seems that there are a few horse injuries here. we do love our animals and there is nothing like being on them and nothing more heart breaking then to be told you can not ride again or risk being in a wheel chair.
I my husband was crush by a horse when it stumbled during a workout at the track, throwing him on his head and knocking him out as the horse rolled over on top of him. That was in the mid 70s. In '86 while breaking babies (it is hard to stop getting on them) he is throw in a freak accident. This finally ended him getting on horses.
2 surgeries in '87 & '95 have kept him from a wheel chair but not a day without some pain. Right now it is the head aches that are more debilitating then any of his back pain. We are working with a Pain clinic to see what can be done short of more surgery. They did an occipital injection yesterday. Set for a Botox at the end of the month to try to calm the neck muscles.
We have found over the yrs some supplements that help with controlling the inflammation and offset the effects of taking meds. They can take a toll on your system if you are not careful.
But as anyone in pain knows it is also about
Coping. Days you have less pain and less coping and days with more pain and better coping.
As the wife/friend of the one in pain, it is important for any spouses to get on board with helping to make that persons day as good as it can be. Find those moments when you can enjoy somethings together because there may be days when you will be alone while they are hurting. We learn to be flexible in our plans because they have to be adjusted to work with the pain level for the day.
It is stressing to see the one you love hurt and not always easy for us to put on that happy face but if you talk and keep to lines of communication
open you will make it thru. It is sad when I have seen those in pain abandoned by a mate. Don't get me wrong it is not always sunshine here but I can not imagine life without him or leaving him to deal with this alone. If it was me how would I feel?? If we put our selves in their place we will be able to make it work. We have had long talks about
the toll this has had on me too and I really believe it is what is needed to make the best of a situation that will possible get worse as we get older.
We have learned to laugh at the thought... When I forget where I left him sitting in his wheel chair... Pain and old age are not for the faint of heart...
As I am typing this Jim has gone off to lay down because he didn't have a good night and needs to take a break. I can't imagine being without him though. so to all spouses of chronic pain people... remember why you fell in love.. that person is still there.. count your blessing every day