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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 10/1/2010 9:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Ahh, today is just one of those days where throwing in the towel and giving up seems like a great thing to do. Yesterday, I had to help my neighbor. Her roof was leaking badly, so we climbed on up and covered the bad areas with tarps and secured them with bricks. Not a smart thing to do. So bring on the aching, stabbing pains and soreness. Not too mention I had been brewing another cold and it just decided to become full blown.
My fiance is laid off as of the end of today, and he is miserable. I am trying to give him the space he needs but still be there for him to talk to and help. This doesn't help the feeling of uselessness today. Plus, our internet is patchy at best and we are having intermittent bouts of no electricity, so my schoolwork and lifeline to people is sporadic at best.
So I am throwing in the towel for today. It must be a day to take care of me and try not to worry about all the other stuff going on that is out of my control. If only that was remotely possible!
The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That's the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw

Pelvic adhesive disease, Irritable bowel syndrome, SI joint pain, 7 pelvic surgeries for pain, ovarian cysts, adhesions, and a kidney stone! Wait, future medial transcriptionist I must say ureteral calculus!

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   Posted 10/1/2010 9:44 AM (GMT -6)   
We all have those days as you know. So take today as a me day and do what you need to do for you. Tomorrow will be another day. I do hope something soon comes along for your fiance. I know jobs are scarce but will keep my fingers crossed something good happens out of this.
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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 10/1/2010 9:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you struggle with allowing yourself those me days?  Does that feeling that you must be doing something ever diminish? Thank you for the good thoughts. He has sent out many resumes but no luck yet!

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   Posted 10/1/2010 10:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear Mindy,
    I wish I could help you in some way. I am so sorry that things are so hard for you right now. I know you love your fiancĂ© very much and it must pain you greatly to see him so sad. *hugg*
     I read this poem a few days ago, I think you might like it too. The author is unknown....
A Motivational Poem
When We Share

Poet: Unknown
When we share laughter, there's twice the fun;
When we share success, we surpass what we've done.

When we share problems, there's half the pain;
When we share tears, a rainbow follows rain.

When we share dreams, they become more real;
When we share secrets, it's our hearts we reveal.

If we share a smile, then our love shows;
If we share a hug, then our love grows.

If we share with someone on whom we depend,
That person becomes family or friend.

And what draws us closer and makes us all care,
Is not what we have, but the things that we share.

~ ~ ~

Keep loving others as you always have!
Know you are in our hearts and prayers here!

*warm hugg*

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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   Posted 10/1/2010 1:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Dani, thanks for that...
Mindy you go and take that day for you...I believe we all need them...
Maybe share a hot shower with your boyfriend...hopefully the heat of the shower will help, too...
healing Hugz
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   Posted 10/1/2010 1:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mindy,

Hugs to you on a tough day! You did a very nice thing, helping your neighbor yesterday. You have several things going on right now that are out of your immediate control. But giving yourself a break is within your control. :) Take a day and read a book, or whatever you like to do to relax and try not to worry for today. Those things will still be there tomorrow, when you have given your body a chance to rest. And your body needs to direct its energy into fighting your cold, not handling all the other things that will still be there a few days from now. I have learned the hard way that the quicker you put the breaks on and let your body use everything it has to fight the illness, the faster you will recover. :) So put your feet up, grab yourself a cup of tea, a warm cozy blanket and a book or that remote control and let your body repair itself. I know it isn't easy to sit back and ignore the things you think you ought to be doing as a mom or a wife, but your body needs you to do just that! Allowing yourself those me days makes you a better wife and mom, not a worse one. We all need to recharge our batteries from time to time, and I think dealing with chronic pain probably increases the speed that those batteries drain. Feel better soon!


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   Posted 10/1/2010 3:02 PM (GMT -6)   

Repeat after me: This Too Shall Pass!

Also take a deep breath in and say PEACE; take a deep breath out and say CALM.

I hope your day gets better. Seems like all of us in CP have 80% of our days like that. Doesn't seem fair, but somehow we all cope!

I hope you have a gloriously, dazzling weekend of YOU time. You deserve it!

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   Posted 10/1/2010 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
MM, yes it was hard for me to learn how to have a "me" day. I don't know how to relax, never have. Some people can be content sitting and watching a tv show, or say listening to music. I never learned that, I felt like I was wasting time sitting there on my behind. To this day I rarely watch tv, again the old its a waste of time creeps in and find myself up doing something in the house. Something always needs cleaning, its way too much house at this point to handle. I generally will go outside and kick around some of my plants and flowers and mess with them, that is my relaxation. I enjoy music and usually will usually turn the stereo on outside and do yard work. I still have a lot of flowers this late and they tending to, so with a cup of coffee in hand I am armed, lol.
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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 10/1/2010 7:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all for the acceptance and advice. Dani, the poem was lovely and you all have made me cry a little. I think we are hardest on ourselves most of the time. It feels wonderful to have family that understands what I am saying and feeling without being told I am lazy or whining.
I really don't know where I would be without all of you here. Depressed and lying in bed still probably and missing out on life.
This weekend is relaxation for myself and my family. I will be crocheting a lot since I can do it easily while reclining.
Have a great, low pain weekend everyone! Thank you for the good thoughts.
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