Some days I feel like a sucker.

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   Posted 11/19/2011 1:19 PM (GMT -6)   
On Thursday my 6 year old son comes home from kindergarten with a note saying that his class was going to have a "game day" for the last hour of school on Friday and inviting parents to come and participate.

Well my kid made it clear how important it was to him that I come to this so I agreed and I went.

For an hour I supervised a group of 4 kids, one of them my son, as the played various games like Candyland, Uno, Memory Match, etc. This required me to either sit on one of those kiddie sized chairs and/or to do a lot of bending, stooping, reaching, etc.

I knew that at least some of this would happen just because of the size of the kids so I was sure to take my pain meds an hour before along with a muscle relaxer in hopes I could make it through Ok.

While it worked and I was only in moderate discomfort for that hour I am really feeling it today. My back and thighs are killing me. I could barely get out of bed today and I might have considered staying there a while longer but I had been in bed longer than usual anyway and things had gotten to the point where laying down was making my back hurt worse than ever.

Some days I really feel like a fool to agree to do these kinds of things knowing that I am going to be worse off for a while but it is so hard to refuse that kid when he makes requests like this. I already feel so guilty having to tell him no so often on so many of the day to day stuff like taking him to the park or getting down on the floor to play with hot wheel cars with him, etc so when things like this come along I tend to really suck it up and go for it.

I also know all to well, that at his current age I am something of a hero figure to him and the look on his face when he seen me at school yesterday does at least make it all break even. When I got there the kids were outside for their last recess of the day and when he walked into the room and seen me his eyes lit up and he came walking over to me as fast as he could (he wouldn't run because that was against school rules and he in almost anal about following them) and gave me a big hug in front of all his friends and then when he had the chance he introduced me with a lot of pride in his eyes to many of his friends.

Was it worth it? Yeah it was and then some.

getting by
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   Posted 11/19/2011 3:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh yes, it is worth it all. You will have many memories to ponder upon. Doing things with the children is priceless. You will receive back ten fold you know. Keep going to the activities as much as you can. You will never regret it. Sure there may be some pain the next day. But seeing your son happy I am sure makes it all better.

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   Posted 11/19/2011 4:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes its worth it, and then some, good job, way to suck it up.  You should be proud, I am sure your son is.
degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, neuropathy, lumbar laminectomy july 1998 no help, rechargeable neurostimulator unit low right back w/lead wires to left side and right leg unit not working just sitting there.i am 57 years young in may will turn 58. i have 2 grown daughters, 25 and 29. i have 2 grandchildren, 9 year old grandaughter and 5 yr. old grandson

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   Posted 11/19/2011 6:38 PM (GMT -6)   
With my youngest of 3 children being 28 now, those wonderful moments you describe are fast becoming distant memories, enjoy each and everyone of them, to the best of your ability. They only come around once.

David in SC
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   Posted 11/19/2011 8:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I sure hope your pain eases up today, you did great...
get that moist heat pad out and get comfy...
Many well wishes and prayers being sent your way...
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   Posted 11/20/2011 11:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Jim, I am so glad that you went, in reality even though your pain is increased somewhat it was well worth it. Those memories last a life time with those little ones. Like you said, the look on his face when he saw you walk in- think about that when you are sitting there hurting, that may help your pain a little who knows.

I attend every function at my grandson's school, I would not miss any of it for the world. He calls me the night before and the morning of the event to make sure granny will be there. I go over once in awhile & volunteer in his class, it gets me out of the house and a good change of scenery.

Yes, those small chairs are a killer, lol.

Take care.
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   Posted 11/21/2011 1:13 AM (GMT -6)   

I admire your love and commitment to your son.... you seem like a very good dad.

My kids are what makes me live and breathe. People ask how I do what I do w/ my health/pain issues.... and it's simple - those kids keep me alive and going.

Take good care, and thanks for sharing.

Pain Issues: DDD; fibromyalgia; migraines; carpal tunnel syndrome; tendonitis
Multiple Health Issues: Disabled due to POTS (heart condition); dysautonomia (dysfunction of the nervous system); hypothyroidism; adrenal insufficiency; chronic hypertension; chronic fatigue; sleep apnea; anemia; Vitamin D deficiency; etc etc
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Personal: Mom to 6 boys and twins girls
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