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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 9/14/2010 8:42 AM (GMT -6)   
My fiance just found out that as of October 2nd, he is laid off with no return. He sounded as though it is a big blow to him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help him through this? Or what to do beyond filing for unemployment and looking for another job?
Part of me feels very guilty right now. If I was working, this wouldn't be such a big blow to him.

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 9/14/2010 8:45 AM (GMT -6)   
That came out all wrong. If I was working, it wouldnt be such a stressful time for all of us.

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   Posted 9/14/2010 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Its not your fault first of all , he may need to work it out himself , but maybe ask him if you can help in any way . Whats his profession ? Check all the want ads and online and see if theres anything he can apply for , Good Luck !! Mikel
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   Posted 9/14/2010 2:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Is the company offering any type of severance or career counselling? I know that many large companies will make available services such as professional resume writing, networking, etc. as part of the layoff package. I hope that your hubby isn't being let go with no severence package, although legally, the company doesn't have to do anything except give the two week notice.

I hope that there are jobs out there for your hubby in his line of work. I'll keep this specifically in my prayers and I hope he finds something quickly. Please don't feel guilty about not being able to work. You have a condition that makes doing things difficult...end of subject. I'll also pray for the two of you, that this situation with strengthen you as a couple, and not drive you apart.

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   Posted 9/14/2010 4:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Hugsss Monty's Mom! My heart goes out to you in this stressful time. I know how guilty you feel with not being able to work. Boy do I know that feeling!! Just keep your chin up and maybe soon everything will be fine.


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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 9/14/2010 6:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all for the help. He is a mechanic for a limousine company that is a very small business, and the boss decided to stop the fleet cars and go to busses. Unfortunately for us, he is not a diesel mechanic, and the company cant afford to pay for his schooling. We have been searching this evening together for jobs, and he has submitted resumes. We have some savings, so things aren't desperate.
I was so afraid he would come home depressed and lose his desire to try. We went through this shortly after we met 2 years ago, and he went through a time of depression and doubt which is completely understandable in the circumstances. We will pull through this as a family, backing each other up and working together. More unfortunately for us, there is no severance package since it is a small business, but his employers is being very kind and he will be getting unemployment if we are unsuccessful in finding him a job in the next 2 weeks. Thank you for the thoughts and prayers.

The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That's the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw

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   Posted 9/15/2010 10:19 AM (GMT -6)   



Dear Mindy,

     I am so sorry to hear that your fiancĂ© has been let go. I can well imagine it is very stressful. The job market being fickle at best cannot be of much help either. My only suggestion would be some smaller things..

  • Enroll in your local job fair. That way you get notifications when and where they will be.
  • Find out about COBRA. Low income insurance provided by the state.
  • See if there is low cost technical vocation school or community vocation institute so that he can get up to date on skills set and learn more diverse area of mechanics. They have low cost fees for low income. (If he is training while out of work it would look good on his resume)
  • Phone companies and utilities providers have low income bill reduction plan. It might be something to look into as well. Every little bit will help as fall and cold weather moves in.

     Most of all please don't blame yourself. If there was something you could do I know you would! It isn't your fault. If you were working, you would likely be causing accelerated damage to your body. That would only make things much worse for your family in the long run. 

     I hope you are able to get everything ready in time. I am so terribly sorry you are getting hit with this. Please know you and your family are in our hearts and prayers.


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And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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