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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 9/29/2010 11:49 PM (GMT -6)   
When I hear someone describe another person by the word driven, I think of all the success stories you hear about. Rags to riches stories or a tale of someone overcoming a major illness or injury to do something doctor's thought wouldn't be possible. I never thought that word could be applied to myself and all of us here on HW.
As some of you know, I became a Mary Kay consultant just a month ago and have been struggling in that as well as struggling through many obstacles from CP and the many other issues that come up emotionally as well as physically. The isolation I felt from being home all day was keeping me from where I wanted to be in life. So many of us struggle with that even if we don't suffer from an illness. Earlier this week I was inspired to begin a prayer shawl ministry at my church. It is crocheting or knitting a shawl while saying prayers for the person it will go to. They are given to people suffering loss of a loved one, illness, emotional issues, or just generally needing comfort and to feel that someone is caring for them. Our church will have a service to "bless" or infuse them with prayers from the whole congregation and possible a small blessing ceremony when it is given away. Hopefully with these two ways to touch other lives than my family, that feeling of isolation and unworthiness will disperse for now.
But on with my point. Today, someone I haven't been able to get along with very well told me I was driven. At first I felt insulted. It sounds like a bad thing coming from her, and I had never applied that adjective to myself before. It made me evaluate myself, and also to see all of the people who post on here in a very different light. We are all driven. It is what brought us to HW. Without the drive for knowledge, understanding, healing, and the loving connection that people who suffer in the same way you do, none of us would be here. The support we give each other is another form of this as well. We are all driven people. Some have a desire for healing, some for learning to cope, others just to hear a voice and not feel so alone, to provide comfort,  to feel accepted or to feel valued as a person. There are those of us with a drive to accomplish as much as we could before our lives were changed by CP, and those of us whose drive is simply to be comfortable that day. Many of the people on here have a drive to care for their families and balance their physical needs as well.
Whatever the drive or desire may be, we are all reaching for common goals. We are all driven to be better people, or at least in a better place or frame of mind. I see it in every post showing caring, comfort, understanding, and offers of help. I see it in the prayers spoken, the laughs shared, the stories told. I think that when we lose that drive, we give in to CP and lose part of ourselves.
Sorry for rambling, just had to get that out.
The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That's the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw

Pelvic adhesive disease, Irritable bowel syndrome, SI joint pain, 7 pelvic surgeries for pain, ovarian cysts, adhesions, and a kidney stone! Wait, future medial transcriptionist I must say ureteral calculus!

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 9/30/2010 7:57 AM (GMT -6)   
    Good morning Monty's Mom!
       Oh!....just wait untill someone says you are Over/Zealous! That will blow your mind! smilewinkgrin
    Good Post! Thanks!
    SE wink

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   Posted 9/30/2010 9:34 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you Mindy!! I needed that today!!

Hope you have a wonderful day too!


One day at a time!!

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 9/30/2010 9:40 AM (GMT -6)   


  Dear Mindy,

     Good morning *hugg* I am so glad you stopped by. How are you feeling today? Tolerable I hope. You have been through so much this past month and yet remain so positive. It takes a lot of strength.

    Your shawl idea is wonderful! I think it could very well touch so many lives. Let them know just how many people care about them and think / pray for them each day. I have to say it touched me deeply just how much you care about others.

     Yes, you are right. Driven is a good way to describe members here at Healing Well. I think we all often forget just how hard we work each and every day. I often hear "I wish I could do ____" or "It takes all I have just to do_____". All I can think is that even if it took you all day to do a task, you worked just as hard as anyone else out in the world. It took me a week to fall of clean my children's rooms (I do this "full clean" every 4 months). Last May it took me 4 days to deep clean their rooms. Last winter the same task took 3 days. I know I definitely worked just as hard, each day this week as I did previous times. It just took me longer. It is the same for many on Healing Well as well. Working just as hard as anyone else in the world. Just as driven to complete a task no matter how large or small the tasks look to others. It would serve us well to remember your words as often as we can.

     Okay, I see I am chatting away here! I do hope you have a great day. Thank goodness the week is nearly over!

*warm hugg*

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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