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   Posted 10/8/2011 10:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi HW Family.

I just wanted to start a thread, asking how everyone is doing. How are your pain levels? How is life treating you?

I'm doing okay. Not great, just okay. So nervous about becoming a mother, but very excited too. My pain levels have definitely been worse, but I think it's because I'm getting bigger. My lower back is pretty bad, and my backside (TMI, Lol) has been tingling a ton. I'll talk to my doctor about this. Oh, and my feet have been bothering me more.

Besides that, I've been just really resting and taking it easy. I feel a bit overwhelmed because there is so much to do before the baby gets here, but I'm hoping that I will figure out how to get it done:) I haven't bought a thing yet, but will have a baby shower, thank the Lord, so that will help a ton. I think that I often forget to think about all of the blessings that I have in my life.

Planning on going to church tomorrow, and spending time with family.

That's it really for me.

How are you all doing? Would love to hear from you!

Love and hugs,


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   Posted 10/9/2011 2:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Let's move over here :)

First, it's really good to hear from you. I think of you often. My girls just turned one a few days ago.... so I know you most be coming along. I can't believe we survived the whole year, really. Now, they are walking, into EVERYTHING under the sun, have the "twin" language thing, etc. It's very cute.

Your pain complaints, Flower, seems really normal, unfortunately. Think about where baby is putting weight on you (plus your uterus, extra blood, etc). The "tingling" in your back side is probably from a nerve. The feet accumulate more fluid, mostly towards the end of the day - so try to prop them up as much as possible.

When's your due date again? I'm sorry. I know I've asked that 1000 times.

I know in "mommy mode" there is so much we want to get done. But, really, there's so little to REALLY do. I know new mommies want to go and buy all sorts of things - but I promise you - it's really for you and not for baby. All a baby really needs are some diapers/wipes, clothes, blankets, etc. And - most importantly - LOVE. All the rest are "extras". If can do the "extras" - that's great. But most of the time, babies just want to be held by their mom and dad.

Oh, I would add a Bobby cushion as a must-have. I needed it, particularly because I had twins.

It will all come together, I promise. Your job is to do what you are doing....growing that sweet life in you.

I'm really glad to hear from you - as you've crossed my mind many times lately. Please keep us updated.... and know we all care :) Many hugs, Tina

Retired Mom
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   Posted 10/9/2011 6:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Flower,

It's been a while since I logged in, but I wanted to make you post the first one I responded to for a reason. You really are a flower now, with life growing inside and making the world a better place.

I have only one child (long story I won't repeat now), but she is the brightest and the best person in the world (OK, so I'm a typical mom on that one). There is such love between a mother and a child. **I'm sorry fellows.....I don't mean to take away from the father/child bond, but the mother and father have different roles in a child's life...both equally important in my opinion, but diffferent.**

If I'm not mistaken, this will be your first child flower????? If so, then you are in for a big surprise. Momto8 gives so much great advice. I had so little money when my daughter was born that I got almost every one of her clothes second hand and everything for her second hand (except the essentials). I would recommend doing some research on pediatricians in your area to see who is available on your insurance. This may seem insane before the baby is born, but it's a great way to spend some of that pent up energy time when you are too big to do anything else. I was on bed-rest the whole time, but I wasn't really into the computer as much then and we only had a desktop in the den, so it didn't help me as much.

The reason for selecting a Dr for the baby soon is that you never know what you will need after birth. You can go have a meeting with him/her before birth and discuss what their beliefs are on things like antibiotics and shots. I'm a BIG believer in the shots, but I know many who are not. I've seen some people who didn't get them and got the diseases instead, so I'm just biased I guess. You want your baby's Dr to know you too because they can (and will) be a big part of your life for the first year (especially for a first time mother). It's a learning process.

Ok, so on to your thread:

Thinks are OK here. I had a new gyn apt this week and have to be checked for uterine and ovarian cancer with some special tests soon. I think it's just a precaution, but not so grand of an idea :( Also, the RFA FINALLY kicked in and I'm getting "some" limited relief from that. I'm going to wait for the 6-9 months for that to wear off before really testing the SCS unit because I don't honestly believe I could evaluation pain reduction when my nerves are "dead". The dr's don't seem to mind, but I do. I don't want it if it is not going to do its job.

My feet are insane with pain! I have another apt with the Ped Dr this week and we are going to look in to so additional braces. My hands are the same way, so I don't see how we are going to "fix" anything.

My insurance carrier called last week and WANTS me to go to Mayo! I told them I would love to go and that I had tried to get in, but they denied me in FL and I can't get to the other states. They are going to have their medical director call Mayo at the FL campus and see what can be done to get me in. It would be such a blessing to go!

Everything else is still relatively the same, so I won't droll on & on about it. I keep reading about all of you guys, but when my old friend depression starts in, I don't post like I used to. Please forgive me that. It's part of my life now and something I have to deal with.

Have a wonderful week everyone and thank you flower for starting this thread.
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   Posted 10/9/2011 7:28 AM (GMT -6)   

I have lots of baby quotes I like, but I found one recently that I really love....
"No one else will ever know, the STRENGTH of my LOVE for you. After all, you are the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside".

I just really like that one.

Life is so funny; I've been having lots of ultrasounds lately due to conditions relating to the babies' births - and I still look at the u/s and look for "baby A" and "baby B".

Anyhow, Flower - share your worries, fears, pains, whatever here. There are so many of us that would love to help support you through all of this. I mean that. Am I wrong to remember you are having a boy?? Do you have names? Or are you saving them?

Many hugs - and I can't wait for you to meet your little one for the first time. It's a moment in time that there is NOTHING like. Love, Tina

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   Posted 10/9/2011 7:53 AM (GMT -6)   

I wrote a "novel" to you, too. Shoot, sometimes I don't know what happens. The submit button wouldn't let it go through - and now, of course, babies are stirring. But I just wanted you to know we are here; you are thought of frequently - and please keep us posted on all of your tests.

(It was said better the first time! - I'm sorry).

Many hugs, Tina

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   Posted 10/10/2011 8:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Our Dear Flower
I am so glad you posted. We all are happy about your pregnancy and just take care of yourself.

Sending you healing vibes.
crushed lower knee and vertical fx of tibia/external fixator placed/plates and screws and tried to place big pieces of cartiledge under knee cap/tremendous pain in affected leg continously without improving/allergic to metal in left leg/leg isnt straight/ metal removed in July//then total knee replacement/straighten out leg/more phsyxical therapy/take oxycontin,flexeril,cymbalta,vicadin for BT

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   Posted 10/10/2011 8:43 PM (GMT -6)   

I am glad to see you posting! I have been praying for you and thinking of you often. I have two boys of my own, 12 and 13, and children can be life's best blessing. It's like having a piece of your heart walking around outside of you at times.

RetiredMom, nice to see you back too! You both have been missed!

My pain levels are going up with the third ovary growing again and all the wedding activity. Other than the side effects from the Lupron, things are good. It always seems as though when your health stinks, the other things are ok, and when health gets better something else must fall apart to compensate. My husband and I need to begin seriously buckling down on finding a house to buy that is manageable on one income. It is going to be a task. He does not take to change well, and I am not looking forward to packing or moving. As bad as this sounds, a lot of stuff is going to get thrown away rather quickly when its time.

I have missed both you ladies. Its good to see you back! Flower, be kind as you can to your body, and enjoy the moments of movement, kicking, and activity. It goes by quickly. Flower is right, research pediatricians now if you can!


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   Posted 11/6/2011 9:07 AM (GMT -6)   
How are you feeling Flower? how many weeks are you now and what is your due date?
I hope you have not been in too much pain and are able to rest.


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   Posted 11/6/2011 12:38 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi flower
The others are right...babies really don't need that much.

We were dirt poor when we brought my only child home. The nurses packed us up with diapers, wipes, formula some onesisies and lots of blankets. She slept in a lined dresser drawer for a few weeks-lol...she didn't know the diff.

Lots of love and food and swaddling will do the trick.

Hope everything is going well

"We never realize how strong we are, until being strong is the only thing left"
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   Posted 11/7/2011 4:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Hiya Flower,

I can certainly sympathize and as of the current empathize with you. My pain levels have been spiking lately but they are still under control with my current medication regime (albiet under control meaning tolerable, but I guess tolerable is the goal with pain control), so hopefully your pain has atleast some level of control to it....even if its just tolerable. Tolerable just sounds like such a horrid word, does it? It beats excrutiating though and I hope things don't get that bad for you.

I've been trying to stretch more often and use epsom salt hot baths. I've been exercising more, although I think I might have over exercised a bit this weekend. Sometimes we think that were in control and that we can exercise the way we could 10 years ago and it just doesn't work that way (heh, I'm only 31 btw).

Anyways, one minor thing I wasn't too thrilled about, under my new insurance, my medication isn't a 20 dollar co-pay, its 55. Not a big deal, but beings the last 10 days or so have had increased pain, it was like adding salt to a wound, you know. I'm not too worried because these spikes go in cycles for me, so hopefully this is just one of those cycles ;)
MRI revealed disc bulge and test injections revealed RA. Radio Freq procedures helped for months, but pain is up and im having the procedure done again. Currently on 75 mgs of Nucynta (tapentadol - A MOR + NRI) 2 to 3 time per day and Soma 350 as needed.

Post Edited (grainofsalt) : 11/7/2011 2:56:28 AM (GMT-7)

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