I have read through your post here, and you really have sensible thoughts on all of this, and I understand the frustration.
The only thing that stood out to me is that you are thinking to yourself, instead of having a good verbal dialog with him. This Dr is on your time as well, and it should not be wasted, and the questions held over time and time again, ….and hoping that he will somehow satisfy your expectations, are obviously not realistic with this cat.
While I give my Dr the respect he deserves, I will also advocate my own need for understanding, and more importantly, I invite him to prove he has my best interest in mind. I think some of these Dr need a blunt question or two put to them…or a reminder that nothing is really getting done….and you are the one suffering for it. If they are arrogant, then they will never really understand your pain. You should never have to beg! State you're case, and ask them what they plan on doing for you. There comes a time, that you will have to tell him to listen and then just spit it out with a convincing composure. There is no need for tears when you do this….he is going to know your about
fed up!..….just look that sucker square in the eye, and let him know that you put your pants on the same way he does every day. (One leg at a time) Either treat me or stop wasting my time! Period!
Every Dr is different, and we have to remember they see patients that are also different. While a person may not think so…I'm going to suggest that demographics can play a part, in how a Dr may treat a patient. Here about
two years ago, my Dr sent me to a local pain clinic, and as soon as I walked in the door, I knew I was in a very different world. It was obvious that all of the staff had absolutely no respect for their patients. They were extremely rude….even the receptionist were this way.
I think by the time I got back to the room to be seen, I was already hot under the collar, and my suspicions were soon validated by how the PA treated me. I think they must believe that if a patient is hurting that bad they can treat them how they want and get by with it. Well they got a taste of me very quickly! I stormed out, and reported them to my Dr as soon as I got home. My Dr called them, and there was a very heated conversation between him and the PM. To this day, I hear complaints about
this clinic from Dr's and nurses…and several patients.
I suppose I have drifted way off the subject here, and I apologies for it…as this is about
you and not my past experiences's with PM's. However, you are the one suffering here, and I urge you to take ahold of your own destiny when it comes to your care. Of course, it's easy for someone to say you need to change Dr's or PM's….but you will have to weigh your options, ….such as can another one be found quickly? …..who will your insurance allow you to see?…..and so on.
All of this might be avoided with a simple heart to heart visit with your current Dr,….but be prepared to move on if things don't go well. Get your Ducks lined up mentally, and make sure they will quack when you want them to. Boy this all sounds easy!….well reality is,... that it's not always that easy. All I'm saying is... make sure you get your fair share of respect, and if the guy isnt' getting the job done then plan on a move.
Good luck to you, and a sincere "Get-em Tiger!"
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