Joy, you and I suffer from the same storm system. I despise them because they make me feel like fibro flare ****.
My vent today is somewhat different and very emotional. I thought I had made it through the Holiday with some peace and relaxation, but this weekend blew everything out of the water. I have a nephew with "issues" who is in his early 20's and is MR, but very manipulative and smart in some strange areas. He's married...though he shouldn't ever be and has a child, though he never should be allowed around children....let alone to parent. None the less...the children of the family were "working" with a grandparent this weekend to earn some spending money. Most of them are wonderful children, but the older nephew just happened to be back in the picture this weekend too and boy did it blow up!!!! He was showing some inappropriate images to the children (oldest 14, youngest 8) and the two youngest boys (8/9) were mimicing him in some of his behaviors. They were more boys being boys and have both been punished for their part in the situation. The oldest boy 14 and the girls (one 11 and one 14 but MR) were all yelling for the nephew to shut up and quit saying those things. He was discussing his marital relations and what his wife would and would not do and then calling the 14 year old and the girls sexual names. This lasted only about 30 minutes, but has created such a stir that the children are all very upset by it. The supervising adult is a great person, but had to leave for just a few minutes to fix a part that broke on some equipment. He simply did not imagine that things could get out of hand so quickly and is really beating himself up for not being more observant. There was even a video text that the nephew showed to all of the children, however, my child could not see the screen because of the light issues (thank God). She only saw a cat and heard some inappropriate things.
My child was so upset when I picked her up that I immediatly knew something was wrong. She told me everything...even the parts where she had said "mamogram" and thought she was saying something nasty. She was crying so bad for being involved in the conversation at all and is distraught about everything. The entire family is in an uproar. My family is now completely split from this nephew and he is no longer welcome anywhere....but his little brother rides the bus to my house every day after school (which I did so that he would be away from the older young man). Again, he is MR and has serious issues, but I can't live involved another day. Also, the other MR child told my daughter that her Papa is a drunk and is messing with her. She did not explain how or which Papa it was, but I passed this info on to the only one who may be able to figure out the situation. I don't know the child and have only seen her twice in my life. She's very sweet, but very MR.
I don't have enough to go to the authorities on because I have worked in this field in the past and I know what it takes to make a complaint. My child cannot explain what she heard because she doesn't understand the words and cannot verbalize them and she didn't see the video. The other parents cannot or will not do anything and I cannot force them to, although I did address the child that comes to my house in front of his mother, my daughter, and my husband. He was seriously chastised but is honestly the youngest child in the bunch. I did not, however, talk to the mother of the nephew causing the real issue because it does no good and he is a legal adult. Only more problems would come from it.
I'm venting because there is nothing I can do and I hate it. My child will NEVER be in the same place with this person again, period. If I have to leave, so be it. I will never expose her to such things and I will never allow her to be exposed to it again. I just feel so bad that she had to endure this situation.
Thanks for the vent!
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