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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 1/1/2011 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   

 

  Dear Friends & Family,

 
     Most of us are quiet, and emotionally much stronger than those around us. It is one of the side effects of long term chronic pain. It isn't that it DOESN'T bother us. On the contrary, it does. A LOT! But, often times, we keep it all bottled up inside.
 
    Who better to vent to than those who know you best? This thread is for getting it all out. For venting.  It is important that we take the time to release the frustration... least we have a major blow up.
 
     This is where you can let it out. Once you let it go.. forgive and forget. As best you can. Get it out and take a deep breath. We wont take offense, we understand. Share it with us. 
 
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   Posted 1/1/2011 1:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Vent, vent, vent! Yes, I do feel better after saying that. Just coming here to read a little helps with the emotions. Real freinds and family can't understand. Virtual friends and family have been/are there coping. When the pain gets bad we feel depressed, even if it's not really in our nature.

I think I've tried everything now and am reluctantly ready to just accept that the pain isn't going to be cured by injections or medicines any better than it is. Savella was the last straw. I had a vomiting episode this morning after taking it last night, even though I grabbed the paregoric. I just can't risk vomiting any more with the stomach already herniating from the bout brought on by Darvocet (now off the market). If it happens again I could be in for emergency surgery.

Fibromyalgia, partial recurrent hiatal hernia causing pain and nausea, 3 slipping ribs, kneecap slipping post surgery, hand pain continuing after 3 trigger finger surgeries, shoulder tendonitis and bursitis, all levels of spine degenerating causing sciatic pain, thoracic spine syrinx, ankle pain, large painful uterine fibroid, chronic sinusitis, post breast cancer, heart attack, diverticulitis and polio, sulfite and most meds intolerant.
Tramadol 4xday, trying antiinflammatories again, Ambien, a few vitamins, probiotics.

1PM. I haven't had a tramadol since 6AM. When I get cranky it's time for another dose.
Vent finished. No blowup. Happy New Year!!!!
Alcie
 
 

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   Posted 1/1/2011 2:39 PM (GMT -6)   
I just want to grumble. Thanks to the large storm system rolling into my area I'm achy in every joint!
My foot hurts, my knees hurt, my back hurts, my shoulder hurts, my elbow hurts!
I'm afraid I've developed rotor cup tendonitis. Everything I've read about my shoulder issue points to this. I see the Orthro on Monday morning to find out exactly what he thinks.
I'm so tired of doctors. I've got too many: PCP, lung spec, allergist, eye doctor, back doc, orthro. I tried to drop the allergist because I was seeing the lung spec, but some how I got pulled back in. The back doc is on hold until I get my shoulder issue straighten out.
Joy

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   Posted 1/1/2011 3:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Joy, you and I suffer from the same storm system. I despise them because they make me feel like fibro flare ****.

My vent today is somewhat different and very emotional. I thought I had made it through the Holiday with some peace and relaxation, but this weekend blew everything out of the water. I have a nephew with "issues" who is in his early 20's and is MR, but very manipulative and smart in some strange areas. He's married...though he shouldn't ever be and has a child, though he never should be allowed around children....let alone to parent. None the less...the children of the family were "working" with a grandparent this weekend to earn some spending money. Most of them are wonderful children, but the older nephew just happened to be back in the picture this weekend too and boy did it blow up!!!! He was showing some inappropriate images to the children (oldest 14, youngest 8) and the two youngest boys (8/9) were mimicing him in some of his behaviors. They were more boys being boys and have both been punished for their part in the situation. The oldest boy 14 and the girls (one 11 and one 14 but MR) were all yelling for the nephew to shut up and quit saying those things. He was discussing his marital relations and what his wife would and would not do and then calling the 14 year old and the girls sexual names. This lasted only about 30 minutes, but has created such a stir that the children are all very upset by it. The supervising adult is a great person, but had to leave for just a few minutes to fix a part that broke on some equipment. He simply did not imagine that things could get out of hand so quickly and is really beating himself up for not being more observant. There was even a video text that the nephew showed to all of the children, however, my child could not see the screen because of the light issues (thank God). She only saw a cat and heard some inappropriate things.

My child was so upset when I picked her up that I immediatly knew something was wrong. She told me everything...even the parts where she had said "mamogram" and thought she was saying something nasty. She was crying so bad for being involved in the conversation at all and is distraught about everything. The entire family is in an uproar. My family is now completely split from this nephew and he is no longer welcome anywhere....but his little brother rides the bus to my house every day after school (which I did so that he would be away from the older young man). Again, he is MR and has serious issues, but I can't live involved another day. Also, the other MR child told my daughter that her Papa is a drunk and is messing with her. She did not explain how or which Papa it was, but I passed this info on to the only one who may be able to figure out the situation. I don't know the child and have only seen her twice in my life. She's very sweet, but very MR.

I don't have enough to go to the authorities on because I have worked in this field in the past and I know what it takes to make a complaint. My child cannot explain what she heard because she doesn't understand the words and cannot verbalize them and she didn't see the video. The other parents cannot or will not do anything and I cannot force them to, although I did address the child that comes to my house in front of his mother, my daughter, and my husband. He was seriously chastised but is honestly the youngest child in the bunch. I did not, however, talk to the mother of the nephew causing the real issue because it does no good and he is a legal adult. Only more problems would come from it.

I'm venting because there is nothing I can do and I hate it. My child will NEVER be in the same place with this person again, period. If I have to leave, so be it. I will never expose her to such things and I will never allow her to be exposed to it again. I just feel so bad that she had to endure this situation.

Thanks for the vent!
Failed fusion L5-S1, Pituatary damage, HGH Def, Fibro, Bladder surgery failure, Nissen Failure, GERD, OCPD, GAD, MDD, CTS (Bilateral Surgery completed), CFS, TMJ, Migraines, Vit D, A, Magnesium deficiency, Pre-glaucomic (sp?), HBP, Idiopatic Reactive Hypoglycemia, Edema, too many Drug/Food allergies, sensitivites, and current meds to list.

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   Posted 1/1/2011 5:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I'd do the same thing, retiredmom. Never leave you child alone with him. I'd try though to watchout for the child of the nephew, though.
Joy

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   Posted 1/1/2011 9:31 PM (GMT -6)   

 

   Yikes! I had some... some issues with a person I suspected was up to dark things myself. I never had enough to really go on, but something just wasn't right. I had only had my daughter (back in 2002) in her care for a little over a week, but things weren't adding up. She was always so jumpy and "edgy" when I came to get my daughter. Always wanting me to call before I came?? Which I was not going to call before I came. Who was she kidding? I worked as an accountant so as soon as my work was done, then I got to leave. Same pay as any normal 40hr work week though. The last time I came in. There were 6 little ones (under 2yrs old!) all in a circle crying in the center of the play room. Alone! I got on my knees and scooped them all up and hugged them all. The daycare worker didn't come to front where the children were for 30 mins and I was calling out for her for a long time! Her "worker" was asleep on a couch in the very back room! Try as I might I couldn't wake that girl up!  I made the decision to take my daughter out of that day care that very same day. 2 days later the state came in and shut down her private day care. Asked me questions about my experiences there and anything I had observed. For a "formal report".  Later I found out there were some sort of scam from "state funded day care". You know, low income folks getting day care assistance from the state. Violations about the number of children and allegations of drug use even! The guilt was tremendous! I must have hugged my daughter and cried randomly for weeks!

   You did the right things. *hugg* I am sorry your family is divided, but at this point.. just remind the others that if a stranger had done those same things that person would be in quite a bit of trouble. Jail time for attentive lewdness with minors is a very serious offense! More than anything I hope all of you can come together and put an end to all of it. It sounds like the MR - children are having many many problems and sound like someone in CYFD needs to check things out.  Try to gather all the info you have, together, see if something can be done.

     Bless your daughters heart. I know she must be very confused. I hope she is doing a bit better by now. I am so sorry you got hit with all that out of the blue. It must be a very stressful time for you right now.

*warm hugg*
       dani


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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 1/1/2011 11:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Retired Mom, I am deeply sorry that happened to your daughter, and you have right to be angry and protect your child. It shows that you are a good parent and looking out for your child. There are sadly many parents that would do nothing or worse, have made an environment that their child can not talk to them about issues. Stick to your guns!
 
After reading your post, mine does not seem that bad anymore. I just can't stand someone who tries to control every tiny detail or aspect of my existence. Nothing I do makes them happy, it is never right. The food is always too bland or too flavorful (?) the hair a little too full, my makeup either to heavy or not heavy enough. If I don't call on the day she wants me to without her having to ask, but it is a different day every week.

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   Posted 1/2/2011 12:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Monty's Mom,

It sure sounds like you have a miserable person in your life. Is there any way you can avoid or live your life without this person? After typing that sentence my next thought was... who would I tolerate that type of behavior from? A mother-in-law? A sibling, parent or neighbor? That certainly isn't how a friend would act.

But why is it we put up with letting people get to us like this? I've done in in the past...way more than I care to admit. It took me quite a while but I finally did stand up and decide that I will live my life for me and my husband and children. And if one of them were to "try to control every tiny detail of my existence" then I would eliminate them from my daily life. My ex was just that sort of person...totally controlling but I was too beat down mentally to do anything about it. Once I put a few things in my back together I had the courage to tell him where the door was and how to use it...lol

Mom...please consider how this person is impacting your life. Is it worth it to be around this person? I wasted 20 years of my life on the jerk who treated me like that. In my heart it's sad if it happens to others.

As always, take anything I share as a suggestion and if it doesn't work for you then let it go. Know that I'm thinking of you...

Hugs,
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   Posted 1/2/2011 1:23 AM (GMT -6)   
From my own personal experience, Chutz is right on the money here!

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   Posted 1/2/2011 7:05 AM (GMT -6)   
Monty's Mom,

Yes, Chutz is so right! You don't deserve to be treated that way! No one does. Sending you cyber (((hugs))) and thinking of you.

Flower

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   Posted 1/2/2011 8:33 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry I hyjacked the thread but very much appreciate the support. I am still working on a possible solution and think I know where to start this week. I think I'll keep that off of the board because I don't want it traced back here. There are delicate matters under consideration and I have let this bring me back to issues of my own childhood. Because of that, I will be speaking with my psych this week at my regular apt. It's time.

Monty's Mom,

All I can suggest is that you re-read you post and see if from someone else's perspective. I think Chutz hit the nail on the head. Who would you put up with this from and why? If you can answer these questions, I think you will know what to do. Sometimes we must put up with the poor behavior and sometimes we don't have to. Each situation has its own answers. During a particularly difficult session early on, I was going through something and my psych stopped the discussion and asked....."What makes you think you are different than anyone else? Doesn't this person do the same thing to others? If they do and you know, why would you be hurt by the behavior? These are the characteristics of this person. It has nothing to do with you and you cannot control the behavior of others. Again, what makes you think you are different than anyone else?" It was a real eye opener to me and I had to admit that I stupidly did think I was different. That was on me. Since then I've used this this thought pattern in almost every relationship/event of my life and it helps a great deal.

I hope things will work out well for you!
Failed fusion L5-S1, Pituatary damage, HGH Def, Fibro, Bladder surgery failure, Nissen Failure, GERD, OCPD, GAD, MDD, CTS (Bilateral Surgery completed), CFS, TMJ, Migraines, Vit D, A, Magnesium deficiency, Pre-glaucomic (sp?), HBP, Idiopatic Reactive Hypoglycemia, Edema, too many Drug/Food allergies, sensitivites, and current meds to list.

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   Posted 1/2/2011 11:26 AM (GMT -6)   
retiredmom, that too was right on!!

I have had several people in my life like this, and found that I was better off, just to delete them out of my life and let them live in their own misery. Many, many, many times you will find that if you are having issues with a person in life, you're not the only one having the same issue with that person.

Be happy, and be yourself. Change the things that will make you a better person tomorrow.

SE

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   Posted 1/2/2011 11:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh! I forgot to vent. Well, I suppose my vent is about people who use me and really crutty comments.....
 
  Question : "What's wrong with you again?"
  Answer: .....there is no way I am going to answer that. Especially when the person asking is someone who I have been very supportive of for quite a long time... over a year.
 
  Comment: "Oh you have back pain? Everyone has back pain."
  Personal thoughts: ...  I have 3 curvatures (2 progressive) in my spine in less than 4 years time. Grow up. Pay attention. My body is crippling. I am not everyone.
   
  Question: "Oh yea scoliosis right? Well kids get surgery for that all the time."
   Answer...Why didn't I THINK of that?!?!??!!  I'm an adult who has stopped growing and regenerating. I don't have a simple S shaped. I have two primary progressive curves and my joke of a spines idea of a secondary compensatory tilt. I look like a road sign you would find going up a mountain warning of multiple curves.   ...Just love those obvious questions, don't you?
  
    Comment: "I walk faster than you and I'm 60 years old."
    Personal thoughts : ... my right hip isn't sticking up into my ribs because it likes the scenery. My left hip isn't going out of its way to get crushed into my pelvis because it didn't like the way hips normally look and wanted to be flat and curveless... as soon as I can catch up to you, you are gonna get an ear full!
 
    Comment: "Oh I know so many people with thyroid problems. Just need hormones, its no big deal."
    Personal thoughts: I know folks with problems like that and it ISNT "no big deal". How many times must I debate with my self as to weather or not I want to begin with the list of complications of problems from my inherited hypoparathyroidism... lets start with seizure, memory loss, cataracts, tetany, paresthesias, fainting....... maybe I shouldn't mention the full 6month oral reconstruction either    rolleyes    Let them keep thinking my gorgeous smile is natural.
 
   Comment: "Well don't you take medicine? You can't be in pain with THAT much pain medicine."
   Personal thoughts:  .... to scream or not to scream, THAT, is the question!
 
  As a side note. You ever do something for someone for a really really loooong time? Not only do you not hear a simple thank you but the person pretends like you don't even exist?!?!?! I have one even better. You ever have the same person who you are doing favors for tell you EVERYTHING about their lives, their stress, their problems but not once, NOT ONCE! Does that person even bother to ask how YOU are doing?
 
   *pew* That was a load off. I will have to pray for more patience   :-)  
 
  *hugg*
     dani

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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 1/2/2011 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   

 

  Dear Mindy,

   I have this terrible feeling you are talking about your Sister in Law. Grrr!  mad   I would be frustrated to no end if I were in your shoes!

*warm hugg*
       dani


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   Posted 1/2/2011 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
most people don't get it...even intelligent people. they think everybody who has diabetis is the same, everybody with osteoarthritis is the same, etc. i am very tired and try not to mention stuff to them.

it is the doctors who are being paid to help me who really make me angry. they don't know what they are doing and act superior. sick of looking at all their faces (many are ugly but not all)

peace on

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   Posted 1/2/2011 5:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Dani, Chutz and RetiredMom, You are all right in so many ways. It is my soon to be sister in law driving me to the funny farm in typical fashion for her. Another shows some of these same tendencies, the calling mostly. I just don't call either of them ever, see them only when absolutely necessary, but due to these people being family, I can't eliminate them totatlly. I could not live with myself if I did. So I simply put up with the attitudes, the constant critisicm at the holidays and then only see them at funerals and holidays that I agree to. I just have to get it out or I begin to poison myself with their attitude, and soon I end up believing that I am always wrong from a previous marriage to a jerk that controlled everything. After 6 years of him, 3 of which fighting to be rid of him, I refuse to let them get to me more than a few days a year!
Thank you all though for the support and the reminder that no one, even me, should be treated that way by anyone, family or not. It is not right, but asking them to be different from who they are would be no less controlling then they are!
It makes me feel special and happy to know I have such good friends here. Thank you all.
Mindy
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   Posted 1/2/2011 6:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I do want to do one more vent.
My SIL when she comes to my house will plop herself on the only couch or the coveted recliner, pull up a blanket, and read a novel the whole time. Her butt doesn't move until food is served then she's right back.

Thank goodness they only come once a year. She makes my brother wait hand and foot on her, yelling orders right and left at him. He acts like he loves it. She let's her four kids run around wild (ages 5-12) in the house. She says snippy things to me when my parents are out of the room. But she's all smiles when they are there. She tried to get in a yelling match with my 11 yr old niece (not her daughter) over a missing phone.

When she finishes a glass of drink (water or Dr. P) she doesn't want it touched. It drove me nuts that a glass sat by her for two days empty! When my mother picked it up on day two, she fussed at her for moving it! When I tried to move it my mother told me I'd better put it back or I'll get chewed out. As soon as she was out of the house I took it to the kitchen fussing all the way.

One visit, I woke up to find my parents had cooked breakfast for everyone so I went to get two pieces of bacon (there was a large pile) and a piece of toast (again, big pile). I was told very bluntly by both her and my brother that I had taken their food. That food was intended for their four kids. The kids had already eaten cereal and poptarts and had left the table! Needless to say later there was still plenty left after everyone ate.

In a different visit I was accused of eating the last piece of cheese pizza meant for my niece who only eats cheese like me. I had only ate one piece before and she was sitting there playing with the uneaten piece on her plate. She never ate the piece she had! They said it was because I ate her piece and was upset. Humbug. >:(

Sorry, I just had to get it out. I've bit my tongue too long.
Joy

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   Posted 1/2/2011 7:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh My Goodness! I guess all of us have people in our lives who are "takers" and insensitive to other peoples wants and needs.

I have a theory that those of us who have always been independent and taken care of everyone else, get little, if any understanding when we become ill. Maybe it is because it would be too inconvenient for our friends/relatives that have taken advanage of us most of our lives.

When I feel well, these things don't bother me. I really enjoy cooking for people and making others lives easier by helping. I never thought of myself as being taken advanatge of. Now that I do not have the energy I used to have, and live on pain pills, I am amazed at how uncaring and insensitive these people can be. They still expect me to be able to do what I have done in the past. I think family members are worse about this than "friends".

I have finally realized that these people are totally self-absorbed. I don't take anything they say, do, or don't do personally. If I did, it would upset me constantly. I choose to use my limited energy on things I enjoy. I try to remember to tell myself that I am not going to rob me of my joy.

Hope everyone is having a "pest-free" day. Thank you all for being so caring and understanding.

Peace,
V
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   Posted 1/3/2011 4:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Dani I totally know what you mean by the
"I know someone who has - insert your disease or condition- and they don't need any medication. All they have to do is- whatever useless advice they deem appropriate-why can't you just do that?"
Because they know someone with the same issues they feel that makes them fully capable to dole out advice. If it seems like its always something with me MAYBE THAT'S BECAUSE IT IS! If its exhausting for them to hear about it or work with it or be related to it then maybe they could understand what its like to be me?! Its exhausting to have all these issues. Like my boss who had cortisone injections and walked out by the second one and went back to work. Guess what? I was allergic/reactive to something in the shot and was bed ridden for 7 days. So what does he conclude- that I am milking it or being dramatic because he didn't react to it. Yep, I love being a shut in at 37! Geesh!
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Medications- Who can keep up? If its out there for what I have or might work to prevent pain for what I have then I have tried it. But actual pain relievers- not so easy to get in the Land of the Free.

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   Posted 1/4/2011 5:27 PM (GMT -6)   
   :-) Hello Folks:
 
  I have to vent so here is my Rant & Rave:
I'm diabetic and have been for about 25 years now, and I'am now 48 years old and I was blind for 4 years from cataracts and had 7 of the most major eye surgerys that they could do and I now have 20/30 vision, I can't complain about that, thank God. Although I can complain about losing my 5 toe's on my left foot cuz of a doctor's screw up or lack of care after I had surgery to clean out an infection I had in it, and he also put a pick line in me to do my own IV antibiotic's at home with a nurse coming to me everyday to help me and my foot was healing and getting better because I do heal quick for being diabetic but then after 2 weeks the idiot skull doctor would not give me anymore antibiotic's with the pick line still in me and my nurse even called him and told him that I needed more antibiotic's and he told my nurse he would not give me any more and my foot was healing good up until that point, and after a week or two had passed my foot was getting worse and I had a 6" purple band around my shin and I went and saw this stupid Dr. skull at his office and he told me if I wanted more antibiotic's I would have to go in the hospital, so I did that night and they told me it was to late and I was gonna end up losing those 5 toe's cuz of gangrine.
  I'm just glad that I can make something good come from something bad and keep a positive attitude yeah and a sense of humor as well, now that happened over 7 years ago and I came up with an idea idea to improve on Medical Technologies and save live's and reduce drug abuse and all fraudulant prescriptions and I do have the Patent pending on it and named it "TAMI" and if was in place in all hospital and doctors office's, Pharmacys & emergency vehicles the whole world would be better off and insurance might even be cheaper for everyone to get. 
  Now I'm having problems with my left foot again and had another surgery on it a day before Thankgiving and also I have diabetic Neuropathy now for over 3 years and boy is it ever painful and I have never liked taking pills in my life, but now I kind of have to because of the pain and with my doctor and I working together on getting my pain under control and keeping it at an average of 3-5 on the pain scale by taking 80mg Oxycotin 3 times a day and 30mg Oxycodone 3 times a day and now because of all the people misusing the Oxycotin they have gone and reformulated it and now they are OP's which do not work as well for the pain and on top of that I'm having some bad side effects from it after taking it for only 4 days now, it is making my whole body itch like crazy, and my eye's too, and now they hurt also cuz of it, and on Sunday it caused me to piss a little blood and I have never done that in my life and I'm a little concerned about it.
  So for all of the people misusing the drugs for other purposes are really screwing things up for the people that really need it and depend on it, and do take it the right way, as you are susposed to, and that really pisses me off after getting my pain under control and being able to live life a little without thinking about the pain from all my medical problems. I do have my blood sugars very well under control keeping them between 90-130 all the time and I've always had a problem trying to gain weight and no matter what I eat I can't gain weight and I'm 6' tall at 135 pounds I'd be happy to get up to 150 or 160.
  I also know that if my Patent was in place like I want it, we would not be facing alot of the problems skull  with our medical technology systems & issues with drug company's and the FDA as well. 
  The Government is making way to much money off of alcohol to make it illegal and it's about time that they made weed legal, at least for medical use anyhow but if you ask me it should be legal for everyone and they would make a hell of alot more money off of it but the thing is, would they know how to put that money to a good use to fix alot of the countrys current problems & issues, that's the question. 
         Thanks for reading my "Rant & Rave"
                                    God Bless us All        Jeff  

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   Posted 1/4/2011 7:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I guess my major complaint right now is the junkies abusing the meds that we need to survive! Every time I hear another story about people having a hard time getting there meds or another story about how they are coming down on doctors for prescribing opiates....I panic! I have been on opiates for over 3 years now and for a long time my doctor used to get on me about using them more. He said "they work much better when taken as directed, instead of waiting until you are screaming in pain to take one. You are constantly chasing your pain and that never works!" I have NEVER run out of meds early and NEVER taken more then prescribed, but I have to worry that, at some point, I may loose my meds!! That stinks BAD! Anyway....I guess we just wait and see and hope it all works out!
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Rhaevin
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   Posted 1/4/2011 10:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Antbuggery, I have actually been in that position, that is one of my rants.

For the last 3 years my life has revolved around narcotis of one type or another. A year of vicoden, 2 years of loritab, and now percoset. My doctor only permits me 4 pills per day. That's nice, but what about when I have bad days and 1 lil pill does squat for my pain levels?! So I double up, also because I develop a tolerance and next thing I know I have a refill for my perscription but the pharmacy is refusing to fill it. "But I /need/ these pills!" I'm sorry, your insurance won't cover them. "I'll pay cash!!" Sorry, narcotics are carefully monitered. You should still have some according to your doseage count. "But I had a few bad days! What was I supposed to do? Lay down and alternate between crying and screaming in pain all day long or take another pill? I'm a single Mom, I can't afford to get so dramatically derailed!" All because doctors are so free with their pain pill perscriptions. All because people exploit doctors who are so free with their pain pill perscritions, who then use those pills either as a cheap high or a source of income. And do you know what the real horror was....  *************************************************** whole week without ANY meds! Now I count my pills. I skimp where I can, but I also continue every month to argue with my Doctor about upping my limit so I have that buffer for bad days.

I'm permanently disabled and in chronic pain, but would someone please tell me why the hell I had to endure 10 months of grueling hell?! As soon as my SSD kicked in, in Feb of 2010 I lost my state Medicaid. This wouldn't have been an issue except for the fact that my disability insurance didn't take effect till 11/2010. I went 10 months with NO insurance. Now I don't know about the rest of you, but thanks to those stupid rules on narcotics I'm supposed to go see my doctor every month to get a perscription for my drugs. This means a doctor visit outta my pocket, and the cost of my narcotics outta my pocket. It also meant any other means of treatment had to be totally suspended due to no insurance. Why hasn't someone higher up caught on to this issue and went "Hey, this is pretty stupid, we need ta fix this!"?

And while I'm talking about my doctor he seriously peeved me off a few months back. November 2009 he was able to finally determine what was wrong with me, and my only course of treatment; hopefully. So when my insurance finally did kick in a year later (Medicaid wouldn't cover the procedure so I had to wait for my Medicare to take effect) my doctor told me he didn't want to do my surgery till I had secondary insurance. Wait a minute, weren't you the man that just last year said I had this terrible condition that would only get worse and my only options were narcotics and a spinal stim unit, now you're telling me you're NOT willing to do it unless I get secondary insurance?! Please go out and make yourself familiar with the law; in the state of Nevada if you are under 65 you do NOT qualify for MediGap!!

And lastly.....

When I first heard that the life I knew was gone, that I was permanently disabled I wanted to cry. I went to a good friend of mine and said to him: I'm a 36 year old single mom who's permanently disabled with chronic pain. Who will ever want me, what do I have to offer? My friends tried to encourage me and when a guy did step into my life everyone was so hopeful. He said he understood, he said he cared, he was so calm... and as soon as we were married he started to scream at me. All the time, every little thing upset him, but nothing quite so much as my condition. The first time I was in so much pain he couldn't even touch me he started ranting and raving at the top of his lungs about how I needed to give up everything I enjoyed doing because I needed to stop putting myself in pain, because he was misserable, his world was coming to an end because he couldn't hold his wife. What happened to he understood? Suddenly I must give up everything for his happiness, ta hell with the fact that I was hurting, what happened to understanding, caring, and sympathy? It wasn't long after that blow up that he suggested seperation and then instantly went out and got the divorce papers. I've heard from others that it was all my fault, I used him, I was a control freak, I made him misserable...

That's right up there with the guy I was dating when this all started yelling at me infront of my kid's school about how I was a hypochondriac and that I was faking it, that I was fine, that I was just being lazy so I could have an excuse not to work, that there was nothing wrong with me.

Gee, just like that workman's comp doctor who said "I can't find anything wrong with you, there for you're fine."

Maybe some day I'll cease to be angery about these things... at least I do finally have my Medicare. I did get my doctor to agree that regardless the bills I'll be saddled with he will do my surgery. Yah the exboyfriend went out and got married to some girl two months after he left me, but the exhusband lives next door, and I doubt they'll ever do anything about the narcotic issue. All I can do is hope I never run out again.
 
 

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