Welcome to the forum. I am sorry for the circumstances that brought you here, but glad that you have found us.
I have just turned 30 and suffered from chronic pain for 2 years and 11 months. What has worked the best for me has been a combination of meditation, the support forum here, counseling for myself and my family when necessary, and medication when needed. There is no one certain thing or magic medicine that can make things bearable or diminish every one's very different ways of coping, but boy do I wish there was!
My best advice to you is to take things as they come. Day by day, and at times, moment by moment. Take care of yourself also and keep in mind that no one in chronic pain or the ones that love them everyday has asked for this to happen. I struggle everyday with knowing that my fiance is marrying a broken woman who can not give him children, work in a normal job, or even clean the house some days. Then I remind myself that he loves me despite those things and not for what I do for him, but for who I am as a person.
I will pray that things become easier for you and that you find what you need.