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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 2/25/2011 10:49 PM (GMT -6)   
With the additional spare time I am finding myself having with my lessened abilities, I thought I would do the last of the wedding plans to pass time. Now that they are all done, I have turned to my crocheting to keep me busy.

Which brings me to this. If you were a bridesmaid of 13, 14, 15 or 25, would you enjoy receiving a hand-crocheted silk shawl matching your dress with a matching handmade necklace as a bridesmaid gift?

It seems silly of me to doubt myself at this point, but I made one silver and cornflower blue shawl for my youngest bridesmaid, and since I have so much time before the wedding, I figured I would make for all my girls and myself. It seems a little corny that we will all be up there in different colored versions of the same shawl now, but I wanted to give them all something that is from my heart so they know how much I love and appreciate them standing with us. We can't afford the lavish gifts I see others buying, like personalized tote bags filled with goodies, T-shirts, flip-flops with their names on them. I am just going for something sentimental and lasting. Plus, I can feel as though I am working on the wedding, and it is something I can do even when other things are not possible.

Any and all opinions for or against my creating these will be appreciated! Having boys, I am just not used to girls and understanding what they would like or expect in this circumstance.

Thank you all!

Tirzah
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   Posted 2/25/2011 11:30 PM (GMT -6)   
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I think it depends on what the final product looks like -- especially for the jewelry. If you don't know the girls very well, you might check out stores (even online stores) with fun & funky jewelry -- the kind you could make yourself. Places like JCrew, Old Navy, or Forever 21 or such can give ideas on what is on trend right now for teens. You could model your necklaces after that.
The shawl sounds really beautiful. Probably that's more of a one-time thing since there aren't too many times young people get that dressed up, but if you're up for it that could make a nice gift to wear that day. Just don't over do. I'm sure they will know they are appreciated! When my sister got married, she got us bridesmaids crystal necklaces & earrings from mail order. They were literally $9.99 per set. But she was so gracious during the wedding & took time to let each of us know how much more special her day was for having us there & for all we did for her with throwing the shower & such. The very young bridesmaids (9, 13/14) did like having a little gift to open on the day of the wedding, but I don't think it matters so much what's inside as that you gave them something & you told them how much you love and appreciate them. :)

hope that helps!

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   Posted 2/25/2011 11:47 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with Tirza. It is such a sweet thought, but don't overdo. They will just be happy to have something that is special for them. Good luck!! Heather
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   Posted 2/26/2011 12:22 AM (GMT -6)   
I have a different look on it. I like the idea of a shawl, even for the younger ones. They'll have something beautiful to wear that day and also something they can keep from now on. They could even lay it somewhere in their room (the teens) and everyone would know that they participated in your wedding and the older ones that have a home could lay their's on the back of the sofa or somewhere in the living room. That's just my idea. I would love to have one myself.

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ps. when is the big day?

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 2/26/2011 6:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Tirza, I am completely with you on the fun and funky look necklaces! I have a 16-year-old neighbor who is very talented in this area and together we have created identical fun and elegantly funky ones for the girls to wear. I am borrowing a very good friend's great-grandmother's necklace for the ceremony, and then changing into my fun necklace for the reception.
mama6, I pray I don't over do it! The shawls are simple, and if I get around to it, I will post a link for Facebook photos so you can see. It will be my son modeling though. I can recline or sit while crocheting, so it is something to do even on bad days.

Loretta,
Thank you for your opinion also! I think you are right in some cases. Some girls just aren't into anything like that, and their mother's already approved the idea and with them on board, they can be kept away for when they get older or simply given to mom if they don't like them.

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   Posted 2/26/2011 8:47 PM (GMT -6)   

 

    Dear Mindy,

    We sorta gave a gift, though it wasn't one they could take home with them. I wished we had in hind sight though. I think your idea of personalized gifts is a great one. I think everyone will be touched deeply by such a loving gesture  :-)

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   Posted 2/27/2011 1:20 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm for giving the shawl and the necklace. The only ones who might not be 'wild' about the shawl are the two younger ones but don't totally discount them. Many kids do really 'get it' when it comes to heirloom items/gifts. And if not now then by the time she goes to her Sr. Prom and has something special to wear she'll be so proud to own it. Plus, you can't go wrong with classic jewelry. My preference would be to go with pearls for all of them, even the younger ones. I think they'd love it.

My mothers' pearls were something to covet and I would drool over them any time she took them out of their case to wear them. Didn't matter what age I was. The pearls are now in my possession and a few weeks ago our 3 month old granddaughter had some professional photographs take with the pearls draped around her feet and her tiny hands. Even the matching solitaire ring was used...dangling from one itty bitty toe.

And I remember a white crocheted shawl with gold flecks that my mom always had in her cedar chest. I would have given anything to have had and worn that all the years I grew up. Now it's still in the cedar chest but the chest sits at the end of 'my' bed. I haven't gone through that in a long time. Winter might be a good time to spend an afternoon enjoying the memories. wink

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   Posted 2/27/2011 7:16 AM (GMT -6)   
I think it's a good gift idea if (my opinion) you make things, modern/ trendy/funky whatever you want to call it. For instance, when you say shawl I think of grandmother and a triangle. Call them wraps and shape them in a more modern style or have the yarn be unique. And make sure the colors are fashionable. Totally doable just remember they are mostly teenagers.

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   Posted 3/1/2011 9:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you ladies very much! I appreciate the feedback. At this point, the shawls are keeping me busy during the not so good days.

We are getting married October 7, 2011 at 6pm. The sun will be setting during the ceremony, and it is in a tent at a local hotel, with a gazebo and stream with a small bridge and waterfall in the background. It can't come fast enough!
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   Posted 3/1/2011 10:30 AM (GMT -6)   
MM, me personally, I would have /loved/ the shawl and necklace, but then I have a very ecentric personality and have always enjoyed that sort of thing. I came from a time when both my Grandmother's made clothes for my dolls and for me, and when I was old enough taught me to sew. Because some gifts have become so easy to purchase the way of the handmade gift seems to be disappearing. I always try to make it a point to make gifts at the holiday season; this last year I made a couple of no-sew blankets out of thick fleece ... my son is almost inseperable from his. Which has also helped keep alive the fact that handmade gifts are far more precious and special then anything store bought.
 
When a friend of mine got married over ten years ago (which would have put me in my late twenties) she kept her gifts simple. We hadn't carried flowers down the aisle, we had carried beautiful hand painted wooden folding fans. They were all different, wether some had a more lacy cut-out design, to the stain/type of wood. I remember mine was cherry with beautiful roses painted on it. Simple, functional, and I regret that I lost it when I moved from one state to another. Along with the fans she also gave us sterling silver roses. Not a real rose, but a actual single silver rose about 3 inches in length, open in full bloom. I took mine to a jewelers and had a simple tack soldered onto the back so I could wear it on my evenin coat. The men were given engraved flasks.
 
Personally I would enjoy seeing these shawls you make, and do you take orders as  I would love to have something like that!! I could never learn to crochet, and now my hands won't work. I've managed to learn to knit with the help of knifty knitter looms and do alot of scarves and hats for friends, infact I just finished an order for a Doctor Who scarf.
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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 3/1/2011 10:44 AM (GMT -6)   
Rhaevin, Thank you so much for your story. I am 30, and many times feel left out of my age group. I make jam and spaghetti sauce, can vegetables, grow our own veggies, and make pickles.

I do take orders for the silk and lace weight shawls, simply because of cost of materials. It can get very expensive. However, if you would email me with your address and information, I would love to send you something completely free. I create prayer shawls through my church to distribute free to anyone in need, and I know personally that living with chronic pain means a need for comfort. I would love to send you one I personally made and had blessed this past month. Would you be interested in that as well?

Just click on the envelope under my name when you log in, and send me an email with your information. We can discuss special orders there as well.

Thank you for showing interest and reminding me that homemade comes from the heart. Anyone can spend $$ on a gift, and it truly is the thought that counts for handmade or bought. To me, I include all the good feelings, well wishes, and hope I can put into everything I make from a washcloth, afghan, shawl, or wrap. That is what they are for, spreading hope, comfort, and love!

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