I still have just as much pain as before surgery..

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Draka
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   Posted 12/9/2011 5:21 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm just feeling the need to vent...

My neck is still a horrible painful mess.... I am eight months post-op.... I just got Botox last month in hopes it would relieve some of the constant ache/tension... it made my neck worse... I think it weakened the muscles too much..

I am back on my Oxycodone & Celebrex....

I am frustrated... depressed...

I am trying to contact my Neurosurgeon surgeon but it's been two weeks of phone calls... the last thing they needed was my physical therapy notes... (I did two solid months of physical therapy at 5 months post-op) I am in pain still... I have a constant ache... I can't live the rest of my life like this... I have to call them back next Wednesday to figure out what to do with me...

I haven't worked out in over three weeks and my tennis is limited.... the two things I love to do most...

Thanks for listening.... I'm so sad

cry cry cry cry
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sore42long
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   Posted 12/9/2011 8:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Draka,I understand how your feeling and want you to know ,sometimes if surgery doesnot work they have to go back and tweek it!I had a rib removed the end of sept and Istill have abit of pain , my overall surgery went great the problem fixed ,but Istill have lingering pain in a different place and now looking at getting off oxycontin.It takes a long time to heal much longer then I expected ,then getting your body back to normal.Iwas in pain for almost 3yrs Ihad to give up all exercise ,Iwas an exercise freak,I think it will take atleast a year before Iam back to normal,its along road recovery!I'm sorry your sad but don't give up ,I'm thinking its possible your DR.can still do more to fix the problem .Maybe finding something else you can do ,anew hobbie ect will make you not miss tennis so much,you never know you might find something else you like just as much !I do hope the DR has options of what else can be done to make you feel better.Try to not think of being in pain for the rest of your life intill your told by the DR.there are no more options,Till then try to get by the best you can and always have hope! from michele

Draka
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   Posted 12/10/2011 2:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for taking the time to reply....

I come here for encouragement and help but it seems as if my posts don't get responses as before several members here accused me of being someone else... that still hurts and the reason I don't come here as much... kinda ironic as this is the place where you are supposed to get support

I did everything to prove I am who I am.. gave out my email address and FB page.. I've even had moderators come into my posts and remove my siggy without letting me know just because it was one line too long... felt like I was being picked on... in my opinion the moderators on this site do get too carried away... it's my opinion and I can express that..

Thanks again Michele.. I'm glad to hear your surgery (except for your rib removal) was worth it... I hope someday I can say the same.

It's just too hard having so much pain all the time...
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momtofourangels
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   Posted 12/10/2011 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Draka I'm sorry that you're still in so much pain. I wish you well on getting to where your pain is lessened. Take care.

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Loretta
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   Posted 12/10/2011 5:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Draka, so sorry you are still suffering so badly. That must be very discouraging for you.
Do you think they need to do followup xrays or mri? and i was wondering if maybe a muscle relaxant might help you? I hope you have someone at help you at home. Remember to rest as much as you can, be kind to yourself and take it one day at a time. It's all we can do right.

Take care and please do keep posting. We do care.

Suzane

straydog
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   Posted 12/10/2011 5:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Draka, wow, I am so sorry to hear that you are in such a mess after going thru surgery and such. I know you had high expectations about the surgery and what not. But, in all honesty, I know a little more than I wish I did about a lot of the surgeries involving the spine and when I read you went back to playing tennis I almost fell out of my chair. I know it is a passion of yours to go back playing,l and I feel bad that its not working out as you planned, however, I am not surprised. Once surgery is done the area is never the same, it doesn't matter how much hardware they put in there, it is weakened. Even more so shocked your surgeon told you it would be fine to play tennis, that is a very strenuous activity involving the upper extremity.

Maybein time like Michele said, and even consider taking up a new hobby that is better suited to your physical needs. Something that will not be beating your body up.

Interesting comments you made about being accused of being someone else. I have been a member here a very long time and never heard about any of this stuff. I have never seen anything off the wall in your posts.

Everyone has opinions about the mods at HW and some are good and some are bad, lol. But in all honesty if people would take the time and read the rules and just simply abide by them, then there should not be any problems, but most people will not even look at the rules. The mods do not make the rules, the administrator/owner does that, we are here to help keep everyone rowing the boat in the same direction. We volunteer our time on here and like you and everyone else we have medical issues as well. I was asked to consider becoming a mod and did so for one reason only, it is a way to give a little back because I have been given so much here at HW.

I do hope your dr can come up with a plan to get you feeling better, lowering your activities may be a prime key to helping get there. It does not mean sit down in front of a tv either, there are a lot of things you can still do, its finding what may hold your interest. Take care and let us know what your dr has to say.
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Post Edited (straydog) : 12/11/2011 8:40:46 AM (GMT-7)


Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 12/10/2011 6:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Draka!

I know just how you feel with little improvement after corrective surgery! shakehead I have struggled and struggled ever since my fusion, and have tried everything I can think of to get a little relief from the pain. My wife and I have spent a ton of money on OTC supplements as well, hoping one of them might just be the ticket. At the moment the best thing I have found so far is the new puppy we just got from the Humane Society.

Really it does not help the actual pain, but it does help curb depression a bit I think. I don't have a miracle suggestion for you, but don't give up hope…keep searching and seeking help from your Dr's. Does your pain persist while your laying down? Mine lets up and I'm pretty comfortable, while on the med's, but boy!…when I stand up for any length of time, med's or not…it seems I'm right back in the same place I was before the surgery…if not worse.

I'm guessing there are other options for you…maybe different med's? I'm not sure what you had done to your neck, but it may be that you will always have some sort of pain from it. I know it is this way with many patients who have had back surgery. Maybe a SCS might be worth looking at?

Were sorry you are going through this tough time, and hope your Surgeon can find a better solution for you.

Now I would like to address the opinion you have, of the members and the moderators mentioned in your post. First, I see that you posted yesterday afternoon, and our forum seems to typically slow down starting on Fridays, and seems to continue through Monday morning. We see this clearly as we look back on weekend post.

Many of our members are hurting with great pain such as yourself and come seeking support, and it is difficult for them to support others while in that frame of mind….it's kind of a survival mode of sorts. This, plus weekends being slow, may make for what seems like... that members are avoiding you. I have felt this way many times, but later find that the error was really my thinking, and could not be farther from the truth.

We have many, many wonderful members here…so keep trying. I find that I personally get out of the forum what I put into it. Now!…I did look at your history of posting and went back quite a ways on the records….and I found many members very supportive of you. This includes several of our moderators. To be fair…I went through the very same thing as you..in that I too!...was also accused of playing more than one member. The attacks on me were brutal to say the least. However, I did not give up…and cheerfully supported where I could.

In time, all of those negative things that bothered me went away…and trust me!…it takes time. I feel that no matter what I may do…there will be those who... shall I say,... like to stir the negative pot a bit. Generally those people are not happy with themselves and also have a track record of doing the same thing elsewhere in their lives.

This forum is like you say... for support….and for some, the only means of connecting with others who are suffering. After all we are the only ones who really do understand, right? I always say, you get out of it what you put into it. Some come seeking help, and don't even Thank those who have taken the time to help them. Also this forum forum is ever changing…….members come and go as they please……..and we miss many of them greatly. As this cycle happens, we find that the forum may differ quite a bit from what it was,…say,…two years ago! Even the forum rules have been changed in the last couple of weeks…….we need to be open to change.

Now…as far as the Moderators changing your signature…well…that is impossible, as we do not have that ability…and never have. That is only done by the Admin. If there is a rule on how many lines a signature can be….well that is again, set up by the Admin. Some members are quite willing to please and will go out of there way to abide by the rules….and trust me…it makes our jobs a lot easier and we appreciate it.

You are quite right that you can express your opinion, and we encourage that, however we would expect that it be done in a supportive and positive tone, and for that purpose. If you are unhappy with something going on here at the forum, ….you also have the ability to contact the Admin and or anyone of the moderators and discuss your displeasure with them. If it cannot be resolved, then you have every right to seek out a forum best suited for you.

Now, I don't recall seeing any of the post where you were accused of being someone else…and I'm sorry if you went through this…...if it happened a year or so ago…then I would suggest you leave it there. We are here to support as best we can…although it may come a little later than some may think it should. Moderators have their hands full, and we suffer as well….I have taken off the last 55 days or so because of it.

Draka, I'm positive that the current members here on this board will support you as well the moderators….but please keep in mind that moderators do not answer the call to all post, and will tell you most of us do read them all though.

I hope you can let go of some of the past hurts someone on this forum may have caused you,…and continue to enjoy the forum with us.

Also there is now a FB page set up just for CP members, and you are welcome to join it….I'm sure you will fine support and fun there. Give it a try! OK?

Take care,

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Post Edited (Screaming Eagle) : 12/10/2011 5:24:44 PM (GMT-7)


Betsey Ross
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   Posted 12/10/2011 7:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Draka
 
I am sorry that you are suffering.  It will get you depressed when you are in pain.  Maybe your meds need to be tweeked.
 
I am still trying to find another hobby for myself, hopping from one thing to another.Keeps me going.
 
I agree that the area tends to be weakened after surgery.  Physical therapy helps to a point.
 
I will put you on our prayer list at church and every week the congregation will pray for you.
 
Try to stay strong and keep us posted when you can.
 
Betsey

lynn71
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   Posted 12/10/2011 9:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Draka,

I am sorry to hear you are still struggling with your pain. I can relate as I have had cervical fusion about 5 years ago and still have alot of pain. My doc seems to think it is mainly muscular and nerve pain now but as like you I have not found anything that will relieve it enough to live a somewhat normal life. Some days I just break down in tears because the pain is so bad. I also have severe back pain from a few bulging and herniated discs as well as bipolar. I can tell you as a fellow lover of playing tennis that it is highly unlikely that you will be able to play like you used to. I found that yoga really helped me with my pain, but I haven't been able to do that lately because of a shoulder surgery. But maybe you might try it and see if it helps a little.

Keep on your doctor or see a new one and take care of yourself. Good luck.
Tracy
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Draka
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   Posted 12/11/2011 1:21 AM (GMT -6)   
I do thank everyone for responding to me and yes, I do always try to give back as much as I can and things I relate to...

I really need a place of support and since being accused of someone else I was just feeling like people were staying away from me... I felt the need to clarify again.. I am not begging for responses or trying to start trouble...

The post where I was accused was removed... the response I put up with my info was removed.... what can I say.. I am not making it up...

I've been here for a while and feel like some know my story and I know of others... I know the internet is full of fakes and phonies but I am here for help and support, plain and simple...

Screaming Eagle... as far as what I said about the moderator... it too is true and not impossible... someone went into one of my post after the incident and removed my siggy.... I did write to the person who did it and let them know all they needed to do is write to me and let me know... it was another one of the moderators that called me another name... it was Paula if I remember correctly... again, I don't know how to prove who I am but I will join the FB page, my name is Lisa...

From the bottom of my heart I thank you... Tracy, Betsey, Screaming Eagle, Straydog, Suzane, Loretta & Michele... I've been just so blue lately... I would never do it.. but to be honest- I think about ending it all everyday...
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Draka
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   Posted 12/11/2011 1:28 AM (GMT -6)   
I just joined the FB page and made a post...
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Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 12/11/2011 2:36 AM (GMT -6)   
Draka…again,….we are here for support! Feel free to ask for help anytime and we will do our best. As far as what happened in the past…well…it is in the past…and gone now.

I have been here just 3mo shorter than you…and am not aware of any mod…by the name Paula. Also I do know for a fact that Mod's cannot edit a signature if it is in the signature line. Maybe you wrote your signature in the body of the post and a mod came in and edited it….but not when its in the signature line.

Also…I don't know what FB page you joined tonight, but you did not join the page that is for the CP members…as I hold the keys to that. LOL
If you send me your email and or FB name, I will make sure you get into the right place. It's not intended for support, but a place you can share with others your life and so forth.


Draka…I can tell you are hurting…and trust me I know where you are with this…..I'm there each and every day now…..as I suffer badly. It's a horrible place to be….but I ask that you do not loose hope and get back to your DR and or surgeon for some help with the pain. I just happened to wake up here almost 4hrs after my med schedule…and I feel simply awful with pain. Terrible!

I think once you get some of your pain under control…you will see things differently. I'm so sorry, I really am! We hear you..we really do!

Take care…and let us know…how you are doing….and by all means seek some help for your pain. I know it's sad..but you are your best advocate…for getting help with this. I'm doing the same, and at my wits end with it. It can be so hard to deal with….and that is why we have this forum,…we all suffer from CP.

Take care,

SE wink
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Post Edited (Screaming Eagle) : 12/11/2011 1:24:14 AM (GMT-7)


White Beard
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   Posted 12/11/2011 3:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Draka
 
I am really sorry that you are hurting really bad still, I honestly wish  I could say something that would help relieve you of your pain. But remember you really did have a massive amount of surgery done on your cervical spine! I am really kind of surprised that they did  all of that, at one time!  I am sure with all that you had done that it will be a very long time before you get to feeling any where  near to being back to normal, as far as pain goes! I am going to say something that I know is going to be very difficult, but Please, Please, Please try and be patient with yourself, and also gentle with yourself, what you have had done is really major reconstruction of your cervical spine. Hopefully at some point your pain will let up and  you will be able to smile and look back on all this and think it was all worth while having it done. But in all honesty it is still a little early for you and I am sure,  it will take some more time before that happens!
 
Also with what you have had done, what has your doctor and surgeon told you, about how this surgery might affect you, and possibly change what you can or can not do?  I know I have lost allot of movement of my head from my fusions. I have a very difficult time looking up, and also turning my head from side to side. I like looking at the stars and the moon through my telescope, or binoculars, and I have found that now unless the objects I want to view is lower in the sky, I am not able to look at them at least using my binoculars,  as I can not tilt my head back far enough to do that. And when I do try I get intense pain!  I am also limited on what exercises I can do with my arms and upper body, and neck and head.  I guess what I am trying to tell you, is maybe with your surgery that you might have to make some changes, and possibly you might not be able to do everything that you use to. I hope that is not the case, but you have had some major changes done in your spine, and you might have to make changes in your life style to accommodate your changes in your neck????
 
I do wish you well Draka! You do have friends here that do care about you, and want only the best for you!
 
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straydog
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   Posted 12/11/2011 10:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Draka you are correct a signature line can be edited by a mod, I feel sure SE did not realize that, lol. I would always email a person first and let them know they need to edit the sig line before ever doing it on my own, the person needs to be given a chance to fix it the way I see it. I personally have never edited someone's down to the line limit but do know of it happening after someone refused to edit their sig line. They were asked numerous times via email to do so and refused, so it left the mod no choice. I have seen people come to HW with sig lines a half page long and that is just way too much good space being wasted. Most do not know it costs per letter typed here not by the word, so we all just try to help keep the costs down for the owner so he can keep HW open to members and not charge a membership fee. It is little things like that, that most do not realize or know.

I will only say I have followed you along since you came here and was not aware of the problems you speak of and feel bad for you being treated that way. Like I said before, I never saw anything off the wall from you. I am glad that you decided to stay at the forum and not leave. The name of the mod you gave is not or has nor been a mod on the CP forum but perhaps on another forum here at HW.

Take care.
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db14
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   Posted 12/12/2011 12:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello :)

what is the FB group called? I'd very much like to join.
Thanks

sos007
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   Posted 12/12/2011 1:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Draka...I am so sorry that you are suffering so much. I wonder if you seen a pain management doctor? I have found they understand pain more than a gp, I will keep you in my prayers and hope you are feeling more comfortable soon.


Screaming Eagle....I was wondering if you could tell me how we can sign up for the fb page...thanks

Take care, Amy
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bsjaguar
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   Posted 12/12/2011 6:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Before my lumbar fusion I was learning how to golf. I took a lesson to learn how to hold the club, swing and whatever. I never actually golfed yet but was going to the driving range to practice my swing. Well, I ended up having the fusion done during this time and I asked my surgeon about golfing and he said no, I should not golf after this, so I never did get to actually golf even 9 holes.

Like WB, after the cervical fusion, 2 level, I can't look up or down for any extended period of time without pain so I'm not surprised at all that you are having problems. I don't play tennis but from what I've seen it requires alot of head movement and swinging the racket repeatedly can't be a good thing.

Within 2 years after my lumbar fusion I have 2 bulging disc above the fusion level which is normal. After fusion the disc above and below the fusion site over compensate for the fused vertebra and thus can be damaged. I now take it very easy because I do not want these disc to herniate. The last thing I want is another fusion surgery especially in the lumbar region.

Sorry your life has changed but it has and you may need to change accordingly. None of us like what our conditions have done to our lives and our families lives but there's not much we can do to change things so we need to adapt to these changes and go on.

Hope things get better for you!
---Jag---


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   Posted 12/12/2011 12:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Draka,
Your going through a lot and maybe you should put a call into your counselor,
I hope things will ease up for you soon and try the ice and heat packs maybe
a combo of them both right after each other would help...
Wish I had more to offer up for you, but like the other said everyone heals
differently and maybe you've not given yourself enough of that time yet...
Hope you can get a low pain day soon...many well wishes to you...
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Draka
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   Posted 12/13/2011 2:36 PM (GMT -6)   

Once again thank you all for the support....Chartreux, Jag, Amy, Stradog and Whitebeard...

I've again started my Wellbutrin... I went off of it a couple of months ago... I started crying on a daily basis due to the pain... so I'm hoping it will help lift my mood.

I am in pain management and see my regular Dr. every 3-4 months... just now waiting for the staff of my surgeons office to get back to me about seeing him again...

What has happened here in the past is in the past.... just to clarify though... Paula wasn't the admin or moderator it was the name someone here called me... again my name is Lisa

Screaming Eagle... can you please provide me with the FB page.. the one I joined is run under Peter... I would love to get to know all of you better!

Thank you deeply again


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Screaming Eagle
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   Posted 12/13/2011 2:47 PM (GMT -6)   
 
       Draka...click on the email link just under my name...and send me a request. I will see to it, that you are welcomed there. I take care of this in the evenings...and give me some time, as it takes a while to do.
 
      SE wink
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straydog
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   Posted 12/13/2011 5:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Draka I hope the drs and meds will kick in ad give you soem relief. Its miserable when you don't feel well and be in a lot of pain of top of it all. I know that you are a very active person but for now until you are feeling better try to slow down some and smell the coffee as they say, lol. Give yourself some time to regroup. It stinks being in such pain. Take care.
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Gretchen1
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   Posted 12/13/2011 9:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Draka,

I remember well the drama and accusations you were victim to. It was indeed horrendous and I remember you fully planned to depart HW and in fact you were gone and didn't post for quite a long time! I am very glad you have remained. You are a valued member and I enjoy reading what you have to say. You are both willing to post and empathetic with your words.

As a former moderator it is true that signatures can be edited (or you used to be able to). They were quite easily removed if too long. Peter had issues a while back about space being used and needed people to limit their signatures. I am assuming that issue has been remedied since I see very long signatures from members now.

I am so sorry you are in such pain still! How very frustrating!!! I recall you hated taking medication and that was the reason to go with surgery. I hope I'm remembering that correctly. I'm saddened to hear that it's back to the drawing board! Please hang in there and keep trying to find a pain free solution! I am thinking of you.

Robbie67
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   Posted 12/13/2011 11:08 PM (GMT -6)   
I kind of wonder why people bother with signatures. If your a forum member of a chronic back pain forum, I imagine that you aren't looking for a haircut?

I also have days where I think about necking myself. I'm 44 next week, I used to scuba dive, play golf, did some amateur photography where I won medals and had some photos used in magazines, had a corporate lifestyle that generated a six figure income, traveled a lot and lived like there was no tomorrow.

Now, I'm an overweight loser with severe back pain and my life has disappeared. I just try to enjoy each day as it happens. I don't bother planing anything only because Im generally too sore to follow though, lost a lot of friends (guess they weren't real ones) as I'm not as social as I used to be and I'm embarrassed about using a walking stick, so I don't go out anymore. Who wants to date a fat cripple as a boyfriend? I've been on dates and basically been told, "because of your back problems, I dont know that you would be a good father or husband," so, I just stay home and get stoned. Maybe Aussie girls are too hard? Keep your chin up and try to stay positive. Good things happen to good people, eventually!

Draka
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   Posted 12/14/2011 9:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Gretchen... I will always remember you were the one who reached out to me... you were so kind indeed and it's still fully appreciated!

Robbie... signature help to determine and relate to each others specific aches and pains.. this is chronic pain in general..... I've lost two of my dearest friends also and it hurts still like heck... I'm sorry about your back problems... don't call yourself a loser... you are a human being in pain... I hope things get better for you... hang in there!
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