As the old saying goes, you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. You can, however, choose to deal with them or not. Some I no longer choose to deal with....so I don't....period. I don't go to family functions if they are going to be there. I don't talk about them to other family members. I don't try to call and mend fences (anymore). And, I don't find any reason to change for somebody just because they happen to be in the same "family". They don't contribute to my life in a positive way, so I have removed them. It's really much better that way, as nobody gets hurt anymore and nobody feels the need to mediate or take sides.
As far as the people in the stores....who cares what they think! I mean really?????? I have seen some people do some things in stores that I simply could not believe. A few months ago, I even saw some young people in a large chain store posing in front of the fruit section in their immitation clothing (of TV stars)....as if they were making a joke of the poor people who have to shop at such a "low class store". It was just a nationwide chain store, but goodness, how unnecessary was that. Of course, they were making such rude and nasty gestures and the language was completely unacceptable!!! I even came home and told my daughter (12) what I had seen and detailed their attire to her and she found the whole thing distasteful and pathetic.
Don't you see....the people who are in need real assistance are not pathetic, the people who see others in need and do nothing are pathetic. Worse yet are the people who find it in themselves to mimic or make fun of disabled people. We are only human and I know I never thought it could happen to me! In one wrong move, my life was changed forever. Of course, I didn't see the cruelty around me until I was the one needing help. Now I see cruelty and kindness where before I just saw nothing.
All my best Mindy!
TLIF L5-S1/failed, Pituatary disorder w/HGH deficiency, Fibro, Failed Bladder Surgery & Nissen, GERD, OCPD, GAD, MDD, CFS, TMJ, Migraines, HBP, Idiopatic Reactive Hypoglycemia w/Diabetic reaction to HGH, Bi-lateral CTS (surgery related trigger finger), Edema, Tarsal Tunnel Syndrome, Peripheral Neuropathy, Plantar Fascitis, Tibular Tendionitis, Adult Onset Flat Feet, Vision Issues & much more.....