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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 3/22/2011 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   
The first really good day in a long time, and I go and blow it. Why do I always do this to myself?

I was getting so good at pacing, then my ankle sprain set things back. Today my papers for my ex-employers long term disability come, and my doctors have marked it unable to function. What a let down. So I keep going anyway, getting stubborn and doing things by myself. Now I am on enforced rest until the pain calms down.

I am my own worst enemy some days.

Anniewhereugo
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   Posted 3/22/2011 4:24 PM (GMT -6)   
What does that mean "unable to function"? will this prevent you from getting the disability you need?

I am like you, I do stuff I know is going to bite me later. I think it is just human nature. Hope things get better soon.
protruding discs, c-4, c-5 and c-7 with spinal cord impingement, which is causing numbness, pins and needles and peripheral pain.arthritis of the left knee

Rhaevin
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   Posted 3/23/2011 1:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh Mom... *hugs* I know all to well how easy it is to go out and "wreck" myself and put myself outta comission by being stubborn or determined to see something through without pacing myself or asking for help ... usually it's a result of someone ruffling my feathers. Can't be there for me, fine, I'll just do it myself! becomes my attitude, and you'd think by now I'd realize that's a very destructive mentality to have and that I need to leave it by the wayside. It's hard though. You want to feel productive and feel like you've accomplished something, that life is continuging to go forward instead of feeling stuck in limbo.
 
I hope you feel better soon. Hopefully you can find something positive to focus on next time, or another outlet instead of beating yourself up.

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 3/23/2011 6:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you both for posting. Its good to know I am not the only one who still struggles with pacing !

Annie, The doctor says unable to function is how this insurance company classifies completely disabled. It means unable to funcOtion at work, or outside of home doing conventional work. I began school almost a year ago for medical transcription to work from home. This means that the degree I am going for means nothing now. He doesn't think I will be able to do even that part time.

Its not that devastating, I know. I just have trouble feeling unproductive. That word, disabled, seems like such a dirty word. People say it like its a curse, like the f-word, as if being disabled means you are no longer worth anything and are just a drain on society.

I need some sun to perk me up!

Rhaevin
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   Posted 3/23/2011 8:30 AM (GMT -6)   
Mindy... go pick up that crochet hook!! Work on the plans for your wedding, go look at flowers, taste cakes, in a few more months the bridal expo's should be starting; make plans to attend one. Go to the mall and let one of the girls at the makeup counter give you a lil make over, get ideas for that magical date set to come. That way you can feel like you've accomplished something, but done something uplifting at the same time. 
 
I'm still hoping to see some pictures of your beautiful work, and tomorrow I'll be getting to the yarn shop, while today I should be able to get out and look at fabric. smilewinkgrin

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   Posted 3/23/2011 12:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't know what it was that you did before your health put you on the sidelines, but it sounds like to me all those papers really mean is that you are unable to perform the job you were doing even with accommodations of some type. It does not mean that you are incapable of doing some other kind of work if you so desire and can find something that fits into your health situation.
2 confirmed herniated lumbar discs. Spinal Arthritis. Spinal Stenosis, diabetic peripheral nueropathy.

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 3/23/2011 12:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Jim, I answered phones to schedule radiology appointments and get their demographics and insurance information.

I am in school to type doctor's transcription from home and he encouraged me to finish, but doesn't think I will be able to do it.

I haven't given up yet, just don't know how to get past it at this point. My last surgery in February 2011 made things worse instead of better at this point.

Rhaevin,
I can't drive and am a Mary Kay Makeup and skin care consultant, sort of. I do the makeovers! I have been crocheting like mad. I got 2 silk shawls done in 5 weeks. Wedding planning is done and paid for. I have left myself with next to nothing to do! Pity party day needs to end!

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   Posted 3/23/2011 2:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Sure hope your on the mend...
Lots of well wishes and healing hugz
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Rhaevin
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   Posted 3/23/2011 9:55 PM (GMT -6)   
Now Mindy just because you made all your plans doesn't mean you can't go have fun regardless. Maybe you'll get some great ideas that you'll be able to share with a friend when it's her turn, or get some ideas last minute for some changes you want to make that are minor. And everyone always has time to taste cake samples! smilewinkgrin
 
I'll be getting to the yarn store tomorrow on my way back from visiting with my surgeon. Didn't find the fabric today I was hoping too, so my Mom and I are planning a pilgramidge to the little local quilt store as she always has a good supply of the type of fabric I want. Let's hope she's got what I'm looking for! Maybe this is what I need to get that swift kick to get my own projects jump started again; after all I still have a barely started scarf staring at me from my loom. My hands just haven't been willing to work lately.
 
As for the make-over.... is there a friend who can try out some stuff for you? It's always different when you let someone else play around. Or maybe just go for a spa treatment; I love those massage chairs while my toes soak in the jacuzzi tubs.
 
*hugs* Chin up!

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   Posted 3/23/2011 10:32 PM (GMT -6)   

 

   Dear Mindy,

    Hello there! *hugg* I hope by now you are either resting or getting some sleep! I want so much to say ," Don't over do it!" the fact is I do it to myself every day. So how about we make a pact to take small breaks after each large task? Deal? Okay, I know.. your just one of those ladies that likes to keep busy. But try to take those little breaks when you can, as often as you can.

*warm hugg*
  dani

   


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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 3/24/2011 9:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Dani,
I am doing better now. My niece came over and is spending the night tonight. She helped me make the pies for our church fundraising dinner that is this Saturday. She helped so much. I haven't seen her in so long, and her presence was more the therapy I needed to feel better than her actual help with the pies.

I too will strive to take small breaks when doing big tasks to keep myself from over doing it as often. I am thinking of getting a watch with at timer. This way, I can set it for a specific amount of time depending on the activity level of the task to remind myself to break for a while.

How are you feeling dear? What did the doctors say? You said you struggle with this too, and are you making any progress?
You know me too well when you say I like to be productive! If I had to list my weaknesses, that would be in capital letters at the top surrounded with exclamation points! Productivity is a good thing but not when taken so far that it jeopardizes your health or the health of others.

Hope you are doing well tonight, and thank you for the gentle reminder and encouragement.
Mindy
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