What keeps you going everyday?

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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 12/17/2010 2:46 PM (GMT -6)   
When I actually put some thought into what keeps me going everyday, I was surprised by my answer. In part is it my fiance and sons, the dogs who need walking and everyone who needs fed and cared for. But deep down inside me is this person screaming to be seen. I keep going everyday because I know that I am worth the time it takes to be comfortable, the hours put into school, and the love I provide my family. I am no different than a housewife or househusband who works on the home for the good of the family (just do less some days than the average housewife!) This feeling of being worthy and worth slogging through the pain everyday is not always easily felt, but deep down always there. I keep going because I love the people and pets in my life and want to.
 
So what keeps you going? Is it a pet? A loved one? A relationship or job? I am just curious and hope I haven't offended anyone!
 
Hugs,
Mindy

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   Posted 12/17/2010 3:49 PM (GMT -6)   
 
   Hello Mindy!
 
          Well, for me it is a combination of several things, the first being Responsibility. I'm the bread winner, but it does not make my wifes any less important by a long shot. Its a team effort no matter how we get there.
 
      I also love life and people, so that is a pretty good motivation for me to get going in the mornings as well. If you think about, a working person actually spends more time with their peers than their family, or at least close to it.
     Education is another factor for me, as I love learning about anything. Its not so much about the "Knowledge is power thing" Its more of a "Knowledge can help others"
 
      Of course a spouse is a given Motivation as well! smilewinkgrin
 
      SE wink

couchtater
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   Posted 12/17/2010 5:57 PM (GMT -6)   
My job. I love my job working with first graders. I'm single with no children of my own and the kids in my class are "my children" for a year. As long as I am physically able to be in the classroom I'll be there with bells on.
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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 12/18/2010 11:40 AM (GMT -6)   

 

    Dear Mindy,

      I want so much to say, my family! My cats! But in all reality I do it for myself. I love the smell of freshly cleaned sheets. I love the feel of clean carpets and cool tile on my feet. The feeling of long skirts and light, clean hair. I keep going for myself. Because I just want to feel all the things life has to offer in the best possible way I can. So, I suppose that is a bit selfish. But when I get to 10am and everything is set for me to enjoy my day, my life and my family.. well, it is all worth it.

 

*hugg*
   dani



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And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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MIKEL99
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   Posted 12/19/2010 10:46 AM (GMT -6)   
I think Dani is right on , straight up love of life is what keeps me going for sure . The 2 years I couldn't walk were the hardest of my life , the women in my life were awesome ! I was walking with a walker at 53 yrs old , they never made me feel like less of a man , they were wonderful . The feeling that life was so worth living was never more evident , volounteering at the animal shelter , now to after my hip replacement surgery I can walk normally again , its so great ! I help take care of my Mom , I just got my first grand child .There is so much that is good and fullfilling to yet expierence and though still have health issues , life is a wonderful , precious thing .The people I've met here who supported me without hesitation , watching my son hold his son , Wow life is GOOD !!! Nice Question ! Mikel
HIV+. meds - epzicom, Kaletra . oxycontin as needed , indothemiacin . hip replacement surgery done !!! Saw the surgeon and I'm really healing great ! Been in physical therapy for almost 2 months now and I can walk pretty well , only going up and down stairs is still a little tough so one step at a time , but that's because of my knee not my hip , but I can walk again , no cane , just me !!

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   Posted 12/19/2010 12:11 PM (GMT -6)   
When I'm feeling really down and low and I feel like my house is a mess (obviously that stresses me as you all read in the post last week or so), I only have to turn on Discovery Health and see something that motivates me. If I ever see an episode of hoarders, I'm forgetting about all of my issues and getting up and moving to get some things done.

I would say that my family keeps me going and my one close friend keeps me going and then there are the rare moments when I actually feel good that keep me going. Yes, I am in CP, yes I have anxiety and depression issues, yes I am overweight and feel horrible about that, but on good days I can still wash my hair, put on makeup and a "dressy" stretchy outfit that works well for adding beads and baubles and I feel good for a while. I also love to feel the hugs from my husband and, although I don't go to work anymore, I help him get his clothing matched and looking sharp and I teach my daughter life lessons. She's becoming more difficult each day due to teen time, but she's still my wonderful daughter and I love her more than life itself. I can't wait for Christmas this year because I want to see her face when she opens her gifts. I used to "want" things for myself, but feel guilty buying them, now I buy things I want within reason and feel good about it. I feel good about doing things for others to show them they are loved and I feel good that I don't have to deal with evil things every day anymore. I can feel my personality changing....slowly, but changing and I feel it is for the better. I am removed from the day to day responsibility of dealing with people who do horrible things to others and surrounded by people who love and give. What more could I ever ask for?
Retired Mom

Vannie
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   Posted 12/19/2010 5:00 PM (GMT -6)   
My will to live as full a life as possible keeps me going. My faith is very important to me, and helps me focus on the good things in life.
 
I keep going for my husband, whom I love dearly. I want to spend as much time with him as possible.
 
If I have to choose between running the sweeper or spending the day w/my husband, the sweeper can wait.  I only have so much energy, and I  have learned to save it for the things that most matter to me in this life.
 
I try to keep everything up around the house, but I only half succeed. I have stopped stressing over that for the most part. I work full time, I cook, I am active in church. I just do the best I can and enjoy every moment I can.
 
 
Peace,
V

undetermined_dimension
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   Posted 12/20/2010 8:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much for posting this question and bless you all for your love filled lives!

My world turns for my husband who is my light, my strength, and my smile. But as much as I love him sometimes that is not enough to get me out of bed because he can take care of himself so I have my kids. They are not mine by blood but they hold as much of our families hearts as if they all were. I have a daycare and have faced each and everyday with a smile for my kids. For some reason I am blessed with a lot a special needs kids that have come into my life and we have opened our hearts, homes, and lives to these children and their families. I am also blessed with a lot of other kids and families that might not be special needs but they are just as special to us and fill our lives with joy. We have made our lives work just to take care of these kids and make sure they have a safe loving place for them to be while their parents have to work. The only reason I fight on is the thought of who would take care of my kids if I were to give up. I can hardly move some days but we snuggle up and read or tell stories or make up games. We all work together as a family to do everything throughout the day and we may not be the fastest but we definitely have tons of love and laughter to fill up our days. I also have 4 fur babies that are also special needs and have saved my dogs life and have managed to keep him healthy and happy despite a bleak start in life with cancer at 9 months (two weeks after we adopted him) and a very debilitating, horrible disease that is still baffling my vet but with homeopathic s, herbs and a strict diet he is a very happy important member of our family. We have all been brought together and have a lot of pain but we all work together to get through it. My bf moved in and has fibromyalgia and her son is special needs and between the two of us we manage a full day of joy and laughter but we could not do it without each other all working together. I am very blessed for my husband, bf, and my kids they are the only reason I am still here and still fighting for a better tomorrow for all of them.

My prayers go out to all of you that you never face a day without finding love, laughter, and special people to fill your lives!

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   Posted 12/20/2010 2:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Somedays it's just pure will power...getting out of bed for me is the hardest part,
it's so easy to just lye there ain't it...no movement no pain..but I get up and do what I can.
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L-Evie_n-Me
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   Posted 12/20/2010 3:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with you retired mom about watching an episode of hoarders totally change my way of thinking when it comes to my own home being a little out of sorts. What keeps me going are my children and my grandchildren. My husband has been locked up for almost two years now and I am in constant pain everyday, but I feel I have to continue to stay strong for their sake. I am back in school in which hopefully that will motivate not only my nine year old and twelve year old sons but my granddaughter(that lives with me) as well. I find it hard alot of the time but my talks with God, my grandmother, and my stepmom that passed away both with cancer. They all keep me going!

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 12/20/2010 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow! I never expected this response! All wonderful reasons to keep going. My prayers are with all of you everyday, that the moments ahead of you are easier. Less pain, less sadness or doubt and more joy. I find myself becoming more depressed as the holidays draw closer. Missing family members who have passed, missing my life the way it was before CP. Then I see all the things I have been able to do since my life was changed, and still find reasons to smile.

CP won't beat me. It may pull me low some days or limit what I can do physically, but it will not render me useless!

Thank you all for sharing yourselves with me. You all give me hope.

Mindy
The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them. That's the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw


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