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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 11/27/2010 2:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Saturday Koffee Klatch
     If you are new to this forum family then you may be wondering what kind of goofy question is that on a health care forum. idea   We all suffer with medical conditions and with most of us there is pain involved...sometimes a lot of pain. Or maybe you are the loved one of one of these persons. This forum is all about how we help and support each other, how we gain back more quality to our lives, and how we can learn and share what we gain along the way and hopefully make not only our lives better but the lives of others who come to join us.

      But we need to also remember that there is the other side of life...the side that isn't concentrated on illness and pain. That's why we started the daily Koffee Klatch. This is a time to laugh, reminisce, chit-chat about the silly things in our lives...all fun things and no pain. In fact the 'P' word is not allowed...  turn    So each day we share our thoughts or experiences on a different topic. Often it includes food, sometimes we talk about our past, and other times we just get goofy! Laughter is our goal. So, please join us whether this is your very first day on Healing Well or you're a seasoned veteran.
Daily Question:
Common, admit it!
Who over did it the last two days? If you did, hopefully you are resting as much as possible to recover. But! In hind sight, what do you think you should have done differently? What do you think you can do differently to make your next major holiday (Christmas, Hanukah, Winter Solstice, et al) a little less painful?

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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   Posted 11/27/2010 6:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Thursday was no problem for me as I didn't really do anything, but Friday was. It was when we had our Thanksgiving due to my wife's work schedule.

Other than making the pumpkin pies I fixed everything else. I did all right through the cooking as I was able to break most of that up into a little here and a little there through out the day, but it was the post meal cleanup that got to me. I was hurting pretty bad by the time I got all the left overs put away, the pan soaking and the dishes rinsed and put in the dish washer.

I was also pretty well ticked by the time I was done because I had no help to do any of it. It was just my wife, son and I and as soon as she was done eating she went back to bed and turned on a movie and called my son in there to cuddle and watch TV with her.

Next holiday meal I fix will be different as someone else can deal with the clean up. If not there probably won't be any more big meals like that again in my house.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.

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   Posted 11/27/2010 8:04 AM (GMT -6)   
I have anxiety issues so I deceided to take the bull by the horn and simplify. I am doing a pollyanna for Christmas and assigning family members certain things to bring to my house for the holidays. Instead of an elaborate meal we are keeping it simple. I am doing immediate family as far as christmas cards and telling my kids that I haven't won the lottery. I have already found that by doing these things already I have eliminated a great deal of stress on myself and others. I like to decorate and cook but during the holidays even these become a chore. I have deceided that not everyone needs a christmas cookie and I don't have to pull out every christmas decoration I have. My house was so lit up last year that it looked like a small fire. Perhaps a simple wreath and some garland on the door. It really helps everyone around you when are not caught up in an unrealistic pace. They tend to slow down too. Remember its suppose to be a holiday season not a helladay season

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   Posted 11/27/2010 8:25 AM (GMT -6)   
  Actually I am feeling rather great , I walked 2 blocks to the train , rode the train for an hour to Port Authority Bus Terminal , bought bus tickets , walked to platform and took a 2 and a half hour bus ride to Atlantic city NJ , then took a 1 hour fifteen min bus ride to Millville NJ to be with my family .I left on Wed . and did the return trip last night and I feel awesome ! If you could have heard the pain I was in 4 months ago , you wouldn't beleive this is the same man . Don't give up hope whatever your ailment , things can happen , it can get better , Beleive !!!!!  Love You All , Mikel
HIV+. meds - epzicom, Kaletra . oxycontin as needed , indothemiacin . hip replacement surgery done !!! Saw the surgeon and I'm really healing great ! Been in physical therapy for almost 2 months now and I can walk pretty well , only going up and down stairs is still a little tough so one step at a time , but that's because of my knee not my hip , but I can walk again , no cane , just me !!

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 11/27/2010 9:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Like Mikel, I'm feeling better today. The wife and the kids went to her mothers for Thanksgiving, but I elected to stay home, as I have been struggling for the past two weeks or so. I still have good days and bad days, and I have decided that the bad days are work related. So, I think that I do best not to ever do it on the weekends and let myself heal. These four days off work are just what the Dr ordered.

I have to be careful though, and not just lay around and let my back muscles go to mush, so I have been doing house work (washing cloths, cleaning house, cooking), not easy when your not feeling well.

So I'm not sure I would do anything different to be able to enjoy the Holidays or could do anything different. I just feel stuck and at the mercy of how I'm feeling each day. It comes and goes, and I can only hope that I'm still healing from the fusion surgery.
The Dr thinks I have permanent nerve damage, but I'm not so sure about that. I'm still hoping, but at the same time, my neck has the same issue as my lower back. Who knows what that will bring down the road! cry

Have a wonderful weekend to all our HW CP family! wink

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   Posted 11/27/2010 4:03 PM (GMT -6)   
I overdid it. I have had SO much pain today. I've truly been miserable. It just started going down, thank God.

Dani, this is a great idea for a thread!

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   Posted 11/27/2010 5:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Besides cooking the brownies (which hurt my shoulder to stir) I tried to limit my activities. After the meal, dispite my feet hurting, I cleared the table and put away the food. I'm okay today, the usual grunts and groans.
I spent today looking at old video tapes deciding what I want to transfer to DVD for Christmas gifts this year.
One of my cats got sick all over the floor this evening and I decided to get down on my knees to clean it up instead of bending over causing my back to hurt more. Wrong choice! smhair
I haven't gotten on my knees for a long time. It was like kneeling on rocks! cry   I couldn't stand the pain! I had to move to a sitting position to finish cleaning up. When I got up I wanted to cry so. smhair I guess this is what the orthropedic saw on the xrays when he mentioned arthritis is developing. No more kneeling! Ouch! It still hurts 2 hours later.

Post Edited (couchtater) : 11/27/2010 7:57:43 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 11/27/2010 9:28 PM (GMT -6)   
I had a very nice and very simple Thanksgiving and Black Friday because I limited what I did for Thanksgiving and bought almost all of my gifts online on Friday, while still receiving the specials. I'm having almost everything delivered instead of working too hard. Today I did something that most people would consider insane and purchased a "used" pre-lit Christmas tree from a local thrift store. It was actually a beautiful tree (slimline douglas fir with great lights) and I then added 10 bags of little toys (everything from Shrek to tiny baby dolls and even a baby McDonald). The grand total was less than 30 bucks and they loaded my car for me. My daughter helped me get it out and put it up in the den. I actually have about 8 full size trees in the attic, but I didn't have anybody to help me get my Christmas things down and I simply can't. It's too dangerous for a child and my husband is SWAMPED with work.

We picked up a dollar tree topper and some little wire hangers and my daughter and I decorated the tree today. I have to admit that the "toy tree" is honestly the most interesting and beautiful tree we've had in the den. I've always done trees with the overdone look and everything highly decorated for Christmas (that is until the last two years....since the surgery). Last year I only had one Angel because that's all my daughter asked for, but this year she REALLY wanted a tree and I was so happy to see the look on her face when we plugged the lights in.

We also went shopping (three very small stores is my limit) and we had a great lunch at the Mexican restaurant together. It was only an outing from about 10:00 until 3:00, but that's enough to overdo it for me, so I'm done in for now. Pain levels went through the roof by the time we left the last store. I have to admit that I enjoyed everything until the pain kicked in and she had a wonderful time, so it was worth it and I would do it all over again. Family time is so important.

The next holiday for me is Christmas and I plan to do as little as possible to cause pain. The cooking will have to be done in stages and my husband has agreed to help me as much as possible. He already puts things in and out of the oven and helps with any lifting or bending. I plan to wrap things starting next week and get everything done as early as possible.
Retired Mom

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   Posted 11/27/2010 9:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I over did trying to get the house cleaned up for my daughters visit
and I made the turkey, hand did mashed potatoes, under cooked the green beans
darn it, but the blueberry pie and cranberry sauce was a good touch, disappointed
that my daughter just sat for most of the day and was on her computer...
and then we had to drive her to a mall on black friday just so she could catch her ride back
to the university and that was so hard on me, I didn't even shop and I'm hurting from it
all, and my hubby is still mad at me for my losing a cross-stitch pattern, I wish
I hadn't (tear) and well I all washed out folks...
* Asthma, Allergies, Osteoarthritis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenative Disc (Lower Lumbar S1-L3 and Cervical C5,C6, C8 and T1), Fibromyalgia, Gerd,
Enlarged Pituitary Gland, Sjogren's, Ocular Migraines, mild carpel tunnel, ect.... "Would be nice if we could use the edit button in real life"...


Monty's Mom
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   Posted 11/30/2010 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
I overdid it and am still paying for it. I think next year we have people travel to us and do the turkey and they can bring all the fixings so that I dont have to travel over an hour to get there and stay for 8 hours and another hour long ride home. Either that or tell the fiance it is time to go when I begin flaring. I just feel so guilty because he doesn't see his family often because of me, and he should be able to stay.
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