Finding the little things that promote joy

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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 4/14/2011 6:39 AM (GMT -6)   
I thought I would stop having a pity party and focus more on the small daily things that promote happiness for all of us.

When I decided to slow down, I began to feel bad about myself, like I couldn't keep up. When I started focusing on making my prayers shawls and shawls for my bridesmaids and myself, things became less depressing.
I also focus on my dogs antics each day, the taste of fresh fruit, a bite of chocolate, and helping my sons with homework and listening to their day. My fiance provides many moments to brighten each day, from a sweet text message, getting a much desired special drink (lemonade and Slushies) or simply sitting with me and watching a show or listening to music. Now that spring is here, we spend hours outside working on our garden and walking on nearby trails and roads as a family. Those years of simplicity with the boys are soon going to pass, so we are trying to spend as much time doing fun things with them as we can.

We also kicked the soda habit as a family! That was hard.. shocked

I am interested to hear what everyone else has for their moments of happiness. Maybe the feelings will spread ? Who knows?

Prayers and wishes for low pain and happy moments today,

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   Posted 4/14/2011 7:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Mindy....
I like your post yeah It's definitely so easy to get caught up in the frustrations of life, pain, etc.... and miss the good stuff. 
I have small moments throughout the day, like you, that I'm thankful for.  All of the kids talk my ears off....and I'm thankful for that - that they enjoy talking to me and tell me all sorts of things.  Lots of things like that.
A "bigger" thing that happened last weekend, though, made me realize how many wonderful people there really are in the world.  We had been out running errands, driving the kids to/from things and so forth.  We decided to stop and grab a bite to eat at a local restaurant.  We used to eat out frequently...but, needless to say, as a family of 10 - it doesn't happen much anymore. 
Anyway, there was a older couple there that were the nicest people.... They had asked some things about our family, about the twins and so forth.  They commented on how well behaved the kids were and what a nice family we were.  At the end, the man got up and quietly slipped my husband a $100 bill.  My husband tried to decline, but the man insisted.  We thanked them extensively and finished up a nice conversation w/ them...and they left before us.  As we got ready to leave and waited for our check - our waiter told us it had already been paid for.  The couple also paid for our lunch.
I've been thinking about that so many times this week.... and - like you were saying - really want to try to focus more on the positives of this life.
Just thought I'd share.... --Tina

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   Posted 4/14/2011 10:55 AM (GMT -6)   
MM it is the simple things in life that can take our minds off of our problems. My favorite time is the spring, I go out on the patio in the mornings very early to hear he birds sing. There is something about hearing those little guys sing that makes me feel so good. I have a small pair of binoculars out there and I also like to look at them, hoping to find a different type of bird one morning. By doing this I have learned many of the birds sounds, like what a cardinal sounds like and that sort of thing. There are two red headed woodpeckers that come back to the same trees each spring and let me tell you they get into action, lol.

Pity parties are normal and good for us, just don't let one last over 24 hours you can sure get into trouble letting them last longer than that.
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   Posted 4/14/2011 11:10 AM (GMT -6)   


          Good Gracious Mindy! yeah

                 I loved your post today, and you are setting an excellant example for other members here!

      It's nice to hear some positive undertones in your voice. "Wake Up!..and smell the Roses" what this sounds like! Congrat's!

       It is not easy with troubles surrounding us all the time, and it takes a lot of effort to see the possibilty of what can be enjoyed.

             I have a co-worker who has a couple of extra Rosters (Chicken's), and he said since we live on 12 acres we can have them. I guess we are going to be Chicken farmers now! tongue

       My wife and I are excited about it, because the 10yr old will enjoy it. Either he will chase them or they will be chasing him. smilewinkgrin   At any rate it should be a learning experience, and fun for all of us as a family. I grew up on a farm, and welcome a little bit of country reminder in the back yard.

           Just wanted to pop in and say it was nice to see a new frame of mind. Keep it up, but feel free to rant when things just don't go right.

         Take care!

             SE wink



"The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present."

Monty's Mom
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   Posted 4/14/2011 1:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you all for noticing the change in mood. Most of my good days are not spent commenting here on the forum, because I am trying to cram in anything I can fit to get it all done. Today I spent time in the sunshine, not gardening, not walking, no dogs. Just sitting and crocheting or reading in the sun.

So today's happy moments are filled with sunshine and birdsong so far.
I did find out that my bridesmaid's shawls and my own air light enough to be blown about by a breeze. My fiance says lighter than a butterfly wing :-) That was what I was going for!

I also had a successful paced day. Relaxing outside, doing schoolwork, washed a load of laundry, and took 3 hours to clean my kitchen floor. A productive day!

Thank you straydog for sharing. Paula, that is lovely time spent with your son. Enjoy it while it lasts! They grow too fast.
SE, Thank you for noticing the change. I am making a conscious effort. I love chickens! We had them growing up, and I loved to go in and collect the eggs. We had 2 roosters and 15 hens by the time my father gave them up. They are fun for kids too. Cracked corn is a nice treat for them sometimes.


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   Posted 4/14/2011 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Glad you had a productive day :) and thanks again for starting this thread :)
It's good to focus on all the good things in life....
Love, Tina

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   Posted 4/14/2011 8:31 PM (GMT -6)   
it sounds like you had a day just for yourself and everyone needs a few days like
that, you sound great. I think it marvelous that you can make prayer shaws...
I like to do needleworks such as counted cross-stitch or needlepoint...
healing hugz and may you have more good days...
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