What do you do when you have no choice?

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Rhaevin
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   Posted 4/29/2011 10:32 AM (GMT -6)   
So my family decided this year we would put an above ground pool up, one of a nice size that was 16' in diameter. However we never landscaped our back yard, and it's uneven rock and hard dirt.
 
For several weeks my father (retired) worked hard to frame an 18' x 18' section and lay down weed block, and try and shift as much of the dirt around as possible. Because the land is so sloped there was an 11" difference between the top board and the bottom board. Originally the plan was to order some dirt and then sand to fill it all in before we put the tarp and then the pool down. Discovered it was cheaper to just use all sand instead.
 
Yesterday around 9am we had 4 tons of sand delivered. It was a moderately warm day, but the wind was strong. My father, my 8 year old son, and my disabled mother along with myself, set about moving the pile of sand into the sectioned off area so we could start leveling. 3 hours later we had about three quarters of it finished, but the wind had coated all of us in a fine layer of grit. I was exhausted; I'd done so much shoveling while my mother smoothed and spread out the sand. My Dad and I did a rotation; I would fill the wheel barrow, and he would move and dump it; it gave us both a  chance to take a break. We all took hydration breaks, and by 11:30am we all admitted defeat and went inside to eat. I still had my friends property to tend to -- all her animals needed to be fed, and thanks to all the wind storms lately all the waters had to be dumped, cleaned, and refilled.
 
By the time I got home at 3pm I was surprised I was still standing. To many spoons, I used way to many spoons.
 
Today I'm paying the price; I want to take my drugs till I'm numb, but I know that would be stupid so I won't. Still, my body is in horrid pain, and the work is not yet done, plus I will have to go feed again today. But it's not like I had any choice in the matter. Was I just supposed to sit there and let my parents do all the heavy work while I did nothing more then try to help level the sand? I did that too just because of my Mom's disability; her legs are her biggest issue. Was I supposed to suddenly be "busy" and leave them to do it alone? Part of the reason they're putting in the pool is so that my mother and I can do physical therapy in the water. And my friend let's me keep my horse at her house for free in exchange for some small tasks; like working with her one horse, or feeding her critters when she's out of town. She doesn't go out of town often, certainly not of late, and normally it's never a problem. This time the timing was just bad. So I ask you again, what do you do when you have no choice?
 
I just hurt so bad today I don't want to do anything except curl up and cry.
Originally injured 10/26/2007 - Initial diagnosis; Tendonitis
Have seen several specialists; Bone, Muscle, Hand, Neurologist, Chriopractor, Physical Therapist...
Went through a battery of tests, multiple MRI's
11/16/09 finally diagnosed CRPS - Stage 2
Permanently disabled, on Oxycodone and Celexa.
February 2011 successful SCSU trial
May 2011 SCSU implant surgery

Blessedx8
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   Posted 4/29/2011 11:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Rhaevin,
 
I get the spoons reference, and I daily use too many spoons - and pay for it dearly.  I, too, daily have to do things - because there really isn't a choice for several things in my life.  Some things - yes.  Many things - no.  Life goes on....and I've got to do things.  I've paid big prices for this, though - including being hospitalized for weeks at a time, etc.  But, again, life doesn't stop and, sometimes, you just have to do what you gotta do.
 
I don't have the answers - except I understand.  I'm so sorry you are in so much pain.  Keep venting here.  Take care of yourself the best possible.  And, I'm sorry that we have such big health/pain issues....
 
Thinking of you. --Tina

_Christina
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   Posted 4/29/2011 11:53 AM (GMT -6)   
we need to order more spoons! Where do we get them? because I need some too. I don't have answers, I'm learning the same lesson.
Treatments: gluten-free diet, Cpap
Medications: omeprazole, probiotic caps; multi-vitamin supplement; docusate sodium, fiber chews; zertec, ferrous sulfate, cymbalta, lamotrigine, ambien, alprazolam, plaquinil, sulfasalazine, methotrexate, leucovorin calicium, folic acid, motrin, tramadol, pennsaid, aspercream, nasonex, albuterol sulfate inhaler

momtofourangels
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   Posted 4/29/2011 12:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kristin. I don't have the answers, but i wanted you to know that I'm here to support you. Definitely come here and vent. It helps. I know. I did it a lot the last nine days before I got my patches yesterday. You take care sweetheart and rest today. Hopefully you'll feel better really really soon. Love you my friend.

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Loretta
Dx: osteoarthritis, bursitis in left hip, Osteoarthrits in right hip, compression fracture in thoracic spine due to falling on frozen ground March 2001 , ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, osteoarthritis in spine, osteoarthritis in both knees
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Monty's Mom
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   Posted 4/29/2011 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
I too struggle with too many spoons! I think that women and men even without CP or health issues struggle with this. It all seems to pile up at the worst times too.

I wish I could give advice, but I don't have any to give. What I can give is an ear, a sympathetic and understanding response and remind you that we are all here to listen and help if we can. Try to take some time today to do something totally for you, even just for 5 minutes.

I am praying things get better for you soon, and that you will find new hope from your surgery.

Mindy

straydog
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   Posted 4/29/2011 4:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Its all part of living I guess, we just have to do what we have to do at times. Pay the price later. That seems to be the story of our lives, whether we have some limitations or not. This is something we all face from time to time and all you can do is just deal with it the best you can. If nothing else, think about how much you will enjoy that pool once you have it up and going. I have an in ground pool and I do not have a cover on it. The people behind me have a huge silver leaf maple that sheds the leaves in the fall and puts out the whirley bird pods in the spring and it is a mess. Sometimes I am out there 4-5 a day or more depending on how much fell into the pool. It has to be skimmed off the top. Times like now when my neck and shoulder are giving me lots of problems, skimming with that pole really causes a lot of pain, but what else can I do, I can't ignore it and risk burning a motor up on the pool.

By chance do you have any teenage boys in your neighborhood that would like to earn a little money? I need grass put down behind my pool and I am going to pay a teenager to do this for me. Take care and get some rest.
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Rhaevin
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Date Joined Jan 2011
Total Posts : 230
   Posted 4/30/2011 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you, everyone, for reminding me I'm not alone in this issue at times. Unfortunately while I must adapt myself to my new life, life doesn't adapt to me.
 
The wind was even worse yesterday so we all declared a day off. It gave us all a day of needed rest. I still had to feed my friend's ranch, but I was able to take my Mom with me and as I didn't have to do all the waters it went quickly with her help. We took some time to play with our chicks-to-be; nice to be in out of the wind holding a lil fluffy body that appeared to be happy to be with me.
 
Today the wind seems to be mostly abated, so we will go out and finish the work today. I am still stiff and sore, though not as much. My arm however is still another matter. Once the sand is done then I need to get my T-post back into the ground so I can fix the fence the guy hit with his truck so I can start work to modify the pen to hold our little chickens when they're ready to come home. 
 
Straydog, while you have a fantastic idea, unfortunately because of the neighborhood I'm in there really aren't any teens at all. Infact there are very few kids, and most of them are all about my son's age.
We all do what we must, and pay the price sooner or later. sad
Originally injured 10/26/2007 - Initial diagnosis; Tendonitis
Have seen several specialists; Bone, Muscle, Hand, Neurologist, Chriopractor, Physical Therapist...
Went through a battery of tests, multiple MRI's
11/16/09 finally diagnosed CRPS - Stage 2
Permanently disabled, on Oxycodone and Celexa.
February 2011 successful SCSU trial
May 2011 SCSU implant surgery
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