I am sure you all know that I love my boys, fiance included. We managed to have a quiet holiday by telling everyone we were staying home but thanking them for invitations on Christmas day. Well, my sister, mother, and fiance's sister did not take that well. That is not my problem, it's theirs. If none of them can understand why I would want to spend the holiday with my sons at home quietly then they do not know me well.
With the new year comes wedding planning. Finding a bridesmaid dress is not easy. I have my nieces 2 teens, my fiance's niece who is also a teen, and my friend as Matron of Honor. So my future sister in law (FSIL) wants to have input on the bridesmaid dresses so her daughter doesn't look "****ty." I picked the Victoria's Secret convertible dress so she can wear it in whatever way they feel is less provocative. But that isn't good enough! The one shopping session I had with FSIL was disaster. Nothing I chose was right except for a $220 dress. That is too much for a dress they will wear once. I decided the girls could wear different dresses, but FSIL feels her daughter (who is very thin while my nieces look 20 instead of 15) would feel left out if her dress was different than everyone else. UGH!So I decided to just tell her where to get the dress when I decide and to pay the reserve price so that they must get that dress.
A little bird told me today that FSIL is going to the expensive shop to get the $220 dress and if I want to be cheap on my wedding day then her daughter was not going to look like a ******! So I am sticking with my plan, pick out a perfectly fine dress or dresses at David's Bridal, and order them. If FSIL doesn't like it then I will remind her that they have 3 options and if they can't find one then she must tell her daughter why she won't be in the bridal party. This is ridiculous! The little bird also told me that FSIL tells others in the family things she thinks will make me look small in their eyes and that I am not good enough for her brother.
So I just avoid her as much as possible. Her hurtful ways won't do any damage if I don't have much to do with her. She treats me condescendingly every time I see her and laughs at my wedding plans. I simply have stopped talking about the wedding. I just tell her that she will find out in October like everyone else or that I haven't decided. Nothing I do or say gets me away from her ridicule. And I have to see her this weekend for New Year's Eve. She expects us at 6pm like everyone else and to stay until 2 am or the whole night on the sofa bed. I can't do that long away after an hour and half drive to her home, and go home.
Thank you all for listening to me vent. I needed to get it out so I don't involve my fiance. He doesn't need this female stupidness with all his other stress.