great question, and forced me to really assess if things are as bad as they seem. It feels good to see that the worse section is smaller and the issues there are not an everyday issue!
Pelvic adhesive disease, Irritable bowel syndrome, SI joint pain, 7 pelvic surgeries for pain, ovarian cysts, and adhesions.

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   Posted 8/12/2010 5:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow Dani, I looked at this topic this morning and I have tried not to read anyone's answers yet! I am trying to look deep inside and find my own answers to these questions! The 5 ways that it has changed my life for the better is really difficult for me and I am really trying not to be negative! Soooo I will do what I can here......here goes:

For the Better: 1) Most importantly....I made some wonderful new friends/family here!!
2) I am more tolerant of others people's problems.
3) I think I am more patient but my husband said "No way!" then laughs!
4) I never felt like I was a judgmental person, but it has made me even less.
5) My family and friends are even more precious to me!

For the Worse: 1) I feel so alone!
2) I hurt all the time and miss out on so much because of it!
3) Financially it is destroying us, because I can't work right now!
4) The depression that goes along with CP seems to be taking over!
5) Most importantly.....it is hurting my husband!!

I could go on and on with the "for the worse section...like I have gotten fat and ugly and all that other stuff! CP definitely takes its toll! Very good question Dani!!

Take care everyone! Thank you for welcoming me into this wonderful family!!

Spinal Stenosis L3/L4, L4/L5 & L5/S1 with Nerve Impingement ***Fibromyalgia***TMJ***GERD***Severe Depression***VERY Large Cyst Right Ovary causing mild twisting, Small Cysts Left Ovary & 3 Large Cysts Uteru****Possible RA

Medications - MS-Contin, Cymbalta, Famotidine and currently Prednisone

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   Posted 8/12/2010 6:36 PM (GMT -6)   
For the better:
1. I have become more aware of what is trully important in life. idea
2. I don't take things for granted blush
3. I have learned what true friendship is..all the good and bad :-)
4. I have met some trully amazing resilient people here that I consider a second family smilewinkgrin 5. I have realized what an amazing man I am married to. yeah
Now for the bad:
1. I have come to realize just how bad our healthcare sytem is. nono
2.I see what it is like to suffer to the point where you think there can't possibly be more..and then there is. shocked
3. I have allowed pain and disease to hod me back from persuing my dreams..using it as a crutch and excuse. mad
4. I miss out on so much of my children's moments cry  This should have been first. 
5. I have not been as good of a wife as my husband deserves. shakehead
That's mine for the day. Heather
Big Hugs, Mama6

DX. with Fibromyalgia, Narcolepsy, Poss. RA or Psoratic Arthritis, Herniated disc 3x in last 7 months
Meds: Nuvigl, Cymbalta, Tramadol

Mother to 5 wonderfull kids. Oldest is 18 and just left the nest for animation school. Youngest just started 2nd grade. So I am crazy, and feeling my age plus some.

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 8/12/2010 10:02 PM (GMT -6)   


    Thank you all for sharing such deeply personal aspects of your lives. We all share many of the same struggles and triumphs. What makes us unique is that we come together to support one another through the good times and the bad times. Together we can do so much.

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
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