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Date Joined Dec 2011
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   Posted 12/6/2011 8:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Ive never really been a forum person but since my dramas, my Internet use has exploded to the point that I don't remember where I've become a forum member looking for answers.

Ive come to realise that their is no miracle cure for me and that life I knew is gone, to the point where i wonder what's the point in going on, but that's another thing. If it wasn't for my dog and cats, I wouldn't be here. I just hate life and can't get better as much as I try.

Do any of you guys ever get any relief to the point of nil pain or am I just chasing a dream? I've been to pain management places, done the rehab program's etc, but it's only getting smashed that makes me more more mobile and able to mop a floor. I can't venture outside and participate in life. Drinking booze, popping pills like lollies, getting stoned helps my pain, but not social skills.

Am I just chasing a dream about getting my old life back? I live on painkillers (100mg x 2 of ms-contin per day, 15mg endone 2 x per day, 2 x Lyrica 150mg per day, durogesic 100mg sticky patch, 250mg Effexor per day).

I am a single guy that once had a great life, but these days, I couldn't be bothered going out (being an over weight cripple isn't appealing to women), and generally stay home getting trashed (my pain prevents me from heading out as much as I used to), getting fat because doing any form of exercise is murder, I have to take my dog to "Doggy Day Care" every 2 days, so he doesn't turn vicious as I can't walk him.

Ive come to realise that there is no miracle cure for me and that life I knew is gone, to the point where i wonder what's the point in going on, but that's another thing.

Do most of you guys ever get any relief to the point of nil pain or am I just chasing a dream?

Ive been to pain management places, done the rehab program's, seen the psycho people etc, but it's only getting smashed that makes me more more mobile and able to mop a floor. I don't like getting help from others and do what i have to. I am 2 years post op on spinal fusion that went wrong which is subject now to a medical malpractice law suit.

My last surgeon said to me "mate, you are stuffed and you just have to learn to live with it." I appreciated his honesty, but as I ask, is painfree just a dream?Matter of factor speaking, life isn't really worth living anymore. I'm not looking for pity or help, just stating a fact.

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Date Joined Nov 2011
Total Posts : 615
   Posted 12/6/2011 9:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Robbie...welcome to hw forum...I am so sorry for your reason for being here. I also suffer from Chronic pain, I ha 2 failed back surgeries and also had some complications and now have chronic nerve pain down both my legs. I also had a much different life before this incident. From the 2 back surgeries and nerve damage I was sent to a nuerologist who gave me medication that diseased my colon had to have my colon removed. I had 3 more abdominal surgeries for a total of 7 surgeries in 3yrs.

After 3 yrs. of counceling and pain meds, I still have pain but I can keep it under control. I was off work from 2003-2008 and am now working 3/4 time. It is not easy....I do not have my old life but I do have a life.

That is what you have to concentrate on a different life. I can not walk a city block but with the help of a scooter I can go almost anywhere.

As far as exercise try swimming that is all I able capable in doing and I find this has help get some weight off. i also try and follow a good diet.

Drinking will only make you feel more depressed. So try and put the alcohol away. See about getting some counceling or group therapy.

I am glad you sign on to this forum there are many people like us who deal with chronic pain who are full of advice and helpful ideas. I wish you luck on your journey an I hope you continue posting.

Take care, Amy
Chronic Pain(nerve), fibro, mild depression and a few others

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Date Joined Oct 2009
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   Posted 12/7/2011 9:12 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm with Amy. We women do care about men even if they are disabled. All we ask is that you care about yourself. We do come here to whine, but we don't get to at home. Stuff the doc. Forget pain-free. Just look to be able to walk around the house. When narcotics stop working we have to find something different, and there are options!

You can impress that you care about yourself to us women by getting rid of the booze and losing a little weight. I lost 50 lbs over 5 years by cutting my diet - mainly carbs and fast foods. Is there a possibility of getting a companion-type to come in and just sit or maybe make one nutritious meal, maybe walk the dog once a day, mop the floor for you - that's hard work on your back! An hour of a teenager or senior's time can be a blessing.

I've had only injections in my back so far, got a new completely collapsed disc now, did something bad and need a back brace. Had nose surgery, 2 belly ops, shoulder this year; last year it was stomach, cancer, hand, knee, broken ribs. Lost track. Narcotics don't do anything anymore, so I'm not using them. Allergic to sulfites in wine and beer. Temazepam for sleep stops the muscle spasms until noon, at least it did for 3 days. Diazepam can help with that too. Maybe ask your pain doc about muscle relaxants and stopping opioids.

I like to swim too, but ask the back doc if that's OK. It involves some twisting.

Best wishes, welcome to our family.

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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 12/7/2011 11:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Glad you came to HW. That really is a big step you just made and perhaps a step in the right direction. I am glad you found us but sorry you have so much pain.
For most of us here, life as we knew it is gone. My life as I knew it is gone. Everything has changed. I have lost my dream job, friends have left me and I suffer in silence every day. But I can't change that, so I am working on accepting this is the way it's going to be and trying to move forward. Definitely not an easy job but it must be done if I am going to be happy again.
Take it slowly. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself.
I hope you keep coming back and sharing.

Take care

New Member

Date Joined Dec 2011
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 12/7/2011 4:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I really appreciate the fact that you guys have taken the time to read my post and also to offer some suggestions, your own experiences and kind words. Many thanks!!!

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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 2024
   Posted 12/7/2011 4:30 PM (GMT -6)   
You're very welcome Robbie. You will find out very quickly that the members here are so supportive and non-judgemental. We have a wonderful community here at the Chronic Pain forum.


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Date Joined Apr 2010
Total Posts : 2265
   Posted 12/7/2011 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum Robbie. I'm sorry you have so much pain, but I'm glad you joined us. You can come here and cry, vent or whatever and you're not judged and we truly do care because we know what chronic pain is all about. Take care. I hope you can get a low pain day very soon

Dx: osteoarthritis, bursitis in left hip, Osteoarthrits in right hip, compression fracture in thoracic spine due to falling on frozen ground March 2001 , ddd, spinal stenosis, bone spurs, osteoarthritis in spine, osteoarthritis in both knees
Meds: Fentanyl patch, oxycodone, otc: BenGay, Tylenol Arthritis on occasion

Regular Member

Date Joined Apr 2011
Total Posts : 235
   Posted 12/9/2011 9:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Robbie,glad your here and I agree the drinking is only making your situation worst! has for pain meds ,I have never been 100% pain free ,just alittle more comfortable.I belive you can only do the best you can in this life and if you can not change something must accept it and make the best of it !Set goals and accomplish them!I myself have gained so much weight after my surgery ,Ifeel horrible ,but all Ican do is make aplan and follow thur till Iget back to my normal weight.As for not going out of the house ,Ihave been there too,its much better to get out ,then to shut yourself off from the world!I think going to a counsellor might make you feel better about yourself and that will make it easier for you to change what you can and live a fuller life.
please take care . from Michele
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