Im so sorry to hear your dealing with all this. We have similar stories, minus the kidney issues for me.
All my life I suffered from crazy periods that would render me unfuctional, pain, throwing up, ect. By my 20's I started developing ov. cysts. Mine were hemmoragic cysts, so it was important to remove them when they developed, rather than take the wait and see approach. This is also when my endo started. I was put on Depo Prevera, as my ob/gyn felt that might be the best thing to help preserve my organs so I could have children. I do feel like this is what allowed me to have kids since it all together stopped my menstral cycle.
During our trying to concieve years, I spent 3 yrs trying to get pregnant. Once we finally held onto a pregnancy, it was a rough ride. My gyn figured it had to do w/ the damage already done to my organs. Both my children were born premature, but mostly healthy (due to a GREAT team of doctors). Both deliveries were csections and my doc would clean out the endo both times, in addition to the other cyst surgeries inbetween pregnancies.
With a total of 8 abdominal surgeries (almost all full cuts thru my csection scar), i ended up losing most of one ovary inbetween pregnancies.
After having my second child and being done risking fate, we decided we were done. I started having severe pain again after my second child and went back to my gyn. I had 6 cysts on my working ovary and oddly, a few on my non working ovary. My gyn said it was time for a hysterectomy.
Three yrs ago i had my hyster. I was 36yrs old. Pathology showed stage 4 endo along w/ all the cysts, and adenomyosis thru my entire uterus, and endo growing outside my uterus, attaching my stomach to my bowels and other organs.
I ended up having 3 other surgeries after my hyster due to trapped nerve from hyster closure, and then two hernias after surgery. It has been a MESS. Hormone therapy has been horrible. I have developed severe, chronic migraines as a result. I am now working with 2 neurologists and and endocronologist to try to fix this mess.
On a side not, I will not say i regret having the hyster. BUT, i do feel like I have just traded on problem for another.
Where do you live? My gyn's were fantastic, so if you live in the states, Im in Miami, fl. i can give you their info. I wish i had some advice for you, but these types of decisions should not be taken lightly. Please do not rush into a hysterectomy. Find a new doctor and keep looking until you find one who is willing to listen and help. Good luck