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Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/2/2011 12:36 PM (GMT -6)   
My Family
 
   I am having the beginning of a breakdown from not being able to get a caregiver lined up by the 8th of June.
 
  I have left multible messages on the phone system of family doc who knew for 2 months that i needed a script
written explaining that i needed a caregiver 5 days a week for 4 hours a day and a stair chairlift...that it is medically necessary as a result of my injured leg.
 
also, my PM doc has known for 1 month and she dictates and then it goes to an outside typing source and then sent back to office where it could be faxed to the lawyer.  Nothing has happened yet.
 
I called my trauma surgeon today...he is in surgery today and off friday and then on monday I have my surgery.
 
I am at my wits end!!!  I dont want to go to a skilled nursing unit so I can get care....it is overkill all i need is someone to get me lunch, meds and company.
 
All I could do is cry when I found out that nothing is happening.
 
Please help
 
Betsey eyes

luckyflowers
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   Posted 6/2/2011 1:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Betsey,

Not sure how all this works so forgive me if my info isn't helpful, but there has to be someone else that you can contact that "works" for these Dr's. that can make this happen for you! I personally would keep calling until you can speak with a person and not just leave a voice msg. If worse comes to worse would you have to go to the nursing unit then request the change after surgery?

Sorry that your having all this added stress right now, sounds like you don't need it at all! Good luck!
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Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 6/2/2011 1:49 PM (GMT -6)   
 
 
         I'm really thinking it will be the responsibility of the Surgeon to make this happen, after the surgery, if he deems it necessary, but of course, I too have no experience with this. Hopefully a member will know more, and can make a suggestion here for you.
 
      Good Luck,
 
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Alcie
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   Posted 6/2/2011 2:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Betsey
I commiserate with you. I needed an auth # for PT for axillary web syndrome for tomorrow and nothing was happening although I talked to the doc Tues & Wed. I finally called secretary this afternoon and got it. Keep calling and leaving messages. I'll bet the hospital can get a visiting nurse to come in the same day as the surgery. The doc does have to order it though.

My sinus surgery is the same day as your surgery. My hubby will drop me at the surg ctr, pick me up afterwards and drop me at home, go back to his office, and come back home about 11PM. (I really don't want him to sit around waiting for 5 or 6 hours since his office is only a mile down the road.) At least I'll be able to walk, I suppose, but nobody in the house. Nobody making noise either, so it's not all bad.

If it wasn't for hospitals and nursing facilities being so noisey I think I'd like to spend a night or two in one so I wouldn't have to find food and pain meds for myself.

I'll think of you next week and not feel alone. Best wishes!
Alcie
 
 

Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/2/2011 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   
I called PM doc again and talked to Ashley about the script or letter. She said that they put a rush in for it and she has it but doc has to sign it, then they can fax it to my lawyer. I called my lawyer again and told her what has transpired and she will be checking the fax machine for it.

I will touch base with the lawyer tomorrow morning to see if fax came thru and if it didnt i will call ashely again.

Nothing is Ever easy! This whole thing cant wait until the day of surgery because it will take a few days for W/C to preauth the caregiver and stair chairlift, and at that speed I will be home by myself.

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

momtofourangels
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   Posted 6/2/2011 6:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Betsey

I'm sorry that you're having to put up with this with the thought of the surgery too. I'm glad that the doctor basically has it in hand and that it will be faxed to your lawyer today. Have you found out if your lawyer has gotten the fax yet? I don't know about w/c because I haven't had to deal with them. I sure hope they get it approved before your surgery. Boy, your doctors sure have dragged their feet on this one. I'll be thinking about you on Monday and praying that the surgery goes well.

love and soft hugs
Loretta
Dx: osteoarthritis, bursitis in left hip, Osteoarthrits in right hip, compression fracture in thoracic spine due to falling on frozen ground March 2001 , ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, osteoarthritis in spine, osteoarthritis in both knees
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Alcie
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   Posted 6/2/2011 7:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Betsey,
I misread your post. Typed faster than brain worked. Your surgery is on Monday (I was thinking Thursday), but you apparently have help until Thursday.

Normally, the surgeon would be planning on writing Rx for care after he does the surgery. That's the usual procedure. That's what I got when I had stomach surgery. Of course that's not going to get a stair lift ready, but an insurance auth # should be ready in minutes, and you would be able to have help by Thursday. W/C could be slower.

I hope you got your point across!
Alcie
 
 

NiNi53
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   Posted 6/2/2011 9:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Betsy, this is just one more example of what we have to go through to get not even what we want but what we must have to keep going.
 
I have said this before and I will continue, I wish no harm to anyone, but if some of these doctors, receptionist, nurses, lawyers and the list goes on, had to walk one day in our shoes, things might be different.
 
Years ago, when I was struggling with trying to maintain my meds, and realized finally I could not work anymore, I happened upon an article in our newspaper (I live in the Washington D.C., area in Maryland) The article was in the Washington Post, it was about a doctor who I believe was a general practioner, whose by his own admission, was very skeptical  about pain management and the treatments for this disease.
 
Then in the blink of an eye his entire life changed, he was in a car accident, his life was never the same.  He then knew what all of us cp patients have known for a long time.  He became a pain management doctor, opened his own practice and began treating his patients with respect, compassion and a whole new level of what it takes, what we have to live with every day.
 
I realize I have ranted on and I am sorry, I said all that just to say, I am so sorry for all you must endure at the same time in constant pain.  Please keep on fighting for what is your rights.
 
Tender hugs to you, I am hoping you will feel better, and will be praying for you during your surgery, and will pray for you after it.  Good luck, I wish I could do more, it makes me so angry at what you have to go thru.
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straydog
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   Posted 6/2/2011 11:22 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Betsey, when I worked it was in the legal field and we handled WC claims. If a client had special need after surgery, the surgeon had to write the letter of medical necessity. The WC insurance would not accept a letter from anyone but the surgeon.

I do hope you can get all of this taken care of before your are going to need help in the home. It would be nice to have one less thing to worry about for sure. Keep us posted on how this progresses along.
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Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/3/2011 4:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone for your support. i certainly need it.
Here it is friday and I will see what this day brings....will my letter from PM doc be faxed to lawyer? Sometime today preadmissions will call me to tell me the time for my surgery on Monday.

My girlfriend with the brain tumor still didnt get her Saturn car back from the garage and it has been 3 weeks. She wants to go with me on monday morning....we might have to pick her up. Thats ok.

Im nervous...I caught myself wringing my hands so I stopped doing that. lol

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

NiNi53
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   Posted 6/3/2011 9:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Betsey, please know that my prayers are with you.  I really hope you get the answers you need before you go for your surgery, its hard enough worrying about the surgery, let along anything else.  I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, please let us know how you are,  I wish I could do more.
 
 
 
degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, neuropathy, lumbar laminectomy july 1998 no help, rechargeable neurostimulator unit low right back w/lead wires to left side and right leg unit not working just sitting there.i am 57 years young in may will turn 58. i have 2 grown daughters, 25 and 29. i have 2 grandchildren, 9 year old grandaughter and 5 yr. old grandson

Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/3/2011 1:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi my dear family.....After multiple calls by me and my lawyer to PM clinic the document was faxed to lawyer and emailed to W/C rep.

Lawyer wants me to talk to trauma surgeon before I leave on tuesday about ordering a nurse in for me. there is a big problem with that statement. Nurse will listen to breathing,take temp, and take BP and check incisions. I still need someone to help me bathe, fix me llunch, and get me water and my meds. No nurse will do that. that is why I need a caregiver. See where Im coming from?

this week truley has been a week from you know where for me. Between SSD exam and the document needing faxed to lawyer and getting a caregiver approved.

I still need to make 2 checkered flags by monday so we have them for the next few weeks at the track.

More stress!!!

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

MsBunky
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   Posted 6/3/2011 7:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Betsey, I wish I could do something that would actually help you, but a hug is all I've got.

{{{{{ Betsey }}}}}

Praying that everything gets worked out for you and that your surgery is a success.

hugs,
Pam
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Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/4/2011 8:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Here it is Saturday-The PM clinic faxed the document to my lawyer at 4:30 pm on Friday and then they emailed to w/c rep at that time also. Nothing like waiting until the last minute!! My w/c rep leaves at 4:30 so everything will wait until monday.

My husband has been very nice and caring to me thank goodness because I couldnt have handled anything else that would have materialized. I think I would have lost it. Its count down time!!!2 more nights and the the day of surgery.

Still worrying, hope the doc is rested enough to do this operation, and i really want to wake up afterwards, and have good pain management. I need to be at hospital by 5:45 am EST monday and operation starts 7:45 and it will be an hour long. I get to stay overnight and leave the nexr day eventhough I will be sleepy I can let nurses know if pain meds work or not.

I know my family will be praying and thinking of me on monday and that will help alleviate my concerns. thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 6/4/2011 8:22 AM (GMT -6)   
 
  You are already on the Prayer list Betsey....hopefully all will work out fine for you.
 
      Have a good weekend, and rest up as best you can!
 
         Take care,
 
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tmjpain
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   Posted 6/4/2011 3:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Praying that all goes well on Monday and that you don't suffer badly. Make sure you pain

is stable before heading home.

Nice chatting with you last night.

Hugs
suzane

momtofourangels
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   Posted 6/4/2011 5:46 PM (GMT -6)   
I'll be praying for you also Betsey. Yes, do make sure that your pain is under control before you leave the hospital. Take care and rest as best you can. I hope you're having a low pain evening.

love and lots of soft hugs
Loretta
Dx: osteoarthritis, bursitis in left hip, Osteoarthrits in right hip, compression fracture in thoracic spine due to falling on frozen ground March 2001 , ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, osteoarthritis in spine, osteoarthritis in both knees
Meds: Fentanyl patch, oxycodone, otc: BenGay, Tylenol Arthritis on occasion

Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/5/2011 8:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Tomorrow is final countdown!!!!!

Things that need done today: Make meatloaf mix and freeze it in foil loaf pan, do 2 loads of wash, go to bank, go to drugstore to get travel size bottle of listerine, pack my overnight bag.

Husband can do the dishes today and put gas in the car.

I have to take my fingernail polish off and wash with an antibacterial soap and really wash my hair real well.

Getting apprehensive again about monday.

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 6/5/2011 9:39 AM (GMT -6)   

 

         .....sounds like you have a plan, and almost ready for the big day!

      ......do you have someone lined up to update us on your condition?

         Have a good day! wink

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Betsey Ross
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   Posted 6/5/2011 2:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Michael

You will have to wait for me to do it. Probably Tuesday sometime because that is when I go home and I will have the laptop. Monday i will sleep alot between the bed which is horrible and the recliner stuffed with pillows at the hospital.

I will let the staff know that the meds dont work or they do. My overnight bag is packed, and I am ready.

Love and lots of hugs

Betsey
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of yibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected legcontinously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/need metal removed in July/wait 6 months for healing/then toatal knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take opana er

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   Posted 6/5/2011 3:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Betsey,
So many Prayers and well wishes for you...just try to work on getting better after
surgery, that'll be the hard part...healing hugz and posts back when you can...
Prayers....
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