I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, and an insensitive doctor to boot. Unfortunately narcotic abuse has been a big thing for a long while now no matter where you live.
Like MrsM said, it's not about making the pain go away; it's chronic pain for a reason. But it is about quality of life. The pain will never go away, but you need to find a way to get it to a manageable level where you can function.
Aside from medication there are also oodles of ways to combat your pain. Everything from meditation to biofeed back, wraps, compresses, sprays and creams, etc. I recently sent someone a link to Solutions for a full back herbal pack that you could throw in the freezer, or into the microwave; between the herbs and the semi-moist heat, and the fact that you could drape it down the length of your back, I thought it might help.
For over 3 years now I've lived on narcotics. I've taken Vicoden, Loritab, and now Oxycodone. Alot of the times we switched my perscription because my doctor felt I was getting to high a dose, as one's body can build up a tolerance if you take it all the time. So he would switch me to something else at a lower dose and I would take that till the pain became to great. I use a variety of things to help combat my pain though aside from my drugs. I use BioFreeze on my arm, which is great in the summer given how cooling it is. I use absorbine gel linement that I had originally bought for my horse. I also have a TENs unit, extra-strength TigerBalm, and a few IceyHot sleeves that cover half my hand and all of my forearm.
Being proactive about your pain is also a biggie. If you're on a maintenance dose, make sure you take it on time regularly, using break through only when you positively need it. I have done the whole "but I had a bad day!" and taken extra meds. As a result, I ran out. I had a new perscription in hand, but it didn't matter, the pharmacy couldn't/wouldn't fill my script. And so I went three days without pain meds. I was a wreck! Between pain at full strength and withdrawls... you can imagine what an ugly thing that was. Also between doctors that have you on contracts, and insurance companies, over using your meds is a bad thing and can get you booted from your treating doctor's office.
My pain doctor, while not a fan of perscribing narcotics, always tells me the same thing every month; if you can skip a dose, do so.
Just be aware of what you're taking. Tell your doctor you're concerned about your quality of life, find alternative methods to help deal with your pain. Remember, be your own advocate, and be proactive. *hugs*
Originally injured 10/26/2007 - Initial diagnosis; Tendonitis
Have seen several specialists; Bone, Muscle, Hand, Neurologist, Chriopractor, Physical Therapist...
Went through a battery of tests, multiple MRI's
11/16/09 finally diagnosed CRPS - Stage 2
Permanently disabled, on Oxycodone and Celexa.
February 2011 successful SCSU trial
May 2011 SCSU implant surgery