Do any of you "old timers" feel "squeezed out" lately?

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Retired Mom
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   Posted 2/5/2011 6:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Perhaps I'm bring up a subject that is unacceptable and, if I am, please delete the entire post.
 
I feel something going on here that has been bothering me for a while.  I am generally a very honest person, but I tend to overreact sometimes have a quick reaction time.  I have not posted much for a while to see if I could calm my feelings and to gauge myself to see if the problem was just me.  Well, now it's time to ask some others.  Do any of the "old timers" feel "squeezed out" lately?  I know I feel a change in the "air" here and I wondered if others feel it too.  It is as if the "old timers" aren't being seen or appreciated for their perspectives like they once were.  I miss all of the people who were here for so long.  I miss their perspectives and their independant opinions.  I miss their healthy debates and their personal contributions. 
 
At one time, I could come to HW at any time of the day or night and find "friends" who understood and supported each other.  Oh, don't get me wrong....there a still a few left who provide support and care, but it seems to me (just my opinion) that many of the veteran members are being "cast" away.  Perhaps I am wrong and will just fade away with the others who have gone.  I still lurk, but I don't post much now and I miss the "conversation" and the "understanding" of the group.  CP is difficult even without added stressors.
 
No matter the rocks thrown at me by making this post, I want many of you to know that you have made a difference in my life.  You have given me courage when I needed it, you have given me a reason to get up when the pain was too bad, and you have given me a lifeline that helped me in some of my worst times.  I honestly appreciate that!
 
If you don't like the length of my posts....don't read them!!! But there is no need to bump up something on lengthy posts.  I'll post whatever length I feel like posting and you are never required to read or respond to anything.  Just block me or better yet, wait it out.  Nobody can maintain constant domination of a group of people if they are not encouraged. shakehead  

Vannie
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   Posted 2/5/2011 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Reading your post made me sad.  I'm sorry you feel that way. Maybe some of the "old timers" you talk about have gotten busy or had other issues to deal with, and haven't had as much time to post...???  I don't think anyone would intentionally try to "squeeze out" anyone here. I am just a newbie, and I don't post much, but I do appreciate reading the posts by other members. I appreciate the opportunity to come here and see that others are coping and managing to geh through their days and have some joy in their lives.

couchtater
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   Posted 2/5/2011 9:45 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm a lurker and a newbee, too. I've read many of the posts here. I have such a limited amount of time to respond, but I try to understand the strength ya'll have to endure. My pains are so minor compared to what you guys are going through, that I feel unable to help anyone. But I do listen and take the "sages" advice.

((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))
Joy

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/5/2011 12:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Retired,

     The CP forum has always had an ebb and flow of sorts. When people are not posting it is usually because of two reasons.

1. Their personal lives have become very busy and they just don't have the time to post.
2. Their health problems are dominating their lives and they do not have time to post.

    The forum has been very very slow. There have been many times that the forum is "slow" and in my heart I always hope that it is because members are enjoying less pain. Winter season is always a slow time, just as high summer season is.

      I have heard mention of "new",  "veteran" & "elite". I always worry when I hear references like that. Those same "new" members are becoming veterans. Thos veteran members are becoming "elite members". They are caring and supportive. Kind and compassionate.  You were "new" just last year. We welcomed you with open arms and still to this day, love to hear from you. Even if you are worried, sad or happy.  Because when all is said and done.. there is no "new". There is no "veteran" or "elite member". It is just human beings struggling with chronic pain. Human beings in need of support and understanding. There will always be new members. There will always be veteran members. Always elite members. What makes Healing Well unique is that we are all equal here.

     Sometimes, as the late winter drags on, a sort of melancholy seems to settle on folks. Tired of being locked up and kept inside. Long winter nights get the best of everyone. For us here at Healing well it is all of that, plus the burden of chronic pain.  Nothing is keeping you from posting. Just as you posted this topic today, you will see that as they day wears on you are still receiving support even for the feelings of being isolated and alone. Mostly because we call all relate to your feelings. We have all felt that way at one point.  Just as your feelings are very important to us, so too, is the new member with only 20 posts who is only receiving a couple of replies.

     If you notice there are "veteran members" or even "new members", "elite members" who you have not heard from in a long time... go through the member directory and look up their profile. Email that person. Let them know you are thinking of them. Wondering how they are and if they are well. If they do not have an email listed in the directory, email Chutz, Susie or myself. See if we have email addresses for those people. Write a "topic" with their name on it, so that if they are "lurking and reading" they can respond to it. Most of all, when you see that person next.. by all means exchange emails addresses. Chances are, those same people you are thinking about are in desperate need of "hope you are well" note.

~~>  http://www.healingwell.com/community/members.aspx

     Most of all, please know, that even this topic, is an important topic. We want to hear from you no matter what is on your mind or in your heart. I hope you feel as though you can post anytime about anything.

*warm huggs*
       dani


TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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Retired Mom
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   Posted 2/5/2011 12:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your replies.  I did not mean to imply that "new" was bad in any way and I sincerely appolgize if I have offended anyone on that regard.  I am not condemning anyone or anything....just asking how others feel or if they are having some of the same feelings I am.  As mentioned, it was not long ago that I was "new" and even before that I was posting in an old account (which I noted when re-joining after loosing my ID/password) as prayingforrealrelief.  That made me "new" kind of twice and people were very open and kind.  New blood is what keeps forums going and what helps keep things on an even footing.
 
Again, I am very sorry if I offended any new posters.  I enjoy reading the posts and the replies and I do hope people are feeling much better and are not posting for that reason alone.  That would be wonderful!!  I am simply asking others how they feel right now. 
 
 

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 2/5/2011 1:02 PM (GMT -6)   

 

   Dear Retired,

     Oh! Of course you didn't offend anyone! *hugg* We all feel the same way at times. Don't let your thoughts steer that way at all.
These are very real topics that are very important to all of us. It is good to bring our past and our present together.
 
*hugg*
  dani

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And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood

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Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 2/5/2011 1:28 PM (GMT -6)   
Good answer Dani! smilewinkgrin

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Testosterone
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   Posted 2/5/2011 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Coming here was the first place if felt total compassion and understanding since my injury. I don't know what you're describing since I'm
New, but I've felt no negative vibe from anybody here.

straydog
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   Posted 2/5/2011 3:13 PM (GMT -6)   
RM, I understand what you are saying and when I use the term veteran member, I am a veteran or old time member only because I have been here so many years, lol. That is also how I refer to a lot of the members that have been here at HW for any length of time. Any newbie that sticks around will be a veteran member too before long, lol. There is nothing special with being either of these, veteran or a newbie just a term used here at the forum many times over the years and it just never had any special meaning of any kind.

We have lost quite a few of the the old timers or veteran members over the past year and a half or so, where they have gone to I don't know. I can only assume they have other things to take up their time, became bored with the forum, joined other forums or perhaps their needs have changed. Also, I have heard people even say they became too involved and felt they were spending too much time dwelling on CP and they just did not feel it was healthy for them. I know we have some that lurk and will log in and only post when something catches their eye in a post. I have to wonder if much of this comes with the territory of a public forum too. When I first joined HW I was on the crohns forum and the same thing happened there turn over of members over time.

Stay warm and safe everyone our snow and ice is beginning to melt.
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   Posted 2/5/2011 4:01 PM (GMT -6)   
RM, I have been a member here for a while and have seen the up's and down's in the Forum just like Dani described. I have loved this place and the people in it ever since I joined! There really is something special about this place and the wonderfull people that are members here! Lately I haven't been posting as much as I'd like to but it has nothing to do with being "pushed out"!!! If I am one of those "Old timers" you are talking about who isn't posting anymore it's only cause I just don't have the time I used to! I wish I could spend hours here and answer everyones posts but there have been changes in my life that just don't permit it any more! I think I'll always post here, I've made some very close friends in this forum, some I would call Family! Now there are so many newbe's I don't know, it does feel different then back when I knew almost everyone on the board but I think thats a good thing! That means that our Forum is alive and well and helping a new batch of members just like back when we were new!!! I really hope you change your mind and start posting again> if you have the time! I think you and I will always be welcomed with open arms!!! Thats why our forum is the best!!!
Love & Pease to All Y'all!!!
Pete
When I was young & stupid I broke almost every bone in my body and I'm paying a heavy price now but I'm still here and so glad to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men, both are in the Navy. I'm so proud! My biggest health problem>> I'm a certified Luny~Tune!!

Trudy2
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   Posted 2/6/2011 9:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I have not been here a long time as I just found the forum rather recently. But I do come here every morning in my routine and read the messages that are new or at the top that have new responses. I do not post very often as I don't on any message board. I do have a lot of problems in my life right now and reading of others and the responses does help me to deal with what I go through on a daily basis.

I do like reading the veterans posts as they are more upbeat than others. I only post when something catches my eye and I believe I actually have knowledge that may help, LOL!

I am only 42 and have only been dealing with CP for 6 1/4 years. A lot less than some of you so I have a lot to learn.

Please don't feel pushed out at all - please continue to post as we all do appreciate it!!

Trudy

JCG32
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   Posted 2/6/2011 10:58 AM (GMT -6)   
I am new to this forum but am a regular member of a similar board for 4 years. At times there is a change in the forum and older members seem to disappear and there becomes so many new people. It is hard when there are many stages that people are in with the condition that causes pain. I can remember how scared and confused on what to do when I first developed my condition. Older members who helped direct me helped so much. Now that I am at a different stage I try to remember that but also find ways to get support with the problems I face later in the condition.
It is hard when friends leave the site but what do you think could help you now feel better about the support on the forum? Is there specific things you would like to address more?
Hope it is ok I responded since I am new to this site though not to the condition

Blessedx8
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   Posted 2/6/2011 1:42 PM (GMT -6)   
RM,

I get what you are saying... and I think conversation is good. I think many people replied w/ good food for thought.

Having been here for a few years, this is pretty consistent w/ what goes on here.... there are definitely times when the board goes through quiet periods, changes and so forth. The good thing is that it usually settles into a groove and things are the same for awhile. I have no doubt it will happen again. I haven't been here in a few months (see my other post)....so I'm not sure what's gone on.... but, again, I've seen this happen many, many times.

Don't go anywhere! I've missed you and others!

--Tina
Main Health Issues: Dysautonomia/POTS; CFS/Fibro; Chronic Pain (back issues, migraines, carpal tunnel, among other things); Chronic Hypertension; Hypothyroidism and Hypoadrenalism; Mixed Sleep Apnea (on BiPap); Depression/Anxiety; Vitamin D Deficiency.

Joan M
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   Posted 2/6/2011 4:54 PM (GMT -6)   
i have been posting for a few years...though my difficulties with asthma, gerd, the shingles, osteoarthritis, depression, and recent knee surgery with BIG complications.

sometimes we feel like people are not responding to us...maybe they just don't know what to say.

it is much better to come on here and chat than talk with friends. i am very happy most of my friends don't have chronic pain. but seriously they don't know what i am talking about. maybe they think i am exaggerating. also the medical people are not sympathetic and really don't seem to hear me. you people do and that's why i come here.

hope you all feel better and peace to all.

mrsm123
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   Posted 2/6/2011 6:39 PM (GMT -6)   
RM,
I also get what you are saying and I agree , this board is very different than the one that I joined what seems like such a short time ago.
The people who were here , for the most part are no longer, the moderation team that we knew  has added new members and the tone of the board has gone through several different shifts .
While new members have come and gone,  many of the former long time members were kind of lost in the shuffle and at times over run with the new comers or driven away.
 Some of the discussions that took place and the sometimes hard line approach taken toward some negative behaviors is different now than it used to be.
I don't post nearly as much as I once did, for many reasons , in part due to my own physical limitations, and due in large part to the feel of the board. I usually only respond to threads where I really feel that I can help somehow, other than that, I read and stay quiet.
At times , it appears very clique-ish here, and almost to huggy. I don't mean to make it sound negative, because for obviously more of the members than not, it appears to be how the forum seems to want it these days, but there is a tradeoff in that the content and the information that was found here, is not here as much anymore, but rather, it's more like facebook , rather than a forum that deals with the disease called chronic pain.
The board used to be full of more content, ie links to things that addressed specific problems or programs  I think is what you mean.
I suppose what I have to say isn't going to win me any friends, now, but I tend to think like you that this place has changed and not necessarily for the better.
So, the answer to your question is yes, I consider myself an "old timer", maybe not in length of time registered compared to some of the others who were here then but definately in length of time lurking and posting and I know that others have left for the very reasons that you asked about and yes, I have felt squeezed out because I am not part of the clique.
I have thought about fading away myself, and probably will very soon. I just don't feel comfortable the way that I once did .
 It took courage to say what you did and to ask the hard questions that you asked. Stones should not be thrown but rather the moderators should ask themselves if all of the huggy stuff belongs on a chronic pain forum that used to be known for its information and resources, as well as the knowledge of it's participants. 
 Do any of the "old timers" feel "squeezed out" lately?  I know I feel a change in the "air" here and I wondered if others feel it too.  It is as if the "old timers" aren't being seen or appreciated for their perspectives like they once were.  I miss all of the people who were here for so long.  I miss their perspectives and their independant opinions.  I miss their healthy debates and their personal contributions. 
 
At one time, I could come to HW at any time of the day or night and find "friends" who understood and supported each other.  Oh, don't get me wrong....there a still a few left who provide support and care, but it seems to me (just my opinion) that many of the veteran members are being "cast" away.  Perhaps I am wrong and will just fade away with the others who have gone.  I still lurk, but I don't post much now and I miss the "conversation" and the "understanding" of the group.  CP is difficult even without added stressors.
 

Vannie
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   Posted 2/6/2011 7:41 PM (GMT -6)   
I feel compelled to say something on behalf of the newer members of the forum. That would be myself and many others. I don't believe the newer members have a clique at all. I am happy to read all posts from all members and comment when I think I have something to offer or when I have a question. I may be wrong, but that seems to be the same with the other "newer members". I also do not understand how anyone could be "squeezed out". No one is stopping anyone from posting here or commenting here. The diversity of the forum is what makes this a great place to come for information and support. Not all of us share the same interests. Nothing wrong with that. All seem to be welcome here. This should not be a "private club". I don't think anyone should have to "earn" the right to post here. We all share one thing in common.......chronic pain and its sometimes devastiting effect on our lives. In my humble opion, we should all feel free to post here. None of us should fear recriminations for expressing our opinion(s). All of us deserve respect, compassion, and understanding, regardless of our status as a newbie or a veteran member. After all, chronic pain does not discriminate between newbies and veterans. It is an equal opportunity condition. Hope I have not offended anyone. I don't believe we should overreact to any perceived injustice, because I see no malicious intent here.


Peace,
V
Fibromyalgia, Inflammatory Arthritis, Osteoarthritis, Asthma, High BP, DDD, Bulging Discs in Cervical & Lumbar Spine, GERD, Prediabetic
Prednisone, Lexapro, Cardizem, Lisinopril, Advair, Lipitor, Vit D, Joint Supplements, Soma, Tramadol, Fish Oil Supplements
I take one day at a time, and try to save my energy for the joy in life.

uniquelyme
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   Posted 2/7/2011 1:03 AM (GMT -6)   
RM....I too understand where you are coming from... I was gone for a while and now I'm back...so if you ever need me I'm around...and you can always email me...

Rhonda
Spinal Stenosis, DDD, DJD, HBP, Type 2 Diabetes

Methadone 120 mg. X daily
Oxycodone 30 mg. 5 X daily
Lisinopril HCTZ 10/12.5 2 X daily
Novolin 70/30 insulin 75 units 3Xdaily
Novolin R insulin 1Xdaily
Novolin R 0-50-0-0

That's all....but OMG!! isn't that enough?

mrsm123
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   Posted 2/7/2011 1:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Vannie,
No one said that it was the newer members who have formed a "clique", so please don't take offense where none was intended. The general tone of the board is so different than it once was, I think that was what RM and others were trying to say and it is.
As to the squeezed out comment, you weren't here when many of the former members were and they were and in some instances are, for lack of a better way of describing it squeezed out, or maybe figuratively shouted down might be a better way of describing it.
I don't think that anyone suggested that this should become a private club either but what was being discussed was that the members who had some real life experiences /work related fields who often offered direction and insight into helping someone were kind of over run when what they suggested went against the huggie type responses .
We should all feel free to post but there are those of us who used to post regularly before, who don't now.
And you are correct, that chronic pain is an equal opportunity condition, and it effects all of us differently but what I believe that RM is /was trying to get at is that those who had a lot of knowledge about chronic pain, it's treatments, resources are mostly gone now and it is in part because of the way the board has become.
The "reasons" that some of us "veteran" members don't post much is because the board no longer offers what it did that attracted us here in the first place.
It is not that RM or anyone , me included was laying that responsibility at the brand new members feet, it started before any of you newer members registered and started posting.
Anyway, I've probably said far more than I should have but like RM I guess it needed to be said and now is as good a time as any other .
I am sorry if you or anyone else takes offense to what was said, but it really has nothing to do with you "brandy new members".
Regards,
Sandi

Chutz
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   Posted 2/7/2011 2:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Everyone has such great answers and insight and I too think this is a topic worth discussing.

I see the forum somewhat as I see each of our lives. Things change and always will. Many years ago I was interested in different activities than I am now. I met a lot of great people and had a wonderful time. But...are they wondering why I'm not hanging around those events any more? Are you or any of us doing the same things we were doing 2, 10 or 25 years ago? Was anyone a member of Healing Well 15 years ago? No...because there was no HW at that time. ;-)

We all change as do any groups, families or communities. One person I listened to for years before his passing was Leo Buscaglia. I loved his quote on change.. "Change is the end result of all true learning." He also said something about change means growth and if you're not growing then you must be dead! So change means we're alive so learn to enjoy and welcome change. I think what you and the rest of us are seeing is normal change.

But let me qualify that statement. Remember back in junior high or high school? There were awful cliques, mostly among the girls...lol There were what we called the 'social or sosh group' who we considered snobs. Then there were the 'hoods' who we actually saw smoke a cigarette once behind Mr. Nelsons barn! (gasp) And even though the term hadn't been coined yet, there were the nerds! Heaven help you if you were a nerd!! There often was a tiny group who clung together and mostly these were kids from very poor families. Their clothes were 'sad' to say the least, hair hadn't been washed in a week and no one wanted to sit near them for fear of catching something. But there were also a handful of just weird kids, like me, who hung out with most everyone. I have no idea why but it's how I was. I still don't like cliques. But like it or not people gravitate towards each other for different reasons. It's just life! And this is how I see Healing Well too. We're no different than the people who life on your block, in your city or who you went to high school with. We're just a bit older and hopefully a bit wiser....but not always.

One thing I do want to comment on is the use of the words "Veteran", "New", "Elite" that you see by people's names. Those are directly related to how many posts they have made. I know people on Healing Well who will post a tiny comment to every topic they can find just to have their number of "Total Posts" bigger than someone else. <shaking head> Pretty silly, huh?

And for me...about one a year I hit 'burn out' and need a break. That's why you haven't seen me much for the past month or so. I hit the bottom of my 'hole' and am finally bouncing back. Again, no different than in our daily lives.

So, if you still feel outed by others please try to consider it their problem because I can assure you that it's not you! You are well loved and respected around here...OK?? <hands on hips> OK, time for Mother Chutzie's lecture to end...LMBO

Hugs to all,
Chut
Moderator on the Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain forums
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JCG32
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Date Joined Dec 2010
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   Posted 2/7/2011 3:21 AM (GMT -6)   
As older members could you state what the forum used to offer and does not now? Is there a way to get some of what you felt was good about the forum before back now? I would think if many found it a benefit then it would be now to the new people. Just a thought

Vannie
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Date Joined Aug 2010
Total Posts : 795
   Posted 2/7/2011 6:27 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your reply, Sandi. I was really confused about the original post, because I didn't know the history of the board. Honestly, it did sort of hurt my feelings because I did think it was directed at the newer members of the forum, and I could not figure out what any of us had done to offend others. I think I will just fade into the background now. This issue is obviously way before my time and I do not have anthing to contribute here.

Wishing you all less pain and many blessings,
V
Fibromyalgia, Inflammatory Arthritis, Osteoarthritis, Asthma, High BP, DDD, Bulging Discs in Cervical & Lumbar Spine, GERD, Prediabetic
Prednisone, Lexapro, Cardizem, Lisinopril, Advair, Lipitor, Vit D, Joint Supplements, Soma, Tramadol, Fish Oil Supplements
I take one day at a time, and try to save my energy for the joy in life.

Joan M
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   Posted 2/7/2011 8:09 AM (GMT -6)   
o vannie i hope to see you on the osteoarthritis forum! is it possible to have "information threads" and "emotional hugging threads"?? both of these actions are very helpful to us.

my responses are short because my eyes are not that great and it is really difficult for me to read very long responses. also i tend to think in a very fast way (not that being a slow thinker is bad).

hope everybody feels better.

Retired Mom
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   Posted 2/7/2011 1:46 PM (GMT -6)   
First, I'd like to say that I'm sorry I seemed to be "gone" after making such a post, but I've been in the hospital since Saturday evening.  I just made it home.  They seemed to think I was having a heart attack, but thankfully I was not.  We're still not sure what was going on and I've had every test in the book.  Follow-up will be key and I'll be seeing the heart Dr, the gastro and Lord knows who else.
 
To address the many postings made.  I first want to again say that the intent of this thread was not to diminish the newer people posting.  I do believe that the opinions of all matter very much.  I guess perhaps certain terms such as newbie or veteran may offend some, but how else can I address the issue?  It's not a name calling...just a question. 
 
To be completely honest, I really enjoy many new and old members, but that wasn't the point.  I miss the discussions, not cliques.  I've never been into cliques and I don't intend to start now.  Yes, some of our members have developed close relationships.  That is a positive thing and the word members is just that....a person who has elected to be a member of this board.  
 
With each person who enters and each person who leaves, we see a different perspective.  Ebb and flow is good.  I don't do facebook, twitter and other social networking sites because I don't like them.  I do like HW.  To each his/her own. 
 
Although I would still like to see everyone's perspective on this topic, I do not feel the need to continually appoligize for asking a question or offending anyone. I do not plan to leave.  I never said I was leaving. I only asked if others were feeling squeezed out.  Perhaps I could have chosen a more politically correct term, but I did not.  PC is not my best attribute.  If I take a break and lurk for a while then I am no different from many others.  If I started something that will bring life back here and improve communication, then I am happy.  This place is like a second home to me and has been for some time.  I like my home to be happy, encouraging, communicative, informative and open for all discussions.  I also very much like the idea of a topic for the week.
 
Thanks to all who read and didn't get an attitude about a simple question.  Thanks also to those who found the courage to agree or dissagree.  If everybody is too scared to bring up something, then open communication is not going on.  I hope we have open communication on this and all other topics.
 
Blessings and pain free days to all!

straydog
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   Posted 2/7/2011 2:52 PM (GMT -6)   
RM sorry to hear you have been in the hospital but very glad to hear it was not a heart attack, wow, that was scary I am sure. Its just scary being in a hospital this day and time anyway regardless what a person is in there for. I do want to ask a question, but my memory is so rotten these days, but I am thinking you were needing a second surgery and if I remember right it was a redo of your first bladder surgery that was done not too long ago. Did I dream that or did you have a second surgery done. I remember something about it being scheduled close to the holidays and you had decided to wait till after the holidays as you did not want to be recuperating with Christmas so close. Was the 2nd surgery successful with a good result? Anyway I wanted to ask about the surgery.

Take care.
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mrsm123
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   Posted 2/7/2011 4:24 PM (GMT -6)   
RM,
I'm truly sorry to read that you were in the hospital but am glad that it wasn't a heart attack . I hope that the doctors will be able to track down and treat whatever it was that landed you there so that you don't have to go through that again.

wink

I've had chest pains that hit me early in the morning, and shot up my jaw, arm and around my ribs and I know how frightening they can be. Mine was never diagnosed despite two cardiac caths and chemical stress tests. smhair

I agree with you about the social networking sites, I have a facebook but don't use it much and in fact, have to have my daughters help me with it.  I use it mostly to talk with family.

I am glad that you are back. Take care of yourself and rest, as I'm sure that the doctors recommended .

Sandi

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