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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/1/2011 11:35 AM (GMT -6)   
 
 
     Yikes! I have had one heck of a morning! As you know, I do not sleep. Well.. I do, but for about 3 maybe 4 hours (I wake only 5-10 times during that time on "good nights")... In any case, I went into the laundry room around 1 am. When I stepped in there I splashed into a puddle of hot water! Dangit, those MEN never listen to me!!!!
 
Humm... maybe I should back up a bit. 4 days ago I noticed small puddle of water in the laundry room. It looked like water, but since I had no reason why water would be on the far side away from the washing machine... I thought perhaps it might be cat urine. I was very concerned and kept checking on the cats all day. I was sure one of them must be sick. I just had to find out which one. Eventually my youngest cat just took to following me around all day since I was constantly waking her up to check on her. Poor thing.
 
3 days ago, there was that puddle again. Again, it was a small puddle, but it didn’t smell like the urine in the kitty litter box. So, I spent all day going back and forth to the laundry room and found a little puddle 3 times through the day.
 
2 days ago when my husband came home from work in the morning (12 hr. split shift, nights) I told him what had happened. He removed a panel in the laundry room and sure enough two of the pipes were leaking. He called plumber before he went to sleep for the day. The plumber had to replace valves and piping all through it. Then he turned back on my water (thank goodness I was pulling out my hair without water) and he left. Later that day there was water on the ground. I did a full clean of the entire floor and wall. Yet, later that day, little bit bigger puddle.
 
Yesterday the plumber comes back. My husband and he are talking about "condensation" on the pipes because it is always hot in there and I wash laundry all day. I told them that how could it be condensation NOW when I never had this "condensation" before. I told them both about the process of deep cleaning the laundry room and how I was still getting new puddles of water, only now they were slightly larger than they were before. I make it half way down the hall and I hear their conversation steer towards ..."think she is just nervous. She just overreacting..." HA! I told them! There was NEW water!
 
Then at about 1 am I went into the laundry room and splash right into the puddle of hot water, the entire room was flooded. Who is "overreacting now?!?!" I start to mop up with towels and wringing out the towels into a bucket. Get my husband to think straight to make the right calls and sure enough he cant get it together. So I grab the phone and call the plumber at home. What was he thinking?! Of course the business phone isn't answering. What is wrong with men?
 
Plumber is talking my husband through turning off the main valves to the house and my husband keep shooing me away! He wont listen that the valve isn't completely closed, that I can hear the pressure through the wall! So finally I pick a fight long enough for the men to stop and listen. Finally the valves are turned off and I go release the extra pressure in the line. While I am doing that they get off the phone! What is wrong with the them?!?! What about the water heater?!?! I swear if they weren't so useful for lifting heavy boxes I would banish them all from my life. So, fine I finally get someone to hear me and the water heater is turned down to low (remember one of the pipes - of the 4- was spraying hot water).  Finally when I have their undivided attention I say, "You guys never listen to me! I TOLD you so! I am going to bed!"
 
Then I went back to my room to lay down and read "Under the Dome". By that time it is 3 am.
 
This morning I wake.. call the girls in to school. Make sure the plumber is on the ball calling the right people and on track. Then I go into the laundry room and the first thing to hit me!? The deep "earth" smell, Thick soil smell. Yep, you guessed it. We will have mold in a matter of days. I can smell it just as sure as I can smell a cold on my daughters breath. So, I tell the men that the linoleum is warped and I smell the deep earthy smell that we will have mold. Then I tell them the wall and flooring has to be replaced and you guessed it... I am waved off and "shooshed".     mad    GRRRRRR! So finally I get them in there to look at the damage. And the first thing out of their mouths!!! "Looks like the wall needs to be replaced."
 
I not talking to any more men. I have had it. I wont be delivering lemonade while they are working. I am fed up. They can get their own dang lemonade.   mad
 
 
*hugg*
   dani

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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Cornwell
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   Posted 2/1/2011 12:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Sorry for the frustrating experience with the men in your life. : (
I can totally relate! Your story made me chuckle because I have had things like that happen to me. I think men think we are dumb when it comes to "fixing" things. : )
I end up doing a lot around the house myself because I'll get it done quicker and right.
Good luck.
Cornwell

Jim1969
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   Posted 2/1/2011 1:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Glad I am not one of them. Most say I turned in my man card when I quit work and became a homemaker.....LOL
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JNO2
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   Posted 2/1/2011 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Try running a de-humidifier and a fan for a few days. That should pull the moisture out of the walls/floor.

antbuggey
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   Posted 2/2/2011 9:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh Mikel, that was funny....but you are soooo right! It would work! As I read your post, Dani and your answer, Mikel....I had to laugh about a situation that happened yesterday!.....I noticed that our thermostat was blinking low battery....so I took off the cover and saw that I needed 2 AA batteries and I asked if we had any....my niece went to get them for me. In the mean time....hubby walked in the room. I took out the old batteries and dropped one as my husband walked towards me....I snapped at him (I was pretty grumpy yesterday) and told him, "Just go about your business....I started this and I can finish it! It is a very simple task!" He looked at me and said, "I was just going to pick up the battery you dropped so you didn't have to bend over and hurt your back!" OOPS!

I know that this is much more minor then your situation, Dani, and I can relate.....but I think sometimes men need to feel like our hero's! It is hard enough for them that they can't FIX what is wrong with us! Like I said, I can relate to what you are saying, because I have been there, so please don't take me wrong.....but I agree with Mikel too!

Men....can't live with 'em....can't kill 'em! LOL!!

Big Hugs,
Beckey
Rheumatoid Arthritis, Spinal Stenosis L3/L4, L4/L5 & L5/S1 with Nerve Impingement, Fibromyalgia, TMJ, GERD, Severe Depression, VERY Large Cyst Right Ovary causing mild twisting, Small Cysts Left Ovary & 3 Large Cysts Uterus

Medications - MS-Contin, Plaquenil, Cymbalta, Famotidine and currently Prednisone

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 2/2/2011 4:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Forgive me for stating my opinion Mikel. I won't be posting to any of your posts again!
I live to "Tame My Pain!" 

uniquelyme
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   Posted 2/2/2011 6:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Dani Dani Dani....when will they ever learn? Women, as in the smarter of the humans, know things...call it intuition, a 6th sense, whatever...but we DO KNOW THINGS.. They hate that we can figure things out before they even open up the tool box...if it wasn't so funny I'd cry...

The heavy lifting part is true and funny. I think that our being inflicted with bad backs and pain is the Mans way of evening the playing field...because if we weren't hurting they would have NOTHING to do...We would and could do it all.

Rhonda

Good Luck with the mold...

uniquelyme
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   Posted 2/2/2011 6:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Mikel....women are overly emotional????? Is that like saying "it must be that time of the month"?

Rhonda
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That's all....but OMG!! isn't that enough?

antbuggey
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   Posted 2/2/2011 8:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow...ladies if you knew Mikel, then you would know that nothing he said is a personal attack on "women"! His comment was made lightheartedly and not meant to hurt anyone!! He is one of the kindest and most caring men I have ever met! He was just trying to explain that men need to feel like the hero once in awhile! Just like women need the emotional support and to be treated like the princess sometimes! Women and men think and feel very differently! Women follow their hearts and think things through later while men follow their heads and think things through first! We may not be the "damsels in distress" but we need to allow our men to be the hero's at times...... or we can totally emasculate them! Healing Well is a place for people to state their opinions, and we all have our own opinions! There is no reason to attack someone elses opinion!
Rheumatoid Arthritis, Spinal Stenosis L3/L4, L4/L5 & L5/S1 with Nerve Impingement, Fibromyalgia, TMJ, GERD, Severe Depression, VERY Large Cyst Right Ovary causing mild twisting, Small Cysts Left Ovary & 3 Large Cysts Uterus

Medications - MS-Contin, Plaquenil, Cymbalta, Famotidine and currently Prednisone

antbuggey
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   Posted 2/2/2011 8:46 PM (GMT -6)   
And my final word on this subject.....Mikel and Dani are very close and he would never do or say anything to offend or hurt her!!
Rheumatoid Arthritis, Spinal Stenosis L3/L4, L4/L5 & L5/S1 with Nerve Impingement, Fibromyalgia, TMJ, GERD, Severe Depression, VERY Large Cyst Right Ovary causing mild twisting, Small Cysts Left Ovary & 3 Large Cysts Uterus

Medications - MS-Contin, Plaquenil, Cymbalta, Famotidine and currently Prednisone

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 2/2/2011 9:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, apparently I am not allowed to speak my opinion cause I was basically told to shut up and mind my own business. I came back to HW because I missed all my friends, but apparently I stuck my nose in the wrong place once more. Maybe its time to leave for awhile again.
I live to "Tame My Pain!" 

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/3/2011 1:22 AM (GMT -6)   
 
     Oh Mikel! You said it! Today, the more calmer and not so tired me says to them, " Gosh, it is taking so long. Should we check into a hotel until we can get it fixed?" You guessed it! I kid you not, 20 min later it was fixed. *sigh* Some stuff is completely shut off but it isn't a big deal. All the valves on 5 of the pipes were replaced and/or sealed off.
 
   They did listen to me enough to cut a square hole in the wall near the floor. Sure enough it was down to the floor and will be blooming mold soon. Later today, as they were finishing up, they started talking about replacing the pipes in the whole house. Getting a contractor in for the wall and flooring. I wasn't pushy, I just said, "That would take a long time to do unless you could get a crew together." So, they are going to call one of the larger plumbing companies here. To fully assess the entire house they will need to shut off my water for about 6 hours. The pipes are over 30 yrs old. I guess we will see what all the plumbers and contractors have to say. I have a feeling it will be phenomenal in cost and time..
 
    ... you know I cant help but wonder if this isn't Gods idea of a little push towards buying a new home? We are close to having enough now. When we add our tax refund to the pot it wont be much longer. We did have that little hit to the savings when we had to help out my father in law, but we have already made up for it.
 
     Ugh, I am so sleepy! I will tell you about my day tomorrow. You wouldn't believe how crazy this week has been!
 
Lots of Love,
     Dani

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/3/2011 10:57 AM (GMT -6)   

 

 

     Well! Looks like I miss loads!

      I want you all to know first off that I love Michael as much as I love my husband and daughters. So, his reply to me was just what I needed to hear. If anyone thinks it was off sounding... keep in mind I have a very traditional marriage. I do the cooking (4 meals by hand each and every day. I spend a total of 5 hours in the kitchen per day), the cleaning, the mending, the washing and ironing, yard work, tend the children ... I even take care of everyone's nails and ears. Yep! You guessed it, when my husband is working he gets breakfast in bed    blush   A beautiful woman once told me, "What ever you do in life, no matter if it is a waste disposal or house wife, do it to the best of your ability." ..So, I do! In return my husband and I have a strong relationship. He spoils me endlessly! We do however have a very odd way of communicating with one another. For instance I told him I was tired and needed to lay down yesterday..... When I got up he had decided that he was going to wash laundry for me! ....now all the pastel colored clothing has tinges of dark blue and black. My bath towels are in a wet heap in the bath tub. My dryer beeping because he never changed the lint trap  smhair   He means well, and so do I! We are a funny couple no doubt! So, once I surveyed the damage, the first thing out of my mouth was, "Oh thank you so much for helping! I love you!" (He really did try his hardest)

  

     From the outside looking in, it might look overly traditional. In fact I have received many aggressive comments from other wives. I do realize that in this day and age everything is shared right down the middle.. it just is not that way in my home. I hope this helped to clear up any misunderstandings

Scarred, *warm huggs!* I don't mind one bit and I appreciate your trying to stick up for me. It really warms my heart to no end that you would do that for me *hugg*

Mikel, I love you so much! *warm huggs* You know just what to say and always give me sound advise. I really need to hear it to help keep me grounded (and from going insane!)

*hugg*
  dani

  

 


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And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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   Posted 2/3/2011 12:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I really hope that you don't stop posting Scarred. just as I hope that Mikel doesn't. In our family here at Healing Well we all have different opinions, morals and values. We live our lives differently with one thing in common, pain. That is one of the things that makes this such a great place. If we all thought exactly the same way, we would have nothing to talk about nor would we need to ask others for advise (we would already know their answer).

I know that Dani would of never thought that her post would cause any problems, it really shouldn't have. I hope we can all move on from here and just forget the things that were said. I sure don't want to see anymore hurt feelings. I love all you guys! Take care.
Gentle Hugs,
Shannon

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   Posted 2/3/2011 12:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Dani,

Once again the amazing lady you are shows through!! I can not believe that people would make comments to you about being a "housewife"! Too many mothers today are not involved in their kids lives and that is the problem today! I can tell that from the bottom of your heart, you love your "job" and it is the most important job in the world!! Don't ever doubt that! Your family is very lucky to have you....just as you are! And I know your husband appreciates you.....just as you are!!

Big Hugs,
Beckey
Rheumatoid Arthritis, Spinal Stenosis L3/L4, L4/L5 & L5/S1 with Nerve Impingement, Fibromyalgia, TMJ, GERD, Severe Depression, VERY Large Cyst Right Ovary causing mild twisting, Small Cysts Left Ovary & 3 Large Cysts Uterus

Medications - MS-Contin, Plaquenil, Cymbalta, Famotidine and currently Prednisone

Scarred_for_life
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   Posted 2/4/2011 4:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Okay, I am sorry but I have to say something here. First off I was not knocking Dani being a housewife. I too am one and am pretty proud of the things I do to keep this household running. I can tell that Dani understands what my comment was about, even though I deleted the post.

Secondly, thank you Dani for being you. You are a great person, I can tell and though we probably have different views on some things I can see we are of one mind when it comes to forgiveness. I am sorry I even posted that earlier, I was only trying to say that being a strong woman as I am I wouldn't have whispered into hubby's ear, I would have been very upset and probably yelling at the top of my lungs.

But hey, that's just me. I don't like any man referring to me as weak or stupid when I know what I am talking about. They seem to do that when we women walk into auto parts stores too....just the looks I have gotten over the past years tell me that!

Anyway, hugssssss Dani. I love ya like a sister!

Scarred
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   Posted 2/4/2011 1:04 PM (GMT -6)   
  Thanks Dani Girl , As always you know how to put things in perspective , I love you , David and the girls big time and for always . God bless you and the family , I'm here for you always !  Love , Mikel

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   Posted 2/4/2011 7:44 PM (GMT -6)   
You Da Man Mikey!!!
When I was young & stupid I broke almost every bone in my body and I'm paying a heavy price now but I'm still here and so glad to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men, both are in the Navy. I'm so proud! My biggest health problem>> I'm a certified Luny~Tune!!
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