I want to welcome you to our family here at Healing Well Chronic pain forum. I do understand where you are coming from about taking the pain meds, but like so many other here that have posted, there really is no shame in a having to take them! But like so many men, allot of us was raise with the "grin and bare it and "real men can take the pain!" type of up-bringing! We all know deep down this is "BS" but still it is deeply ingrained in allot of us, and it does tend to make things more difficult! So you are not alone, in your feeling, you have plenty of company here at this forum, that can give you support! If you are getting a pain pump, there are many members here that have them and can be of great assistance to you about the "ins and outs of having one! As Straydog mentioned on her post here, she has had one for many years and I am sure her knowledge about them could be of great value to you!
You know there is allot of myths floating around out there about chronic pain, and all that BS about "real men" can "grin and bare the pain" is nothing but BS. Real men acknowledge there pain and treat and try to get on with their lives! There is no shame in taking pain meds and acknowledging you have pain and are doing something about it! The shame is in the person that is suffering from pain and does not treat it, and thus because of that the person can not be a good father or parent to their children! That is a shame and also a weakness! Isn't it better to have your son see you take your pain meds and take care of your self, and be able to do things with him, than to have him not see you take care of yourself, and you not being there to do things with him? To me that is a " no brainer!"
Again I welcome you to our forum and our CP family
P.S. I would also like to Welcome lahaina and swaye to our forum, I hope all of you will find as I have and so many other, that this forum is simple a fantastic place to come, not only for advice and support, but also just to know your not alone in your suffering! There are just so many kind, and caring and compassionate people here that really do understand what your going through! No false sympathy given here! Just heart felt empathy from some of the bravest and strongest folks that you will find anywhere on the internet! So please stick around and become an active member in our CP family!
Moderator Chronic Pain
After spending nearly 22 1/2 years in the USAF, I retired in Sept, 1991. I then went back to school and became a licensed RN in 1994, and I worked on Oncology and then a Med Surg Unit, I became disabled in late 1999 and was approved SSD in early 2002!-- DDD, With herniated Disk at T-12 and L4-5. C5-C6 ACDF in Sep 2009, C6-C7 ACDF in Mar 1985, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications:Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV I am White Beard with a White Beard!