2 losses in 24 hours...

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   Posted 10/18/2011 3:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Horrible time right now... It's 2am and I can't sleep even though I'm exhausted...

On Sunday morning, my very dear grandmother passed away... We were very close...
Then on Monday morning (yesterday) my mother-in-law passed away...
Both gone within 24 hours...

they were both battling breast cancer that spread...
I know they are better now, it's just so hard on me and my husband and children....(19 & 14)

How do I help my 14yr old? Her and grandma were SO close.... This is tearing her up...
Thanks for listening.
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   Posted 10/18/2011 4:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Sorry for your losses, that really is a lot to have happen at once. My thoughts are with you.

I would let your daughter know that its normal to feel sad about her Grandma passing away, and that if she ever wants to talk about it that you're there to listen.

All the best, hope that your family finds comfort soon.
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   Posted 10/18/2011 5:05 AM (GMT -6)   

I am so sorry for your losses. Losing someone we love is so hard to begin with, then to lose two people within a day must be devastating.
I just wanted to send my condolences and to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Gentle Hugs,

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   Posted 10/18/2011 9:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry for your losses. I am praying for you and your family.

Gentle hugs,

Betsey Ross
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   Posted 10/18/2011 11:10 AM (GMT -6)   
I am sending my condolaces to you and your family. What you are feeling is normal and just let your family know that you are there for them when they want the support.
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   Posted 10/18/2011 8:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry for your losses Donna. My condolences to you and your family. Just be there the best you can be for your 14 year old. I'll be praying for you and your family.

love and hugs
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   Posted 10/19/2011 6:00 AM (GMT -6)   
Donna, I'm sorry for your losses. My condolences to you and your family.

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   Posted 10/19/2011 8:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Donna, I am so sorry for your losses. I'm not sure how to help your daughter - all people grieve differently. I know lots of people are helped by remembering happy memories of the person who died, and finding ways to commemorate that person in their lives. But I think that comes after the acute grief period, right after the loss most people need time to process and grieve, and there's little that can make that part better.
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   Posted 10/19/2011 9:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Donna, my heart aches for you.  I am so sorry for the losses you have just experienced in your family.  The best thing you can do for your daughter is just let her cry, talk, scream...or whatever she feels the need to do right now.  And everyone is different as to how long that will take.  Maybe it hurts for her to talk about Grandma right now, too...and that's ok. 
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