Oh my gosh Francess! That is really BIG news!!! I know you have worked so hard for that goal for a long time! Goodness you made my day!
Paula, I am so sorry. You have been through so much this last month! Now your husband lost his job! I am so sorry *warm hugg* Just between us if I were you I would put the tea bag trash on the offenders bed with a nice note remaining that you rant a house maid!
Geeze Jim. The financial stress your family is under is tremendous. The looming threat of your house being auctioned?? I wish there were some sort of system in place to protect families homes. To have the threat of your home being taken away at the drop of a dime seems so predatory to me.
..though my problems are incredibly small I think I will vent them too.
I have some stuff going on with my mother in law that is driving me a little batty. She hasn't accepted that I am ill. She just says things like well "your young". "Lots of people have spine problems". Your on too much "medication, I would pass out if I took that much.". "Your slower than I am and I'm 64!". Do you really need all that medication.. blah blah. Normal kinds of things. No one knew how bad it had gotten till I got out to Florida for vacation when they finally "saw" me. I changed a LOT in just 2yrs time. I don't look the same at all. I love her very much. Honestly she could kick me and I would still love her, but her actions this last year are straining her relationships with everyone around her.
Yesterday, I got an email from my mother in law .. well, not really an email. It was a plane ticket confirmation. She didn't even call to ask or tell me she wanted to stay for the month of December and beginning of January. When my husband called her to tell her we just couldn't do it she began lying. Saying she had talked to me about. Then tried to tell David that he had said it was okay for her to come out. Then she said she told the girls about and they were supposed to tell us. Now, that was uncalled for. Don't blame my children for your erratic behaviors or use them to justify the irresponsible actions. None of the excuses she gave happened of course. Had she talked to us about it we would have told her we have to move. She had to get refund on her tickets. Was mad at us. Had she asked about... anything. We could have told her.
This last year she has been doing a lot of fibbing. It is strange and frankly frustrating. She decides she wants something, she doesn't care about anyone around her while she is "getting" what ever it is she has decided she wants. For example, at Disney land, at night and scared me so badly. I turned around and she and the girls were gone. I was so frightened. I searched frantically everywhere. I couldn't breathe it was like something heavy was pushing on my chest. We all fanned out to search for her. When I finally found her she said "I was going to take my girls to see the parade and I am not going to wait for all of you." I said you scared me very badly, please do not do that again. "I want what I want and I am not going to wait around on any of you." She never said a word to anyone before she took off.
Another example is when she went to buy plane tickets for the girls to fly to Florida. No kidding, you heard me right. Again, never said a word. I told her of course my girls aren't flying or going anywhere without their David and I. They are 6 and 9yrs old. Don't be ridiculous. They aren't missing school and are not old enough to travel alone. School was about to start we couldn't afford, nor had the time for another trip. She never said a word. She had to get refunds for the ticket she bought for the girls.
Each time I have been very patient with the "impulses". She is strangly cold while she is doing this stuff too. I know David s family (even father who has since re married), everyone says "yepp, she has always been that way.". She just never was that way with me before. I mean once in a great while she would do something odd, uncaring. I would just find out what was really bothering her and if I could help in someway. This time she invited herself over a month. Never said a word. By this time David became upset. I think everyone has had enough of her. I mean everyone is fed up. It wouldn't be so bad I think if she were to just be honest. But she lies an awful lot to "make excuses" for her actions after the fact. It has become terribly draining.
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