Guess what Montysmom, I also agree with all those who have posted before me. I long ago stopped wasting my time on family members who have nothing better to do than judge me. They can all kiss my well you know.
One of these family members is my brother, he and I have never gotten along. He is the youngest of the three of us, my sister (who I love and respect dearly) is the oldest, and then there is me with a raging case of middle child syndrome. As far as my mother is concerned my brother could do no wrong, myself on the other hand, according to my mother, could do no right.
I had to teach myself not to care what either of them thought. Until the day my mother passed away she thought I was a hypocondriac, that there was nothing wrong with my back that some hard work could not cure.
Sorry, I didnt mean to ramble on about me when its you that has the immediate problem. So back to what I said before, they can kiss off. (I dont know if thats allowed or not, if not sorry). I am not sure who said it, but you, your husband to be and your son are your family, they are the only ones whose opinion you should care about, if they dont care about going, dont go. You owe no one else and explanation about why you are not there.
If they truly care about you, they would not want you to make a trip that is going to cause you alot more pain then you already have. For the ones who dont understand that, well what have you lost? Not a thing. Be strong, be honest with yourself, do you really need them in your life? Probably not.
Good luck to you, hope you are having a low pain day, and many days to come. I am also sending you very gentle hugs, your cp family knows what you go thru.
degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, neuropathy, lumbar laminectomy july 1998 no help, rechargeable neurostimulator unit low right back w/lead wires to left side and right leg unit not working just sitting there.i am 57 years young in may will turn 58. i have 2 grown daughters, 25 and 29. i have 2 grandchildren, 9 year old grandaughter and 5 yr. old grandson