Hi Retired Mom,
Yeah i completely understand what you mean, even when i am in hospital with a feeding tube and drips and things i get a bit embarrassed and dont like people im not close with to see me.
But i have spoken to her and asked her what she wants in terms of support and that i will be by her side if she wants but i also know that she will need time on her own and understand that is normal and she will need rest. she told me that she is so scared about this and wants someone to hold her hand going in and she wants that person to be me, and she said it would be good for her if i can be there after aswell. and we have talked about during her recovery how often she will want me there, and because the doctors normally do rounds before 2pm and by 2pm she should be resting and not have too much being done except for the occasional nurses checking up etc. im gonna go after school everyday and take her things to do and dinner and just stay til she feels like it or needs sleep or whatever. we are extremely close friends even though we haven't known each other all that long, but i guess we just click and she is so lovely and easy to get along with :) so we can talk about anything and i will check with her often when im there what she wants and offer to leave etc. i think she will tell me if she wants to be alone, and i can just go out of the room when they are examining even though im sure she wouldn't mind too much.
I've stayed at her house after flare ups and shes stayed at mine when she has been feeling sick too and so i have been there with the smells and when shes in pain etc, she does get a bit embarrassed, everyone would! but whenever it happens we just laugh about it or i just pretend not to notice except for the occasional ones or ill say i did one too and yeah its alright really, i think we will be fine and ill make sure i'm aware of whats going on and get her mum to ask her what she wants honestly and she can let me know :)
Thanks heaps for your reply and advice :) xx
15 years old,
Chronic stomach pain with no diagnosis yet and lots of other things.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going.